Friend says her DH won't go Downtown

[p31woman]

My DH said her DH is gay...

 

[WAVES4DAYS]

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[momi]

I put my vote in for DL ... she needs to secretly get a urine sample.

Going to see BB Mountain? Come on now.

 

[ChasingBliss]

If he doesn't want to do it, he doesn't want to do it!

I just came back in here to lmao at this post again

 

[Lylddlebit]

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[CaribbeanQueen]

I understand your post but wearing condoms while married means its a sad day. Seriously, whats the point of being married if you need to worry about disease. The implication is that hes cheating. This whole thing just makes me jaded.

Thanks again!

IMO there is nothing wrong with using condoms while married IF is a mutual agreement (eg. they dont want to have kids) BUT for one person to insist means that there is some kind of trust issues going on.

And the whole 'Brokeback mountain' thing is suspect... I suggested that DH and I rent that movie once when we were in Blockbuster and he was like 'I dont want to watch no battyman film'

 

[Poohbear]

I guess her husband is thinking: "Forget going Downtown... I'm going 'behind the scenes' inside the Theater..."

 

[~VicTorIAn~]

Thanks again!

IMO there is nothing wrong with using condoms while married IF is a mutual agreement (eg. they dont want to have kids) BUT for one person to insist means that there is some kind of trust issues going on.

And the whole 'Brokeback mountain' thing is suspect... I suggested that DH and I rent that movie once when we were in Blockbuster and he was like 'I dont want to watch no battyman film'

 

[kismettt]

i would say he is cheating. not sure if i would say w/ a man or a woman.

 

[GodMadeMePretty]

I didn't read the whole thread, but um . . . If she stinks like he said, I wouldn't want to put myself raw inside either. He might be thinking SHE has something. Maybe something in her diet that makes it smell off to him?

I've never seen Brokeback Mountain but I wouldn't read anything into his going to see the movie with his boy. Maybe they wanted to see it like everybody else and he thought he could share that with his wife. Surely if he was DL, he wouldn't share that he was going to see that particular movie with his wife - wouldn't that be outting his DL'ness?

 

[ella_belle]

BTW, when Brokeback Mountain was out, he went to see it with "his boy."

Oh so you're worried they both might be...cowboys?

Getting together to watch gay porn - fine, incredibly suspect. Oscar winning, very popular film dealing with homosexuality in the 1960s and 70s? I mean, seriously.

I suppose men should start getting seriously worried if their wives start renting 'Bridges of Madison County'.

 

[MoniintheMiddle]

Oh so you're worried they both might be...cowboys?

Getting together to watch gay porn - fine, incredibly suspect. Oscar winning, very popular film dealing with homosexuality in the 1960s and 70s? I mean, seriously.

I suppose men should start getting seriously worried if their wives start renting 'Bridges of Madison County'.

YOu make a good point Elle_Belle. Everyone's experiences are different. I think the fact that he went to see this movie with his boy coupled with her interactions or lack thereof with her DH did raise the question for me. But you are right...

 

[Kimberly]

my exdh and I used condoms all the time while we were married when we were trying not to have babies...I suck at remembering to take the pill...and then I got on depo provera...

I don't understand marrying a man that doesn't indulge...and enjoys it. Shoot, that's how I'm woken up most mornings... She needs to decide how important it is to her. Surely he has some other positive attributes. And, unless she just loves going down on him, why doesn't she stop? and stop initiating sex...see how long they go without it. My exdh and I would go weeks and months. His sex drive was just not on the same level as mine.

My FH asked me why I rarely initiate sex and I told him it was because he rarely gave me a chance to. I think she should wait and, when he wants it, he'll let her know.

Good luck to your friend in her marriage.

 

[Zaynab]

Maybe you should elaborate on the bolded, you might help this chick's friend and other women out there who need help getting their husband's to take the subway.





I couldn't help but quote this one again to say, . daaaaayum.


as far as the orginal question goes, this person knows her man and she obviously knows something is wrong - she can wallow in denial or she can take action. It's her choice.

LOL@ the six months late response......

Well it's just that if he's not going down on her, then why is she on him, hell stop having sex with him, she needs to take control of the situation to make HIM PLEASE her instead of vice versa. If someone wants to have sex and be pleased, then they need to please. She needs to shut the punnay down and the head.