I don't think that she's self-hating at all (please don't take it there with me, b/c I never said that). A few weeks ago, I started a thread asking if there were any ladies on here that preferred not to date Black men, and I've never attacked anyone for their preferences.
And to add, I've always found ALL types of men attractive, not just Black men, so I have no problem with women admitting that they aren't attracted to certain things. However, I do wonder if for SOME women, there are other things going on. That's all
. But truthfully, if I were a stone thrower, I would throw the same stones at the women who ONLY like dark-skinned men that I would at women that ONLY like light-skinned men as I would at those who ONLY like non-Black men. B/c truthfully, shutting ANYONE out for physical reasons (whether for color, height, weight, etc.) could be "attacked." I know what I like, and I say to others, if you know what you like "do you?" I like Latino men just as much as Black men, and I've also dated all kinds of guys. I just wonder if it's a physical thing, b/c if you like a certain "look," you can find that in our race, since Black people come in all shades/colors (unlike other races). That's why I was curious if it was just a color thing or a personality thing
(i.e. you could find a "white or Latino looking Black male, like Wentworth Miller (white looking Black guy) or Will Lemay (Latino looking Black guy)!