Only go as far as you feel; when it's someone you love and you know you will have no regrets. Sometimes letting yourself go in the moment can be a pleasurable sexual release, that opens your mind up in a way that a book just wont do. Men like freaks, but too much freak-dom can scare a man off. Because everyone has different levels of freak-dom, different people will take differently to certain kinds of sexual freaks. But a man wants a woman he can take around family and not have Uncle P compliment her for the lap dance from the other night, you feel me? He wants a woman who knows what to do but to be reassured he's the only one who knows about the 'golf ball trick,' or what the 'string of beads' are for. Everyone is not prudish and everyone is not a loose booty, but everyone has fantasies. Go head make a porno, watch it, then delete it.