Forever in Bloom
Well-Known Member
There are a few occurrences that have really irked me, but this one takes the cake!
The person I am seeing and I went out of town this past weekend to visit his sister for a Christmas party. His mom came with us - it was my first time meeting her - for a 2.5 trip by car. I have to say, I really enjoyed her company. She was funny, nice, and since we both like to talk - a great conversationalist. Before leaving, he called to ask if I could pick her up since we lived so close to each other and he lived on the other side of town. I said 'sure, no problem'. The drive to his apartment would give us time to get to know one another.
Anyway, fast forward to yesterday when we came back. Earlier that day, I told him that I wanted to spend the night at his place. However, when we arrived back in town, he goes to his apartment first. I'm thinking, "um, shouldn't we be dropping his mom off first?" I didn't say anything, but I eventually saw that he obviously didn't hear a word I said that morning because now his mom was asking if I was going to take her home. I looked at him and asked him, "Am I?"
She looked caught in the middle and I'm feeling confused. He jokes and says, "Mom, do you trust her driving?" [Insert stupid laughter in here]
I didn't want to cause a scene, so I got in my car along with his mom and drove her to her house. Again, I like the mom. No problem there because I'm used to him doing and saying stupid things. We actually found out that her brother used to work with my dad, who passed away 6 years ago. Small world.
I texted him and said that I really wanted to spend the night with him - something I definitely don't make a habit of considering how I was raised. He responded saying, "I thought you were kidding. You're more than welcome to come back or any other day this week. It's up to you."
I responded that I was caught off guard when I was pretty much coerced into taking his mom home, something we never discussed especially since I thought I would be with him. That was at 7pm last night. Of course, this morning he finally responded and asked how I was. I haven't responded because when you never respond to a text, that gives me plenty of time to think about everything else you did wrong, but I looked over at the time.
He does that often. Whenever I respond with something that any other normal person would feel the need to respond to, because the anger is apparent, he chooses to ignore the question or statement and wait until the next morning. By then, he thinks I have forgotten and that we can move on.
I'm tired of glossing over his cluelessness. Please advise before I start throwing things at his head to knock some sense into it. He's either gonna get it or he's gonna get it!
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The person I am seeing and I went out of town this past weekend to visit his sister for a Christmas party. His mom came with us - it was my first time meeting her - for a 2.5 trip by car. I have to say, I really enjoyed her company. She was funny, nice, and since we both like to talk - a great conversationalist. Before leaving, he called to ask if I could pick her up since we lived so close to each other and he lived on the other side of town. I said 'sure, no problem'. The drive to his apartment would give us time to get to know one another.
Anyway, fast forward to yesterday when we came back. Earlier that day, I told him that I wanted to spend the night at his place. However, when we arrived back in town, he goes to his apartment first. I'm thinking, "um, shouldn't we be dropping his mom off first?" I didn't say anything, but I eventually saw that he obviously didn't hear a word I said that morning because now his mom was asking if I was going to take her home. I looked at him and asked him, "Am I?"
She looked caught in the middle and I'm feeling confused. He jokes and says, "Mom, do you trust her driving?" [Insert stupid laughter in here]
I didn't want to cause a scene, so I got in my car along with his mom and drove her to her house. Again, I like the mom. No problem there because I'm used to him doing and saying stupid things. We actually found out that her brother used to work with my dad, who passed away 6 years ago. Small world.
I texted him and said that I really wanted to spend the night with him - something I definitely don't make a habit of considering how I was raised. He responded saying, "I thought you were kidding. You're more than welcome to come back or any other day this week. It's up to you."
I responded that I was caught off guard when I was pretty much coerced into taking his mom home, something we never discussed especially since I thought I would be with him. That was at 7pm last night. Of course, this morning he finally responded and asked how I was. I haven't responded because when you never respond to a text, that gives me plenty of time to think about everything else you did wrong, but I looked over at the time.
He does that often. Whenever I respond with something that any other normal person would feel the need to respond to, because the anger is apparent, he chooses to ignore the question or statement and wait until the next morning. By then, he thinks I have forgotten and that we can move on.
I'm tired of glossing over his cluelessness. Please advise before I start throwing things at his head to knock some sense into it. He's either gonna get it or he's gonna get it!
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