Yeah, I had some knucklehead try and pull this mess with me back in the day. He felt our relationship had "transcended" the needs of the flesh and wanted to just be friends while keeping me tethered to his throne. Right?
I said, Cool...and went on about my life. One night he tried to touch me and I had to FIRMLY remind him about the transcendental nature of our relationship. So he cussed me out and stormed out of my apartment.
A few days later he called me while I was out of town and left several messages apologizing for his behavior (this was before cellphones and instant messaging), but each subsequent message became less and less remorseful until he just ended up demanding I stop acting like a "B" and call him back NOW!
I returned home, listened to this ten minute tirade, laughing my butt off. I changed my greeting (big mistake, but I was thinking), he figured out I was home, left hostile messages while I was in the shower...and worked his way over to my apartment in a fit of rage. Coincidentally, we met up in the parking lot where he proceeded to threaten me, cuss me out and stab one of the tires on my car.
As he strutted away, proud of his little rampage, I got behind the wheel of the car and aimed it straight at him. Now, I'm no psycho, but those tires were $100 a pop! So I stepped on that gas and plowed that car right at his smug arse.
Not since then I have ever seen a black man fly through the sky like Superman. Just desserts for a man who once had told me to put an S on my chest and get over it.
For the record I did not hit him with the car. He was too quick and agile for that. I got my point across and he never bothered me again.
So, yeah, not a big fan of abstinence after the fact. It drives some men currazzzy!