My answer is yes, and NO.....
Honestly, I don't really care who else a guy has dated as long as he's REALLY into me and it's clear. The reason why I say this is because I have noticed over the years that who a man says he wants and who he MARRIES can be two totally different things completely.
I knew of guy friends who said that they only wanted girls who were a size 4 , had long hair, looked like Beyonce, and had a certain sense of "style". Well, when I saw who they ended up marrying it was like NIGHT and DAY!
So I've learned to sort of ignore who guys say they want. They may want a Maxim model, but that's not the girl they end up marrying or with long-term.
I think when men mature and are ready for marriage, they start looking at OTHER things other than just the physical. The physical may get you in the door, but it won't keep you in the house. There has to be MORE than just what you look like on the outside. I think when men mature they start to realize that one particular woman is someone who they can't stand to live w/out, and those things
transcend looks, or outer appearances.
So, I'm not bothered if a guy had a certain "type" that he usually dated and ended up dating/marrying me. I mean, if he looked at my dating history maybe he would think that I had a certain "type" as well. That doesn't mean that those guys were the right one for me. Plus, some guys only dated their "type" for years, and came to realize that who they felt their "type" was, ended up being women who consistently weren't "right" for him, and so now he's opening up his focus lense a little bit lol.
It happens!
With all that said however...
I would NOT accept future dates with a man who consistently made it a point to remind me that he never dates "my type" or that he usually only dates x,y,z, and that basically I should be "lucky" to be dating him.
Whatever buddy.
Any guy who is so hung up on looks, race, outer appearances, etc will get an automatic "no" from me to future dates because he's already shown me with his first few dates that he is waaaaay too focused on the outside (ie. he's immature).
A MATURE man will be appreciative of the physical of course (he IS a man after all), but he will ALSO appreciate the
INNER qualities of a woman.
As far as a guy saying he's "never dated a black woman before"..... I would give a bm living in an area where there are bw a serious side-eye for that comment. If it's a wm or a man of another race who tells me that, then I'm not immediately put off. After all, people have to start SOMEWHERE. My first wm bf was my "first" as well, but that doesn't mean that because he was my first there was something wrong with me. Some people just haven't dated a bw before, and judging how must of us don't date IR as much anyway....I mean....honestly, it's not that far-fetched lol
But if you're a bm and you've never dated a bw that would be a HUGE red flag. Unless you're living in the sticks where the population of black people is next to zero, I would find it a
HUGE red flag if you've
never dated your
own race before. Same as a wm, hispanic man, asian man, etc.