Have you dated someone who had a thing for black women?

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Inspired by the "Chubby Chaser" thread. Ever dated someone who either had a fetish for african american women or was a different race yet only dated black women for X Y Z reasons?

I haven't, but I did have one person who was trying to date me for a few months and would talk about how he only dated black women and go on and on about how white women played games etc. :grin: :rolleyes:
 
I don't like men like that. Date me for me, not to be your chocolate fantasy.
It's especially bad when they down women of their own race. That's like them hating on themselves.
 
Yea, sure. Some of those guys will use you for their own purposes...I found out rather early this guy-a district manager was up on discrimination charges so I guess I was his token.."See..I do like black people..look at my woman." Stupid male burro.
 
I have.
I dated a Japanese guy before my current bf who was all into West Coast gangsta rap and wanted me to be the same. He was like "dance like Beyonce" one night at dinner--and I knew it wasn't a joke--he was dead serious.
I simply never replied to his emails or answered his calls again and I think he got the picture.

My current bf had 3 Black gf before me, and a few Japanese ones as well. I don't think he's dating me now just because he likes Black girls, but he sometimes makes comments about Black people and culture that pisses me off. I think he's just learning what is ok to joke about and what is never cool to joke about, which is really hard for him since he hasn't had that much experience with Black people.

But he is learning, which is good.

As for Japanese women--he loves them, but he says he just prefers Black women more.
 
A white ex only dated Asians and blacks. He started out dating white girls but his preference changed to Asians and blacks now he's married to an Asian. My Filipino ex only dated blacks because he grew up in a predominantly black area and is now married to a black. My bf now (Asian) has dated black white and Asian.

I can't say I only dated people with a thing for black people just because they were black. They had a preference but I didn't feel it was a fetish type thing. I did meet this one Asian dude that was a "blackist" as my friend called him because he was so fascinated by and loved black people and black American culture in particular.
 
It was the first guy I dated back when I was a freshman in college. He was Jewish, with sandy blonde hair and aqua blue eyes, 6'2'' and had a hockey player built. He told me when he was 5 his doctor was a black women and developed a crush on her and that's what started it all.

Oh btw he turned out to be a crazy weirdo.
 
Ewww...to me this is just as bad as a black man that will only date white women because of his twisted ideas about B/W.
 
yeah i wrote about mine that chubby chaser thread this guy would say that he found white women sexually unattractive and that lily white skin makes him nauseous (sp) i was like huh????( i wonder if he thought that would make me jump with joy) i talked to him for a while before going on the date and he would go on about my brown skin he looked like he wanted to lick my face on th edate (maybe he thought i would actually taste like chocolate) it was too much so i had to ask him the question, if i wasnt black would you still be interested in me, he said no..i wasnt comfortable with that so i told him to go.

eta he was white ...but he sure tanned a lot
 
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MilitantIvy_1908 said:
It was the first guy I dated back when I was a freshman in college. He was Jewish, with sandy blonde hair and aqua blue eyes, 6'2'' and had a hockey player built. He told me when he was 5 his doctor was a black women and developed a crush on her and that's what started it all.

Oh btw he turned out to be a crazy weirdo.
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i thought that was cute till i saw the weirdo part :lachen:
 
Dunno if this counts but my ex was always like, "I don't usually find black women attractive, but..." then he'd list some ethnic feature about me he found attractive.

Never again. :laugh:
 
I had one guy I dated that only dated me because he wanted to get back at his racist parents. He told me this AFTER I had dropped him and made him cry.
I guess he thought that was revenge :rolleyes:

Other than that the some of the guys I have dated have had a preference but not a fetish. Which is fine. I have a preference too.
 
No. Not dated. I've spoken to one who seemed to. He only dated BW because he thought we were sweeter, more caring, and more moral, and also for more "shallow, physical reasons" (his words). *I* think it was because a BW was his first girlfriend and he liked that and stuck with the trend. He had come from rural UK where he never even interacted with black people, and ended up in a London university with mainly minorities. Somehow he bagged the hottest black girl in the school that all the guys were chasing. I think maybe that went to his head a little. Something about him rubbed me the wrong way. He seemed to have some stereotypes and generalisations in his head. Not necessarily negative ones, but generalisations just the same. E.g. he asked me if I wanted "a different kind of relationship" with a WM than I had had with BM. :rolleyes: It seems the BW he had dated in the past had filled his head with nonsense about BM being no good. I kindly told him that I'd never had a bad relationship with a BM, and if I were to date a WM, it wouldn't be because i thought he would automatically treat me better. He would just be a man I liked that happened to be white.

