You are working that gif this weekend!
Basically. For as long as I am a girlfriend, the man will get only a friend. Surely, you don't expect your friend to come clean up after you? To me, a girlfriend is just that: A girl who is a friend. As the #1 friend in his life (his "boys" do not come before me), I am supportive, cheerful, and fun to be around. I accept his devotion and lavish him with compliments as positive reinforcement. Being seen with me makes him look good and he rises in the esteem of others through association with me. My treatment of him, the deliciousness of my food on the occasions he may find some leftovers in my fridge, the spotlessness of my apartment when I allow him over, the way I handle my younger siblings, and my overall demeanor all tell him that I would make a fine wife. He respects my values and dignity, both of which prevent me from being his bedroom freak, maid, or chef before we have embarked on a life together ordained by God. He auditions for me, showing me that he is an excellent provider and protector, and will only get better with age, so that I may consider ceding over my health and almost a year per child to producing his offspring. It is not natural for women to audition and preen for men. Even animals know that.
Tell it, sho nuff and GOOD NIGHT.
All of my boyfriends have known to clean up before I arrive. The one time a fellow let me come over to see his dirty tub, I fetched him a sponge and all purpose cleaner from his cupboard. He apologized and proceed to clean. When he was done cleaning, I came to inspect, pointed out a few areas he missed, then took a shower when he had done a good job. I ended up dumping that guy because he kept trying me with shenanigans he had played with his ex. Now, he has a new gf who he runs ragged, but he still knows to straighten up and have my red wine ready on the rare occasion I come over (we are friends now).
I know what you mean. I'm not married yet but my parents share household duties. At times my dad will do more than my mom so I know to keep it moving with any fool who pulls that ish with me.
I wish I could fit this onto a tee shirt and pass them out to people.
Bert speaks volumes without me having to step on e-toesYou are working that gif this weekend!
Obama agrees.
Especially cooking. Good thing most of the guys I've been involved with have loved cooking! I'm glad I attract these types of men because I have no interest in cooking and would strongly prefer the man to cook My father does most (90%) of the cleaning...so I kind of expect that too 
But I'm willing to clean once in a while In the early stages, I still date. When the guy makes it clear he wants me to himself and has behaved well, I am monogamous. But my monogamy is different from most people's monogamy, because while I may be physically faithful, I consider myself single until married, so I am still looking and taking mental notes of prospects the entire time. The guys I am with know this too and either step up their game accordingly or fall by the wayside.
I have been engaged twice (with a third unofficial engagement) and proposed to a few times. I am a bit of a runaway bride and until recently, I simply could not really see myself committing to any one man for the rest of my life. I also found the thought of children terrifying until recently. I think I am ready to settle down now though.
That's me girl. Almost every man I've dated loved cooking.Oh, as for the OP...yeaaaaaa, I won't be doing that often anyway. Not because I'm the girlfriend and not the wife...but because I just won't be doing that often
I take it very, very seriously. This is more than business; this is my entire life I am potentially planning in dating a man. Especially because I am religious and from a very strictly religious, orthodox family, marriage is forever (with few exceptions). Forever. I can't take planning forever lightly at all. My approach is not for everyone though.
Not Ja'quon! Why we gon let go of Ja'quon?
I agree with you, Nappystorm. A lot has to do with mindset too. When I was looking for me who would commit to me, when I knew full well I didn't plan to commit to anyone, players-in-sheeps' clothing were popping out at me left and right. I was mad about it too, even though I was a player myself. Now that I am ready to get serious, it seems all I am meeting are serious men. Women are not supposed to want to play the field, so a lot of us are in denial about just not yet being ready to be with one person for the rest of our lives. I think when we are ready, most of us will align our steps accordingly and find our way.
Men are foolish. Like for real. I told a guy similarly once, and he was so mad. Like unless you're talking about marrying me, don't think I'm going to slavishly devote myself to you in hopes that you'll do the right thing. I've seen too many women waste their time, emotions, and energy waiting on a man. Bump that. I'm always watching, observing, and keeping notes, so that if my ship starts sinking, I have another to jump onto...
and a healthy future marriage
