kblc06
Well-Known Member
So I met a guy. Been dating about 2 weeks. Haitian, average to slighly above average physical attractivenes, super well connected, ambitious (currently in law school, worked for the Haitian embassy based in the US, 6 figure+ income im addition to investments). Goes out of his way to ensure I'm comfortable and safe. For example, I had been drinking last Friday but was good to drive only lived 5 minutes away. Rather than let me drive, he drove to where I was, drove me home, got an uber and went to pick my car up and drive it to me. He even sent a car to pick me up on our first date, despite me living literally 2 minutes away from the restaurant. He's put gas in my car, brought me groceries, wanted to tend to me when I got sick (I didn't want him over so I made up an excuse). He's even told his friends and family about me.
So what's the problem? He is absolutely f#$×ing annoying to me. I don't like the sound of his voice, he's not the greatest kisser, he's super needy and calls and text all through the day. He wants to spend every evening together as soon as I get off work from home. It's just overbearing. I feel like most women would love this type of attention, but i can't stand it and I've been acting so mean towards him but he doesn't deserve it. BUT this is the only way I know how to be. Do I have attachment or commitment issues. I want to grow to like him, but i don't see that happening. I've lost some amazing catches by being so b*tchy that they feel disheartened and lose interest. ...even though they always come back . I have know idea why #kanyeshrug. I do this even when I'm extremely interested in them as well. They end up thinking I'm playing games even though I'm not. I feel like I'm not wired for human compatibility even though I want it very much
Bad part about is when they pull away, I start actually wanting them. I've flaked on him 3 times in a row now and he's called me out on it. Maybe I just feel as though he's moving too fast...or maybe I'm really not interested in him.
To put things in context, I have a bad habit of "finding" things wrong with a guy until I've completely put myself off of them.
So what's the problem? He is absolutely f#$×ing annoying to me. I don't like the sound of his voice, he's not the greatest kisser, he's super needy and calls and text all through the day. He wants to spend every evening together as soon as I get off work from home. It's just overbearing. I feel like most women would love this type of attention, but i can't stand it and I've been acting so mean towards him but he doesn't deserve it. BUT this is the only way I know how to be. Do I have attachment or commitment issues. I want to grow to like him, but i don't see that happening. I've lost some amazing catches by being so b*tchy that they feel disheartened and lose interest. ...even though they always come back . I have know idea why #kanyeshrug. I do this even when I'm extremely interested in them as well. They end up thinking I'm playing games even though I'm not. I feel like I'm not wired for human compatibility even though I want it very much
Bad part about is when they pull away, I start actually wanting them. I've flaked on him 3 times in a row now and he's called me out on it. Maybe I just feel as though he's moving too fast...or maybe I'm really not interested in him.
To put things in context, I have a bad habit of "finding" things wrong with a guy until I've completely put myself off of them.