Another guy, who is my friend now, was interested in me, and once when we were talking about how racial differences affected our interaction, told me that he "liked the fact that I was black because it was exotic to him." He was intelligent and honest enough to question himself whether it was a fetish of some kind, and he didn't think it was, but also thought if it was, it wasn't some dark dirty thing, but just an added attraction. We are both very introspective and very open with each other, so I didn't hold it against him.
 
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MilitantIvy_1908 said:
It was the first guy I dated back when I was a freshman in college. He was Jewish, with sandy blonde hair and aqua blue eyes, 6'2'' and had a hockey player built. He told me when he was 5 his doctor was a black women and developed a crush on her and that's what started it all.

Oh btw he turned out to be a crazy weirdo.
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:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
My ex is white and Colombian and he only dates black women, he says he's dated white women in the past, but prefers black women.
 
yokoyokogirl said:
I have.
I dated a Japanese guy before my current bf who was all into West Coast gangsta rap and wanted me to be the same. He was like "dance like Beyonce" one night at dinner--and I knew it wasn't a joke--he was dead serious.
I simply never replied to his emails or answered his calls again and I think he got the picture.

My current bf had 3 Black gf before me, and a few Japanese ones as well. I don't think he's dating me now just because he likes Black girls, but he sometimes makes comments about Black people and culture that pisses me off. I think he's just learning what is ok to joke about and what is never cool to joke about, which is really hard for him since he hasn't had that much experience with Black people.

But he is learning, which is good.

As for Japanese women--he loves them, but he says he just prefers Black women more.
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That is interesting. I am the first Black woman that my SO has dated. I don't think his initial preference were Black women due to his surroundings and exposure. However, he fell in love with one (me) and now I am always hearing him say "Once you go Black you never go back".
 
you can pretty much tell whos doing it for what

Im very dark and Ive had the "others" tell me specifically what they wanna do to me:blush: because of my complexion


So no im good
 
When I was trying out the online dating sites, I had in my profile not to hit me up talking about "I've always wanted to be with a Black woman".

I have no interest in being your little experiment.

And don't let me be on a Black dating and get some mess like this, I really lose it.
 
It's a long story, but here's the jist of it:

This guy and me ended up doing a movie project together for our professional responsibility class, and I was at his place watching a lawyer movie. Well, I tried to watch the movie, but he kept stopping it to talk.

-Apparently, he only dates black girls.
-He said that he doesn't know how to talk to a white girl, and he's white. (I told him he doesn't know how to talk to a black girl, either).
-He made some comment about black girls looking at him like "Thomas Freaking Jefferson" as to my not being interested in him. I guess he thought it was because he's white.
-He's from the most "inner city Blackville," (borrowing a line from KKKim of the Real World) but not really. He's originally from New Mexico, so basically he was like a Mexican kid until 13 and now he's like a black person, only white. I guess that's the way he adapts to his environment. *shrug*
 
blkbeauty said:
That is interesting. I am the first Black woman that my SO has dated. I don't think his initial preference were Black women due to his surroundings and exposure. However, he fell in love with one (me) and now I am always hearing him say "Once you go Black you never go back".
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In what contexts does he say this? Is he joking, or is he serious? How do you feel when you hear him say this?

I'm aaaaalll up in your business...! :look:
 
MissJ said:
It's a long story, but here's the jist of it:

This guy and me ended up doing a movie project together for our professional responsibility class, and I was at his place watching a lawyer movie. Well, I tried to watch the movie, but he kept stopping it to talk.

-Apparently, he only dates black girls.
-He said that he doesn't know how to talk to a white girl, and he's white. (I told him he doesn't know how to talk to a black girl, either).
-He made some comment about black girls looking at him like "Thomas Freaking Jefferson" as to my not being interested in him. I guess he thought it was because he's white.
-He's from the most "inner city Blackville," (borrowing a line from KKKim of the Real World) but not really. He's originally from New Mexico, so basically he was like a Mexican kid until 13 and now he's like a black person, only white. I guess that's the way he adapts to his environment. *shrug*
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Uuuhhhh... I guess the thought that he came on strong with some strange comments and random info never occurred to him, huh? ;)
 
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