Freaks in the bedroom...

yokoyokogirl

yokoyokogirl

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We all know the old saying about men wanting a freak in the bedroom and a lady in the street, but is this true? I know that men sometimes want to do the craziest, nastiest porn type stuff and then after wards do they really look at you the same way? I have girlfriends who say this is how they "keep their man", but I can't help but think if you get all freaky like a porn star, does your man love it and then still love you in the morn? **I'm not talking about one night stands here, I'm talking about serious relationships..**:perplexed
 
I don't think that any woman should DO anything she is uncomfortable doing just for the sake of keeping her man! :spinning:

Again, this may be different for a married couple.....but for most people just dating...Some people (male and female) are curious to try new things, but you do not have to fulfill any or every fantasy that you partner has.
 
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CurliDiva said:
I don't think that any woman should DO anything she is uncomfortable doing just for the sake of keeping her man! :spinning:

Again, this may be different for a married couple.....but as people just dating...Some people (male and female) are curious to try new things, because you do not have to fulfill any or every fantasy that you partner has.
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Exactly. I think women should do what they feel and how they feel it. Trying to react scenes from a porn star to impress is IMO fake and I can't see how in the longterm that can be valuable to a man emotionally. Physically - maybe!

Sex and being sexy should come natural. Two very independent things that do mix well together when it's original. It should be very intimate despite if its spicy or traditional.
 
Let me rephrase my question...I don't mean all of nastiness but just the wildness of it? I think that's a big reason why men watch porn to begin with...but is it better to be less adventurous in bed, or better to be more--in ways of making men happy??
 
Well at this point in my life it's mostly about me. I believe in our situation he's more laid back and I'm the one wanting to try new things (he blames this board for that).
 
yokoyokogirl said:
Let me rephrase my question...I don't mean all of nastiness but just the wildness of it? I think that's a big reason why men watch porn to begin with...but is it better to be less adventurous in bed, or better to be more--in ways of making men happy??
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In ways of making men happy I think it is better to be interested. I have heard men who LOVE it when a woman enjoys herself. A woman enjoying herself equate a total turnon to them as there is no shame in no ones game...she likes to get down just as much as he likes to get down. However, I have also heard men who were with women who seemed like they were acting like a porn star, thus pretending. One of my male friends said this girl had the scream and all and it was a total turnoff as she sounded like she was trying too hard. He said she ended up sounded like an owl.
 
dlewis said:
Well at this point in my life it's mostly about me. I believe in our situation he's more laid back and I'm the one wanting to try new things (he blames this board for that).
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:grin: And you're just nearing your sexual peak. Just wait a couple more years - DH won't know what hit him!

I think people should do what they're happy doing in bed. If you're naturally adventurous, go for it. If he likes it, even better. If you're more vanilla, embrace it. Not every man wants his mate to be a human trampoline. Regardless, trying too hard smacks of desperation and ultimately, you cannot control another adult's willingness to stay monogamous - no matter how good your stuff is or how many chandeliers you swing from.
 
Men like a sexually confident woman I think. A man that loves you does not want you doing things that make you feel uncomfortable or "whorish." However..I think it's good to be open for trying new things and perfecting the things you love to do sexually. It doesn't have to be freak nasty to be mind blowing.
 
When he saw the jade eggs he said "what the hell you gonna do with this........oh let me guess it was them freaks on that board". :lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
Also... to all you happily married ladies, do you notice that the freakier things get at night, the nicer your home becomes? You know like a beautiful remodeled kitchen, that new jacuzzi, and that 50" revolving plasma tv...hmmmmm:grin:
 
pinkskates said:
Also... to all you happily married ladies, do you notice that the freakier things get at night, the nicer your home becomes? You know like a beautiful remodeled kitchen, that new jacuzzi, and that 50" revolving plasma tv...hmmmmm:grin:
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Pink I haven't noticed that. My husband is cheap.
 
