kapriss_des_iles
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It happened to me ....I need advices
Hi ladies,
I really need some help and advices because Im in a sticky situation and I really don't know what to do...But first of all please don't throw stones at me ...cause I feel so so sad for all that stuff.
And secondly, Im not an english speaker so my grammar could be incorrect by times..
So all begin 3 years ago, I was single and I had a new colleague really nice and friendly in my office.
We first had professional relationship but after some months I felt that he was interested so I try to be receptive to his seduction tries. We started to go out together (without sex..just talk, have dinner...) But this was until he said something like : "my wife spend a lot of time calling her friend"...I was like : "MY WIFE", he got a wife....
…he also confessed that he had a child..
So I immediatly told him that we should stop being together it’s not right….And I also told him that he should have told me ….After that he gave me the lyrics : my wife doesn’t love me and she doesn’t want me to touch her it without explanations…blab la bla…Im sorry but for the first time after 2 years I feel good and it’s thanks to you …blab la bla.
So I asked him to try to talk to her to understand why she is acting like this.
I also tried to avoid him as much as possible…But after some days he came back to me saying that he told his wife that he was interested by someone else but that he wants to fix things with her…and she answered : “ok actually Im really happy for you because every night I pray and ask god to find you someone else that could make you happy “ ….I was doudbtful at first but I must confess that he was very persuasive : he left home and took an apartement, he told everybody that he was separated …So I gave in…I accepted to date with him…
Some weeks later we went to the cinema together…and we met her….. she stared at me with a wicked smile and said nothing.. So I told him r that If his wife is trying to go back to you im out bybye cause there is no way I could fight with her and I left the cinema …the next morning I got a call from her : she told me that I really have to stay with him because he will be unhappy and that with time she had no feelings for him anymore and wanted a divorce…..yes she told me those words !!!
So we continue to date in public..at the office we were like a real couple...they both call a lawyer for the divorce….. But one year passed and no paper was signed…He told me that he need time because of his child….so I said ok….His wife also at that time seemed to be in a hurry to get divorce (regarding the way she acted not because he told me so)…..
But some days ago his wife called him on the phone and confessed that during all that time , longtime before he met me she had a secret lover and that’s why she didn’t want him to touch her…And that she realized that that guy was bad… she said she was really sorry that she had cheated and that she finally understood that he was the man of her life and that she still loved him.
Last week she told me that she is sorry but she really wants to become his wife again ….. she started talking about god (for the first time)and said that I can’t stay and destroy her marriage…..
I swear that if she had told me that words when we first met I would have run away ……but now it’s so unbelievable after all the things she said, after all the things she allowed us to do she wants me to leave because HER SECRET LOVER LEFT HER !!!!!!!!
He doesn’t want to go back to his wife now he told so in front of his wife and in front of me…but now she is trying to change his mind using their daughter (5 years old)….What do you think ? Should I leave ?
Hi ladies,
I really need some help and advices because Im in a sticky situation and I really don't know what to do...But first of all please don't throw stones at me ...cause I feel so so sad for all that stuff.
And secondly, Im not an english speaker so my grammar could be incorrect by times..
So all begin 3 years ago, I was single and I had a new colleague really nice and friendly in my office.
We first had professional relationship but after some months I felt that he was interested so I try to be receptive to his seduction tries. We started to go out together (without sex..just talk, have dinner...) But this was until he said something like : "my wife spend a lot of time calling her friend"...I was like : "MY WIFE", he got a wife....
…he also confessed that he had a child..So I immediatly told him that we should stop being together it’s not right….And I also told him that he should have told me ….After that he gave me the lyrics : my wife doesn’t love me and she doesn’t want me to touch her it without explanations…blab la bla…Im sorry but for the first time after 2 years I feel good and it’s thanks to you …blab la bla.
So I asked him to try to talk to her to understand why she is acting like this.
I also tried to avoid him as much as possible…But after some days he came back to me saying that he told his wife that he was interested by someone else but that he wants to fix things with her…and she answered : “ok actually Im really happy for you because every night I pray and ask god to find you someone else that could make you happy “ ….I was doudbtful at first but I must confess that he was very persuasive : he left home and took an apartement, he told everybody that he was separated …So I gave in…I accepted to date with him…
Some weeks later we went to the cinema together…and we met her….. she stared at me with a wicked smile and said nothing.. So I told him r that If his wife is trying to go back to you im out bybye cause there is no way I could fight with her and I left the cinema …the next morning I got a call from her : she told me that I really have to stay with him because he will be unhappy and that with time she had no feelings for him anymore and wanted a divorce…..yes she told me those words !!!
So we continue to date in public..at the office we were like a real couple...they both call a lawyer for the divorce….. But one year passed and no paper was signed…He told me that he need time because of his child….so I said ok….His wife also at that time seemed to be in a hurry to get divorce (regarding the way she acted not because he told me so)…..
But some days ago his wife called him on the phone and confessed that during all that time , longtime before he met me she had a secret lover and that’s why she didn’t want him to touch her…And that she realized that that guy was bad… she said she was really sorry that she had cheated and that she finally understood that he was the man of her life and that she still loved him.
Last week she told me that she is sorry but she really wants to become his wife again ….. she started talking about god (for the first time)and said that I can’t stay and destroy her marriage…..
I swear that if she had told me that words when we first met I would have run away ……but now it’s so unbelievable after all the things she said, after all the things she allowed us to do she wants me to leave because HER SECRET LOVER LEFT HER !!!!!!!!
He doesn’t want to go back to his wife now he told so in front of his wife and in front of me…but now she is trying to change his mind using their daughter (5 years old)….What do you think ? Should I leave ?
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