I want to ask him out . . . .

Inviting him out to see "The Princess & The Frog" - Good idea?

  • Good idea to ask him out, but ask him to do something besides a movie.

    Votes: 7 10.3%

  • Good idea, but go see a different movie.

    Votes: 18 26.5%

  • Nah, girl, let HIM ask YOU out . . . .

    Votes: 43 63.2%
  • Total voters
    68
  • Poll closed .
Belle Du Jour said:
How did you end up programming your number into his phone? Was he aware of it? :look:
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A group of us were out at a bar and at one point he left his phone on the table so I picked it up. When he came back and saw me with his phone he was like, "What are you doing?" and he tried to grab it from me. When I told him I was "putting my number if your phone" he stopped :giggle:
 
Glib Gurl said:
A group of us were out at a bar and at one point he left his phone on the table so I picked it up. When he came back and saw me with his phone he was like, "What are you doing?" and he tried to grab it from me. When I told him I was "putting my number if your phone" he stopped :giggle:
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Oh. Okay. :look:
 
Wow, it was a very bold move to grab his phone and put your number in there. Since he has your number and has not called :look: The ball is in his court. If he wants to take you out he will call.

You know we all lurv you GG, but if you ask him out after you did all that to give him your number, it would not be a good look.
 
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Girl, you are a brave one for picking up the man's phone!

I think you've done enough and you should probably fall back now.

I hate to say it, but it has to be said: I don't think that just because he stopped trying to grab it when you said what you were doing that it means anything. He just might have felt like it would be mean and didn't want to hurt your feelings.

I'm saying this as someone who has done the "here, take my number" thing before. :look:
 
Noooooo never ever ever chase a man....EVER:nono: If you take on the masculine role from the beginning, you will have to initiate EVERYthig in the relationship later. Men love the chase, they love to conquer.:grin: You can help things along with a bit of methodical manipulation but you have to make it seem like HE thought of it. VERY important. To this day my hubby thinks that he got me:rolleyes: Little did he know that I had already placed him in the husband potential box before he even asked me out:grin:

men are so easy I tell ya:lachen:

Me: Have you seen the previews for xyz movie?

DH: Oh yeah it looks like it's going to be good...

Me: Yeah, I want to go see it eventually......(plays with hair, looks him in the eyes half smiles, then looks away..."

DH: Well....uhhhhhhh.......what are you doing this weeked....uhhhhh...I mean since we both want to see I I guess we can go together.....:blush:

Me: Oh that would fun! What time do you want to go?

DH: Well what time do you want to go:rolleyes:

Me: I'm down for whatever time...(half smile)

DH: How's 8?

Me: 8 should be good, let me check with my baby sitter:grin:
 
Glib Gurl said:
A group of us were out at a bar and at one point he left his phone on the table so I picked it up. When he came back and saw me with his phone he was like, "What are you doing?" and he tried to grab it from me. When I told him I was "putting my number if your phone" he stopped :giggle:
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Sorry Glib, but don't do stuff like that. :nono:
 
I actually applaud your boldness. You probably through him for a loop,though....I'm sure you got him thinking. If not, oh well, just continue to have fun...don't sweat it.
 
I agree w/ most of the women that nixed the phone thing and the asking him out thing. I wanted to say, based a a few comments I saw, that if a man is really "into" you, you could ask him to go see Lisa Frank: The Movie and it still wouldn't put you in the friend zone. If you are worried about certain things you do moving you from potential SO to buddy, you already know he doesn't like you like that. JMO.
 
Well, believe it or not, I'm not too mad at you about the phone thing only because I can see you're actively working to put yourself out there more. The execution might not have been the best (in my opinion), but I do give you some credit for going out with folks, not being the shy and shrinking violet on the sidelines.

However, now that you've done that, I think you should leave ole' boy alone. I wouldn't ask him out to anything. He should be aware (unless he's stupid dense) that you're interested, so I'd let him take the lead from now on.

And I might leave the phones of other dudes alone for a bit. ;)
 
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Okay, message received - do not touch a man's phone :lachen: Thanks y'all - I'm so glad I have you as sounding boards :yep:
 
Glib Gurl said:
Okay, message received - do not touch a man's phone :lachen: Thanks y'all - I'm so glad I have you as sounding boards :yep:
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it's not that,per se ..and I agree with Bunny,proactivity beats passivity any day...
o..empowered one...
but the phone represents not just a social faux pas..
but more of boundary/privacy issue...

if I am casually interested in a guy initially....
if he did something like that handling my stuff..
without asking me ...it would not bode well..:perplexed at all.

I know you were following the wind of impulse....but
what if he had a sexy text for someone or
was expecting a personal call....
or maybe he had dial p-l-e-a-s-u-r on it :lachen:

he clearly had a reaction...and then let it go
but he caught you doing it .....:nono:
that action of picking up his phone & programming your number
w/out his permission also implied a possesiveness...
that likely, was yet to be earned.

leaving his phone on the table untouched is kind of an act of trust
you don't want to breach that...
believe it or not..not touching it....
sends a another type of powerful message :)

you will get to touch a guy's phone,of course you will!
but the difference is... it will be
implict or established...that it's welcome for you to handle...
 
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I agree w/Kbragg... NEVER chase a guy! Let him do most of the work...especially if you say that he's outgoing/confident. If he's outgoing, and not a "shy guy", I don't think he needs that much "reassurance" from you that you're into him. Trust me, if he's interested he will ask you out one day. ;)

In fact, I think that the GUY (at least in the beginning stages) should be the one scratching HIS head and wondering and asking his boys: "Hmmm...I wonder what movie she would like to see with me?? Would this one be good? Or, would it put ME in the dreaded friend-zone?" See, these are questions HE should be asking himself and/or his boys. Not YOU! :naughty:

But anyway, if I were you I wouldn't ask him out. Maybe you could do the faux asking out where you "suggest" or ask him about a movie coming out and hint that you would like to see it. See what he says or does. That should give you some inclination of whether or not he's into you, or even "available" and single to date you in the first place. But to be asking him out if he hasn't given you any signs that he could be interested is probably not a smart move. :ohwell:

Remember, there are always other fish in the sea! ;)
 
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