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Pink I haven't noticed that. My husband is cheap.
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Hmmmm...I don't know about that DL, I"ve seen pictures of that beautiful mobile home of yours...You doing something right at night chica!:yep:
 
dlewis said:
Pink I haven't noticed that. My husband is cheap.
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LOL exactly.

but to answer the question.. i think if you're in a serious relationship then, no.. your man shouldn't look at you differently in the morn if u wanted to get a little freakier than usual at night. if we're talking about a fling or little temporary boyfriend then, i wouldn't put it all out there like that because in that case, i think you are more prone to being judged.. but, as far as going all out for a man that loves you and knows you.. i think it would only make the sex life better to go out on a limb and try new exciting things. if you're in a serious relationship you should be past the judgment part. my husband knows i'm not a ho and never was a ho reguardless of what i do in the bedroom. a boyfriend of 2 months may not be so sure of that.
 
pinkskates said:
Also... to all you happily married ladies, do you notice that the freakier things get at night, the nicer your home becomes? You know like a beautiful remodeled kitchen, that new jacuzzi, and that 50" revolving plasma tv...hmmmmm:grin:
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Not a nicer home, but definitely a more efficiently-run home. DH will do the dishes, take the trash out, pick up after himself, do laundry all in hopes that it will put me in a mood to do monkeyflips in a miniskirt. :drunk:
 
Pat Mahurr said:
Not a nicer home, but definitely a more efficiently-run home. DH will do the dishes, take the trash out, pick up after himself, do laundry all in hopes that it will put me in a mood to do monkeyflips in a miniskirt. :drunk:
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He will do that. I can tell when I get home and things are done what he's up to.:drunk:
 
Originally Posted by Pat Mahurr
Not a nicer home, but definitely a more efficiently-run home. DH will do the dishes, take the trash out, pick up after himself, do laundry all in hopes that it will put me in a mood to do monkeyflips in a miniskirt. :drunk:
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:lachen::lachen::lachen:...yeah girl, they'll scrub the kitchen floor with a tooth brush for some monkey flips in a miniskirt...:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
dlewis said:
Well at this point in my life it's mostly about me. I believe in our situation he's more laid back and I'm the one wanting to try new things (he blames this board for that).
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...mmhmm, those jade egg, rabbit "busit baby" threads got you too, huh?

I blame MissScarlett for ALL OF IT! :lachen::lachen:

Although Bint and Lauren540 aren't excluded from culpability...
 
dlewis said:
Well at this point in my life it's mostly about me. I believe in our situation he's more laid back and I'm the one wanting to try new things (he blames this board for that).
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Me too. I always wanted to try something new see how we like it and he always went along but never came up with one on his own.
 
MsNadi said:
...mmhmm, those jade egg, rabbit "busit baby" threads got you too, huh?

I blame MissScarlett for ALL OF IT! :lachen::lachen:

Although Bint and Lauren540 aren't excluded from culpability...
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where'd she go? Someone PM me if I'm not supposed to ask.
 
yokoyokogirl said:
We all know the old saying about men wanting a freak in the bedroom and a lady in the street, but is this true? I know that men sometimes want to do the craziest, nastiest porn type stuff and then after wards do they really look at you the same way? I have girlfriends who say this is how they "keep their man", but I can't help but think if you get all freaky like a porn star, does your man love it and then still love you in the morn? **I'm not talking about one night stands here, I'm talking about serious relationships..**:perplexed
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I was a virgin when I married, so I was uncomfortable with anything that wasn't "pretty" and full of kissing. I didn't know how to do anything except kiss and lay there. But over time I became more comfortable with my body and exploring my sexuality. If I want to do something, or fantisize about doing something, I tell DH and he's very supportive (:lachen:).

Sex is my FAVORITE thing to do...and the more that I make it about me and what I want to explore -- the more DH likes it. My personality IRL is very silly, and funny, but I was raised a prude. But with DH -- I feel free to explore me. And it's a turn on for him. But I only do what I feel comfortable doing. And he's cool with that too.
 
OcoLove said:
I was a virgin when I married, so I was uncomfortable with anything that wasn't "pretty" and full of kissing. I didn't know how to do anything except kiss and lay there. But over time I became more comfortable with my body and exploring my sexuality. If I want to do something, or fantisize about doing something, I tell DH and he's very supportive (:lachen:).

Sex is my FAVORITE thing to do...and the more that I make it about me and what I want to explore -- the more DH likes it. My personality IRL is very silly, and funny, but I was raised a prude. But with DH -- I feel free to explore me. And it's a turn on for him. But I only do what I feel comfortable doing. And he's cool with that too.
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That's beautiful. Really...:yep::yep::yep:
 
my SO likes when I take charge and I don't mind since I'm naturally agressive and like to take what I want. We pretty much try new things all the time. The only thing I've put totally off limits is anal sex. That is just something I'm not willing to entertain AT ALL. It's not even up for discussion.

As for on the outside..... yes he does like my lady image and attitude outside of home.
 
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