How much should he pay for the ring??

[moonglowdiva]

I think I'd just be greatful to get any type of ring. I've never been married and I have never been engaged. It doesn't matter to me.

 

[princessnad]

I am sorry but a ring does not determine whether or not your husband can take care of you. When it was time to pick out rings, I asked him what my price range was. He told me that you can't put a price on love. I could of been greedy and went for a astronomical priced ring but I didn't. My ring is 2 carats and very unique and I constanly get compliments on it. Not to mention that I know woman who walk around with plain bands on their fingers but have his and her escalades, and live in a $600k house.

I'm glad you have a beautiful ring. Doesn't it feel good that your hubby truly believes that you can't put a price on love? I am sure he would have sacrificed within reason if it would have made you happy. To me, that's a wonderful quality. To me, that is a quality that more black women should look for that in their men.


To the bolded: Totally not the point. I was talking about the general tone in this thread that if you want a nice ring means that you are basically asking your FH to go into debt... which should not be the case!
If he really finds it impossible to save two months salary (not because he chooses not to spend it on a ring, but because his financial situation is as such that he really can't hold on to 2 months worth of money) then IMHO that situation should be tended to before marriage. Kind of like the situation below.


To the red: I noted in my original post that if you don't care for the ring, why not just wear a band? I guess she went for that option which I totally support.

I thought about this thread when I was watching Suze Orman a couple of Saturdays ago. A young man called into the "Can I Afford It" segment. He wanted to buy his fiance a $5000 dollar engagement ring. He had just shy of $5000 in monthly take home pay. He had $50 in savings and he already had credit card debt. He barely got the words out of his mouth before Suze denied him. It's hard to imagine someone would consider this given the economy, but I think the idea of going into debt for a ring is more the exception than the rule.

 

[lp318lp]

My fiance and I are the only ones paying for our nuptials. We decided to keep costs low, and that includes the cost of our rings. He wants to give me a big, clear ring, but I think that's what most FH want for their love.

We decided on $80-$100 rings for both. We are going with just bands.

Now, would I like a conflict-free, big diamond? Of course. Who wouldn't want that?

Are we willing to get into debt for that? Never.

me~

 

[bamachic08]

how bout my EX gave me a ring...uh huh..and guess where he purchased it from???????












the pawn shop!!! how did I find out? I saw the yellow ticket. The gotdayum pawn shop..... oh a sista was pissed....i literally shoved it up his nostril...to this day, his left one is crooked....

i have to go pee.....that made my day.

 

[ang3lface816]

Ridiculous and materialistic. The price of the ring is not an indicator of how someone feels for you. It's not uncommon for men who have plenty of money to spend plenty of money. Personally, I don't care what a ring costs. What matters to me is the person who gives it to me, and their commitment to me. As long as it didn't come off his ex-gf hand, I could careless. Get your mind right ladies...

 

[NYLegalNewbie]

Whatever he can afford to show me that he wants me to be his wife. If that means a little bitty ring because he's still making his way up, so be it

 

[movado32k1]

I always thought the rule of thumb was a month's income. Therefore it is proportional to what his income is. Personally I think whomever you marry will know you well enough to pick out what is appropriate so therefore you really don't have to worry about it. Oh if only I could find a man I would want a ring from!!!

 

[Theo]

I honestly have no real developed thoughts on this. I just want a nice ring, I had no idea it was this deep convoluted issue.

 

[Kurlee]

I honestly have no real developed thoughts on this. I just want a nice ring, I had no idea it was this deep convoluted issue.

totally agree

 

[MrsHdrLe]

I don't buy into the two month's salary thing either (but I wouldn't balk if he were able to also). My honey took me to pick out my ring and we shopped all day. I finally chose the one I liked and he whipped out an envelop full of cash. I was never prouder of him. I'm so happy that he/we didn't go into debt for the ring and we're planning a very simple wedding 'cause the honeymoon is gonna be "off the chain" (Maldives Baby!) (we're taking an extended vacay since I'm off for two months and he's self employed.)

 

[Mortons]

I honestly don't care how much my ring costs. Its really trivial to me I want a man made diamond so it will be a lot less expensive than a real one.

 

[Bunny77]

I don't have a set amount in mind.

I would just like to see that he did put a reasonable amount of money into it based on his salary and station in life and didn't deliberately go "el cheapo" on me.

At the same time, I don't demand some fat rock and an expensive setting either.

If I was marrying young, then a smaller, less expensive ring would be just fine. We could upgrade later if I was so inclined. Since I'll be marrying a more established man, I expect more... but I don't expect him to have to sell a kidney to get money for the ring.

But don't go cheap on me when you don't go cheap on other stuff.

 

[TayMac]

I don't have a set amount in mind.

I would just like to see that he did put a reasonable amount of money into it based on his salary and station in life and didn't deliberately go "el cheapo" on me.

At the same time, I don't demand some fat rock and an expensive setting either.

If I was marrying young, then a smaller, less expensive ring would be just fine. We could upgrade later if I was so inclined. Since I'll be marrying a more established man, I expect more... but I don't expect him to have to sell a kidney to get money for the ring.

But don't go cheap on me when you don't go cheap on other stuff.

Bingo!......

 

[snillohsss]

When I got married... it didn't matter to me how much my ring cost. It literally was the least of my concerns.

I think dh paid less than $1000 for my engagement ring when we got married. It was a small inferior stone. I didn't care. I wore it proudly. He bought me what he could afford at the time.

Now I am walking around with an upgrade worth in the high 5 figures. I wasn't one who was holding out for an established baller type man. Instead, I wanted a husband who had dreams and was making moves.

It paid off. Have faith in your man ladies, have faith in your man....