Princess4real
Well-Known Member
We're going in circles. Who came up with the term "golddigger"?? It wasn't women. And I'm willing to be it wasn't even WEALTHY men - because wealthy men have no problem paying for attractive company.
Its the men who don't have much (on the grand scale) and are mad because they're realizing that their ugly friends who have money are getting more action from beautiful women. Truly wealthy men don't complain about paying for the company of an attractive woman because they understand that it's an unsigned contract. And women don't mind being "kept" because again, it's an unsigned contract. You've got two willing individuals who are CLEAR about what they bring to the table and are ok with what the other person has to offer.
When golddigging goes wrong is when the agreement isn't explicit.
- Either dude is paying up and isn't getting what he wants.
- Dude is getting what he wants but the female isn't getting the cash (or gifts) that she had hoped for.
What's the difference between a golddigger and a girl with a sugar daddy?? The ONLY difference is that the sugar daddy is OK with being exactly that - a means to an end.
And no, we don't stereotypically get screwed. You pulled the few none cases and tried to make them the norm. What about Kanye's girl, Alexis?? She was with him when he had nothing - and promised her the world then. He's got the world now, and he's holding true to his promise. What about Nas and Kelis (no, Kelis was not balling out of control when they met - half the world hadn't heard of her)? What about Will and Jada (same thing)? Or Samuel and his wife? Denzel and his wife?
The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Put what you want out there and then LET HIM determine whether or not you're worth it.
I don't think there's nothing else to say after this.I don't know bout y'all, but I'm worth it!!!