Grown Man Yet Lives with Roommates
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Transformer
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I'm not sure of the age demographics of this board. But just wondering how many 25-30 year olds can afford .....say $2000.00 mortgage payment plus utilities, maybe a car payment AND still eat.
Ladies, I think some of you are just too hard. There are 50 year old men that are pressed to pay a mortgage not just men in your age range. I think Bunny is right, unless they are over the age of 35, no eyebrows should be raised. I've also met PLENTY of divorcees(over 35)--the type that do PAY CHILD SUPPORT, that can only make the mortgage payment if they have a roommate.
What I'm hearing in a composite of threads are women expecting young men to have their own place, debt free, able to afford at least a $10,000 engagement ring, pay for a dream wedding, vacations twice a year, save 20 percent of his income, and enable the lifestyle of a SAHW. And this expected of someone that has probably only been in his job/career on average 3 years.
Ladies, I think some of you are just too hard. There are 50 year old men that are pressed to pay a mortgage not just men in your age range. I think Bunny is right, unless they are over the age of 35, no eyebrows should be raised. I've also met PLENTY of divorcees(over 35)--the type that do PAY CHILD SUPPORT, that can only make the mortgage payment if they have a roommate.
What I'm hearing in a composite of threads are women expecting young men to have their own place, debt free, able to afford at least a $10,000 engagement ring, pay for a dream wedding, vacations twice a year, save 20 percent of his income, and enable the lifestyle of a SAHW. And this expected of someone that has probably only been in his job/career on average 3 years.
YaniraNaturally
WL-HL???
Ebonybee you betta preach!
I hope that everyone on this thread who said that he needs to have his own place has their own place as well
I hope that everyone on this thread who said that he needs to have his own place has their own place as well
DirtyJerzeyGirly
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Lol I have a guy roommate now. So much better than having a female one. I am about to get my associates and then on to my bachelors. Since I have a roommate to help save me money I'm not gonna look over a man that does.
There are soooo many other important things to look over (multiple children/mommas, drug abuse, domestic abuse, etc.) than to worry about a man having a roommate.
DirtyJerzeyGirly
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=ThickHair;11054844]OK, so he doesn't need a roommate? Cool, but some folks NEED a roommate, that is when my comment is applicable
ur funny...
but'r oh...nahhhh..i can't do it. just like i can't dat a guy who drives a PT Cruiser....I JUST CAN'T DO IT!!!!!
Lol. Would you rather him take the bus?
DirtyJerzeyGirly
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Ebonybee you betta preach!
I hope that everyone on this thread who said that he needs to have his own place has their own place as well
Two bottles of Aussie Moist Condish they don't
I don't do PT Cruisers nor Cooper Mini's.
but'r oh...nahhhh..i can't do it. just like i can't dat a guy who drives a PT Cruiser....I JUST CAN'T DO IT!!!!!
I do, and that is why it is one of my standards. Not necessarily homeownership, but I expect him to have his own place sans roomate. I don't ask for more than what I have. If they have more, then it is all gravy. Also I am 38 yo, so I expect more from men my age.
I hope that everyone on this thread who said that he needs to have his own place has their own place as well
Transformer
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Age should change your requirements. I certainly wouldn't date a 50 year old that didn't meet "certain" standards. But I want to meet these 25 year old males that can afford "everything." I might change my mind and become a cougar.
It's just that I hear some stuff that around here that appears posted by delusional people....that are still single. I think maybe the demographics is only young women from privileged households and they are looking for someone that can keep them in the lifestyle their parents provided for them--great if you can get it. But with so many Black young men coming from single income households, there aren't that many trust fund babies.
So you can have a good job, educated, spiritual, family oriented, but if you have a roommate it's a deal breaker.
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FlowerHair
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I don't see a huge problem with it. Men don't place as much weight on living alone and decorating a house etc as we do.
On the other hand it says something about his financial situation that I might not like...depending on the situation, of course.
Time will naturally move a man along towards living on his own or with a woman. When all his friends have married etc, he will probably make a move too.
On the other hand it says something about his financial situation that I might not like...depending on the situation, of course.
Time will naturally move a man along towards living on his own or with a woman. When all his friends have married etc, he will probably make a move too.
no hyundias or civics for me when i was dating..imtoo tall for a civic anyway lmaoo--im Mrs. such and such now so im good..lolol..sorry had to participate in the car choices
OP not sure what age range we are dealing with...so my views r from someone knocking on the doors of 30 yrs old...but when i as 21 or 25...i expected dude to have what i have at bare minimum...if he had more kewl..in the end do what works for you...
i just get the visual of you two having a romantic night in his room and his roomies goin hard on the PS3 in the living room...smdh..i cant
ditto on the bolded
OP not sure what age range we are dealing with...so my views r from someone knocking on the doors of 30 yrs old...but when i as 21 or 25...i expected dude to have what i have at bare minimum...if he had more kewl..in the end do what works for you...
i just get the visual of you two having a romantic night in his room and his roomies goin hard on the PS3 in the living room...smdh..i cant
ditto on the bolded
Livingmylifetothefullest
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The woman that I was eavesdropping on is 28 y/o but from the men that I've seen her with, she sticks with men around her age and slightly older. Late 20s to early 30s.
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Ediese
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My ex had a roommate. He's such a hustler. lol I met him when he was 34. I think his rent was about $500 (he had a hookup with the leasing manager). He let his friend stay with him, and the guy paid $650 a month.
He was able to save a good amount of money, and finally decided to purchase a home.
So, in reference to your question, I think it would really depend on the guy's situation.
He was able to save a good amount of money, and finally decided to purchase a home.
So, in reference to your question, I think it would really depend on the guy's situation.
BayAreaDream
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I wouldn't do it again. The current BF is 37 and lives with 3 sometimes 4 male roomies in one big house. They call it the animal house. I cant stand the place because it's dirty and all sorts of folks are in and out of there and it seems like a lame excuse not to grow up. None of them save and all of them have GF's. I stopped going over there 2 years ago and needless to say that's the biggest problem with our relationship is his commitment to that place. He moved in last year after he helped me purchase a place and spent the first 3 nights literally still there. So he moved back a month later. So no. The next guy I date needs to have his own. I hated having room mates but I did it to save. I did what I needed to do in a year and bounced.
CrissieD
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I am over 25 and I have a roomate. I own a 3 br condo and rent out one of the bedrooms. I would hope no one would think that I am un dateable because I have found a way to make some supplemental income. My SO has done the same thing w/ his condo. He is 26 and his mortgage is just about paid off. Anyone who wouldn't date a guy in his 20's because he has a roomie is nutso IMO.
Latomian
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A roommate situation doesn't always mean he can't afford to live alone. For instance, living at home helped me pay off 90% of my debts in a year. As everyone has said, it depends on the situation but I'm not going to rule him out just b/c he doesn't have a house or his own place. Esp. in this economy.
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