Bubblingbrownshuga
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by women? Or is it more of a lachen:matter?
no, we do not. we expect a man to be able to defend himself.
Basically. I know it happens but I find it extremely hard to be sympathetic to the plight of a man whose wife beats or talks to them any kind of way.
It implies that he is weak, has low self esteem, and cannot run a household.
Would you want a man that displayed such qualities? Or let me ask you this, ever had a man that was too nice to you? Whatever you said went? He would lick your muddy boots? It was a turn-off wasn't it? You probably ended up disrespecting him and finding a man who would..."put you in check" so to speak.
No one likes a milquetoast man.
What is implied when a woman is abused or talked to in any kind of way?
I agree that there's a HUGE double standard in play. We're ok with supporting a woman who allows herself to be abused, but we require a man to somehow "do better".
But let him try to defend himself against a "mere woman" and he's more likely to end up in jail for abuse than she is.
Again - SO GLAD I WAS BORN A WOMAN! I can get away with murder and chalk it up to my delicate nature.
Women are generally more sensitive and less powerful (physically) than men. It's our makeup. Men are stronger (physically) and tend to think more logically and are also more likely to be abusive.
There are more women being abused than men. I believe in your typical male/female roles, though. Man=provider, my head, my strength, the family decision maker. Woman=homemaker, primary caregiver, keeps household affairs in order, the husband's support. One is not more demeaning than the other. One who suffers silently under the brunt of a *****y shrew...*shrug* It's in direct opposition to my belief system.
Women often abuse how society looks at them in regards to domestic violence. There are ne'er do well women that use the fact that the man will get in trouble for domestic violence over her, threaten to leave with the children to manipulate a man and abuse him. It's wrong...but not as common.
I don't know any abused men, and I mentioned that it is hard to feel sympathetic because it is not something that is common. More common than you would think, but uncommon nonetheless.
Double standard, sure but it is what it is. I don't think anyone should have to put up with an abusive spouse, and I believe in self defense for ALL. It's a shame that the opposite gender gets more flack for exercising their right to defense, but I don't think there is anything anyone can do to fix that. It will always be unfair.
To the bolded, eh. I didn't imply that. Sometimes I can't tell whether your sarcasm is serious sarcasm or patronizing sarcasm, but everyone should treat everyone fairly, male or female.
I do feel bad for the man b/c most times he could easily overpower the woman but because he shows restraint and not knock her upside the head - we call him weak.
I say you act like a man, get handled like a man.
no, we do not. we expect a man to be able to defend himself.
I do feel bad for the man b/c most times he could easily overpower the woman but because he shows restraint and not knock her upside the head - we call him weak.
I say you act like a man, get handled like a man.
Women are generally more sensitive and less powerful (physically) than men. It's our makeup. Men are stronger (physically) and tend to think more logically and are also more likely to be abusive.
There are more women being abused than men. I believe in your typical male/female roles, though. Man=provider, my head, my strength, the family decision maker. Woman=homemaker, primary caregiver, keeps household affairs in order, the husband's support.
One is not more demeaning than the other. One who suffers silently under the brunt of a *****y shrew...*shrug* It's in direct opposition to my belief system.
Women often abuse how society looks at them in regards to domestic violence. There are ne'er do well women that use the fact that the man will get in trouble for domestic violence over her, threaten to leave with the children to manipulate a man and abuse him. It's wrong...but not as common.
I don't know any abused men, and I mentioned that it is hard to feel sympathetic because it is not something that is common. More common than you would think, but uncommon nonetheless.
Double standard, sure but it is what it is. I don't think anyone should have to put up with an abusive spouse, and I believe in self defense for ALL. It's a shame that the opposite gender gets more flack for exercising their right to defense, but I don't think there is anything anyone can do to fix that. It will always be unfair.
To the bolded, eh. I didn't imply that. Sometimes I can't tell whether your sarcasm is serious sarcasm or patronizing sarcasm, but everyone should treat everyone fairly, male or female.