I Need Help Y'all

[kblc06]

@kblc06
Any updates?

*deep sigh* after falling back a bit, he came back full force once he though I had had enough space. We had sort of an argument after it informed him I was not ready to have sex with him....little did he know, I meant like....never . I straight up told him I'm not in the place for a relationship. He stated that those notions had long since evaporated. He then still preceded to get handsy with me and started trying to show me porn on his damn phone with his favorite positions. I straight up ignored him and told him he had to leave- emphasising that we are now "friends" and nothing was happening between us. He asked him I would see him before I left for my cruise (which I'm still on) and I said sure .....haven't seen or talked to him since nor do I plan to

 

[hopeful]

Good! That's the end of that then!

 

[luckiestdestiny]

This is a problem, tho, just in general.

This is what I thought. This is an ongoing issue. That means there are things to work on within the self because it doesn't matter the guy if you keep tearing them down one by one.

Also I might add from what you mention you're only into guys when they pull away from you. That means the only guy for you is a guy who rejects you, thus you'll be super interested in him. I'm thinking it's time for some soul searching. This isn't about this guy, this is about your reaction to, and relationship with every guy.

With that said, this is not the guy for you anyways with his no good kissing, smothering ways ....yeah just throw that fish back.

 

[kblc06]

He called...again. I got a new phone and lost my contacts including his . I answered not realizing who it was and he asked if I were back in town and if we could meet up. I was like, "I'll let you know once I've settled in" #blocked

 

[kblc06]

Okay yall. I'm OFFICIALLY PISSED OFF! So as many of you know, I'm an Airbnb host and probably the only one in my condo complex. It's a really awesome gated community next to everything and I've been killing it. So this fool calls (from a different number mind you (his personal # is from Cali and this was a FL). He was like "oh last time I called you said, we could perhaps meet up but you never returned my call" . I'm like yeah, I was sleep, blah blah LEAVE ME THE **** ALONE. I keep it cordial though. He recently got his real estate license and tells me how he's thinking of buying a property in MY COMPLEX for Airbnb. THE F*** YOU MEAN. It's one thing for you to act like an annoying housefly, but it's an entirely different matter to intrude on my BUSINESS . He asked what I was doing and if we could meet up. NO *****. I informed him that I was meeting a friend for brunch (which isn't exactly a lie- he's Bahamian and has an IT consulting business ). I'm like hot right now. Am I in the wrong here, somebody tell me I'm wrong. I'm mad enough to fight this negro right now

 

[sj10460]

 

[hopeful]

Wow what a pest! He's like a leech. That's why right away I could tell he was trouble. He has bad boundaries which is why it's so easy for him to pester you and now even consider purchasing a property in your building. You said he was moving too fast from the start. Even though it may seem like the guy is really into you, it's really a sign that he's really into getting what he wants and having his needs met. I would cut all contact with him and KIM. You can't control if he purchases a property in your building so you have to let that go. If he realizes he has no chance with you, I think he will disappear. He actually sounds like a scary guy to me.

 

[caribeandiva]

Okay yall. I'm OFFICIALLY PISSED OFF! So as many of you know, I'm an Airbnb host and probably the only one in my condo complex. It's a really awesome gated community next to everything and I've been killing it. So this fool calls (from a different number mind you (his personal # is from Cali and this was a FL). He was like "oh last time I called you said, we could perhaps meet up but you never returned my call" . I'm like yeah, I was sleep, blah blah LEAVE ME THE **** ALONE. I keep it cordial though. He recently got his real estate license and tells me how he's thinking of buying a property in MY COMPLEX for Airbnb. THE F*** YOU MEAN. It's one thing for you to act like an annoying housefly, but it's an entirely different matter to intrude on my BUSINESS . He asked what I was doing and if we could meet up. NO *****. I informed him that I was meeting a friend for brunch (which isn't exactly a lie- he's Bahamian and has an IT consulting business ). I'm like hot right now. Am I in the wrong here, somebody tell me I'm wrong. I'm mad enough to fight this negro right now

I know I'm late but any updates? This dude is scary! I agree with everyone in this thread.

 

[shortycocoa]

OP, what the ucfk????? This guy is BEYOND bad news. Please be careful. Now would be a good time to go to the police with your concerns. A man like him (from what you have been telling us) ends up being very dangerous, but it's very hard to see and want to believe that, especially since he also has all these seemingly good qualities and attributes.

Listen to your gut, protect yourself, cut all ties with him, and change your number. I'm not sure what the next step needs to be if the police don't take you seriously, but maybe some of the other ladies who are better-versed in the area of law enforcement can advise.

Please do not go anywhere with him, or be alone with him, especially out of the country.

If you have some male friends or family members you trust, ask them to look in on you for your safety.

Did you give him your regular phone number or a google voice number? If you have a landline, definitely change that as well. If your gated community is monitored by 24-hour security let them know what is going on as well. Unfortunately, like someone else mentioned, you can't do anything about him buying property in your building, but maybe you have enough grounds now to file a restraining order against him.

Him getting violent might be the next step, especially since he is not getting his way with you.

 

[shortycocoa]

@hopeful do you mind sharing the name of the book you mentioned earlier, as well as the author?

 

[hopeful]

@hopeful do you mind sharing the name of the book you mentioned earlier, as well as the author?

How To Spot A Dangerous Man before you get involved by Sandra L. Brown.

 

[kblc06]

I know I'm late but any updates? This dude is scary! I agree with everyone in this thread.

Still stalking my profile online lol. Fortunately he hasn't call

 

[GeorginaSparks]

sounds annoying and dangerous tbh. ive dated several guys like this....one always wanted to get a booth at restaurants and sit on the same side as me. then would watch me eat after he was done. him just breathing angered me. he had to go.
You need to let him know if he doesn't stop contacting you that you will report him to the police for stalking and harassment. Might not work but...goodluck.

 

[curlicarib]

This is me. I was lucky to find someone that could live with me. We're not together anymore and I don't think I'll ever find anyone else that gets me the way he did, but I'm not giving up. You shouldn't either.

Is your mother an only child? I am and I'm also an Aries. I came into the world super independent and I'very always been comfortable in my solitutde. But I do get lonely.. He's a type that needs someone to need him. And I've been getting better at being vulnerable to allow myself to depend on him or anyone I'm dating. I'm mental and I know this lol. I want to need someone only on my terms, otherwise leave me alone . I can be very selfish with my time and personal space which is a problem. Coupled with some residual trust issues stemming from childhood and being extremely all or nothing, I tend to come across as outwardly warm, but very cold on an interpersonal level. I may just need to find a good therapist .