I Come Into Town Periodically For Business Let's Meet (married Man)

[vevster]

How would you respond to this? This is just an old classmate, not anyone you were close to.

Am I crazy for feeling I don't want to go there?

 

[Theresamonet]

You definitely shouldn’t go there.

 

[fluffyforever]

No reason to keep a married man you barely know occupied during his business trip because he’s lonely or bored.

I would only do it if we were close and there will be a group of us meeting, not just me and him.

 

[Iwanthealthyhair67]

say , 'no thanks'

 

[vevster]

How you ladies are responding is exactly what I thought! My cousin is arguing with me about this. I'm like ---FOR WHAT?! Meet him FOR WHAT???!!!!

 

[ladysaraii]

I think it depends on the relationship. I had an old classmate come to town a few months ago on business. We met up for dinner to catch up. I hadn't seen him for a few years. But I know his wife, we're all in the same friend group. Plus he was on TDY and I'm now a broke college student soo... i went without guilt and knew his wife would be fine.

But that's a more familiar situation, in another I'd probably say no

 

[Black Ambrosia]

I don’t see a one time meetup as a big deal. I consider it catching up or networking. But if you’re not feeling it then don’t go.

 

[Enyo]

Nope. Got roped into that once.

 

[Miss_C]

He’s fishing to see if you’re down to meet up...personally. Married men do this a lot when they don’t want to say anything direct but want to see how you’ll react.

 

[vevster]

He’s fishing to see if you’re down to meet up...personally. Married men do this a lot when they don’t want to say anything direct but want to see how you’ll react.

I haven’t responded. Yeah, I think you are right.

 

[awhyley]

How you ladies are responding is exactly what I thought! My cousin is arguing with me about this. I'm like ---FOR WHAT?! Meet him FOR WHAT???!!!!

What was she arguing? She knows the get down. That invite sounds like it needs a decline.

 

[vevster]

What was she arguing? She knows the get down. That invite sounds like it needs a decline.

She says she doesn’t assume every guy that wants to get together with her wants to get in her pants. I told her she is naive.

 

[MizAvalon]

I definitely wouldn’t go.

We can do a quick catch up over email or messenger. I don’t actually need to meet you in person.

 

[vevster]

I definitely wouldn’t go.

We can do a quick catch up over email or messenger. I don’t actually need to meet you in person.

That is exactly how I feel. Not necessary.

 

[hopeful]

She says she doesn’t assume every guy that wants to get together with her wants to get in her pants. I told her she is naive.

Even if she feels that way there’s no need for her to argue with you. She can do whatever she feels comfortable with and you do the same.

 

[biznesswmn]

@vevster You have been posting about a lot of attention from the menfolk lately! New perfume?

 

[vevster]

@vevster You have been posting about a lot of attention from the menfolk lately! New perfume?

I guess....... I have blond highlights so I guess blondes have more fun!

 

[PeaceFlow]

I definitely wouldn’t go.

We can do a quick catch up over email or messenger. I don’t actually need to meet you in person.

I'd be suspicious about IM also If we were not great friends or anything what do we need to chat about. Does your wife know we are IM'ing?

Of course for a good old friend that has never caused me any issues I wouldn't mind.

 

[vevster]

Update: After not responding to his request to meet, he has been looking at my profile. Bingo! I was right. What is the obsession with me? Go look at your wife's profile.

 

[Black Ambrosia]

Update: After not responding to his request to meet, he has been looking at my profile. Bingo! I was right. What is the obsession with me? Go look at your wife's profile.

Do you think this about everyone who looks at your profile?

 

[biznesswmn]

Update: After not responding to his request to meet, he has been looking at my profile. Bingo! I was right. What is the obsession with me? Go look at your wife's profile.

You’re making yourself more intriguing by being elusive. Maybe better to tell him ‘no’ out right so he isn’t wondering if there’s still a chance at a meeting

 

[vevster]

Do you think this about everyone who looks at your profile?

No, I do not.

 

[vevster]

You’re making yourself more intriguing by being elusive. Maybe better to tell him ‘no’ out right so he isn’t wondering if there’s still a chance at a meeting

Nope. I’m keeping silent. He will go away.

 

[PhonyBaloney500]

Update: After not responding to his request to meet, he has been looking at my profile. Bingo! I was right. What is the obsession with me? Go look at your wife's profile.

At what profile? LinkedIN? You can't tell from FB right?

 

[vevster]

At what profile? LinkedIN? You can't tell from FB right?

Yes, Linked In.

 

[Everything Zen]

Nope. I’m keeping silent. He will go away.

He’s messing with you- If he was about something his intentions would be clear. Tell him to go directly to hell and die.

 

[Evolving78]

He’s messing with you- If he was about something his intentions would be clear. Tell him to go directly to hell and die.

He just might like that reaction. I would keep quiet too. He will go away when he sees nobody is paying him any attention. I did exactly what you advised to a person and it seems like they chased me down even more! Lbvs.

 

[vevster]

He’s messing with you- If he was about something his intentions would be clear. Tell him to go directly to hell and die.

He is married. Nothing to be about.

 

[vevster]

Now his little friend has requested to connect with me on LinkedIn. He never bothered before. I think I’ve been discussed.

 

[Black Ambrosia]

Now his little friend has requested to connect with me on LinkedIn. He never bothered before. I think I’ve been discussed.

You went to school with the friend too? Definitely sounds like you've come up.

It could be that they've talked about you for a "business opportunity." Not that you'd be open to that but it could be something other than a married man looking to cheat.