Do you and your SO sleep in the same bed?
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although, the arm pit description did read funny
Heavenly
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I totally get your situation.... I've been there. You guys are playing proper musical beds!
chocolate01
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We share the same bed. He snores real bad sometimes but I can usually nudge him and he'll stop..for a while lol.
robot.
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LOL @ "assume the spoon." I'm gonna have to use that one.
Heavenly
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My bedroom has become my sanctuary. We still have a computer and TV in the room... so hub still hangs out and does his own thing in there, which I don't mind at all. There are days that he will fall asleep on my bed... and he'll say "your smell knocked me out"...
A good thing I hope...
MoniintheMiddle
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For the most part me and DH sleep in the same bed. however, DH snores and snores LOUDLY!! Some days it doesn't bother me...if I'm really tired, but on lighter sleeping nights I usually get out of our bed and go to a guest bedroom.
Vshanell
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Found an interesting thread.http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=132226&highlight=separate+bedrooms
For those that think it's weird or are opposed to it I wonder if they've ever had to sleep with a snorer day in and day out, lol
For those that think it's weird or are opposed to it I wonder if they've ever had to sleep with a snorer day in and day out, lol
pookaloo83
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20Pearls_Girl
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We sleep in the same bed.
Belle Creole
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Although I'm not married yet, I was going to say that it would seem to me that it would be beneficial for a relationship if your aren't sleeping in the same bed (assuming you love and like eachother) adds some mystery and romance. Just my take on it. I wonder if it causes any emotional "seperation"? Can anyone answer that for me?
SerenavanderWoodsen
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Nope! I insisted on sleeping alone If we had a king size then maybe I could deal. I just dont sleep well with anyone cramming my space. I really really need stretching room. Maybe Im a cat lol Dh really holds it against me, i dont blame him but it is what it is...
If we had a king size then maybe I could deal. I just dont sleep well with anyone cramming my space. I really really need stretching room. Maybe Im a cat lol Dh really holds it against me, i dont blame him but it is what it is...
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lisatamika
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As loud as my DH snores, I can't even imagine sleeping in separate beds.
naturalmanenyc
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DH has not been able to sleep in our bed w/o me for a while.
It took a bit, but I can no longer sleep w/o DH. When I came home from a recent work trip I asked DH if we could just go to bed so I could finally get some sleep.
I'm glad that it works out & is an option for healthy marriages.
It took a bit, but I can no longer sleep w/o DH. When I came home from a recent work trip I asked DH if we could just go to bed so I could finally get some sleep.
I'm glad that it works out & is an option for healthy marriages.
Nay
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My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years and had always slept together except if I had a cold or something and was coughing a lot.
Well, about three months ago it was pretty hot at night, and he wanted to keep the window open all night. I'm a light sleeper, and I could not get a good night sleep because of birds singing or cars going by, so I slept in the guest room. Y'all, it was the best sleep I'd ever gotten! Anyway, the weather remained hot, he enjoyed the fresh air, every night he'd sleep with the window open, and every night I'd sleep in the other room. Next thing you know, months had gone by.
Anyway, to make a long story short, at first it felt weird. But then it became kind of fun. We'd "visit" each other but still sleep separately. I loved it! I could sleep on my back and snore if I wanted to. The guest room is really dark and quiet, just like I like it. I even started looking more well rested. So it became our normal routine to sleep separately.
Fast forward to today. Well, winter is now here, and the window is no longer open. Just last night he told me, "Hey, there's really no reason for you to sleep in the other room now that the window's closed." So we'll probably go back to sleeping together some of the time. But if I feel that I need my little cocoon room, I will not hesitate to go sleep alone.
So my final conclusion is that two people can have a healthy relationship and still sleep separately!
Well, about three months ago it was pretty hot at night, and he wanted to keep the window open all night. I'm a light sleeper, and I could not get a good night sleep because of birds singing or cars going by, so I slept in the guest room. Y'all, it was the best sleep I'd ever gotten! Anyway, the weather remained hot, he enjoyed the fresh air, every night he'd sleep with the window open, and every night I'd sleep in the other room. Next thing you know, months had gone by.
Anyway, to make a long story short, at first it felt weird. But then it became kind of fun. We'd "visit" each other but still sleep separately. I loved it! I could sleep on my back and snore if I wanted to. The guest room is really dark and quiet, just like I like it. I even started looking more well rested. So it became our normal routine to sleep separately.
Fast forward to today. Well, winter is now here, and the window is no longer open. Just last night he told me, "Hey, there's really no reason for you to sleep in the other room now that the window's closed." So we'll probably go back to sleeping together some of the time. But if I feel that I need my little cocoon room, I will not hesitate to go sleep alone.
So my final conclusion is that two people can have a healthy relationship and still sleep separately!
Heavenly
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Thanks for the link to this thread, Poka! From the responses in this thread and the other... I"m glad to see I'm not the only one who does this "sleeping separate" thing. I have always known couples to sleep apart, but usually they were fighting or something like that.
Highly Favored8
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You know my grandparents on my fathers side slept in seperate twin beds same room like the "Flintstones" for over 40 years b/f they passed. I am really starting too think this is a very good idea!
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Zawaj
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That was the post I was thinking about!
Firstborn2
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My problem is that I want us to sleep in separate beds but he gets highly offended when I mention it to him, it always lead into some sort of big arguement because he thinks that me wanting to sleep in a separate bed from him is a reflection of how I feel about him, which is not the case. I love him dearly, he's my bestfriend, he's a great provider and he's the best father.
I just enjoy my space. I am even willing to compromise, I told him, we could sleep in the same bed 4days out of the week, That just
him off more. He's so old fashion. I keep trying to explain that ppl need to adjust there relation according to what works best for them, maybe ppl would stay married longer
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I just enjoy my space. I am even willing to compromise, I told him, we could sleep in the same bed 4days out of the week, That just
him off more. He's so old fashion. I keep trying to explain that ppl need to adjust there relation according to what works best for them, maybe ppl would stay married longer.
chiprecious
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I WISH we had seperate beds! I didn't realize it before, but there is a noticeable difference if I am allowed to fall asleep w/o him in the bed. On nights when he stays up and watches tv downstairs, I wake up feeling sooo refreshed.
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