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To all my dear sisters on this board, those active and those lurkers. If you think you might be in a situation of abuse, please seek help with your local state or county agencies:
Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships
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You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Is jealous or possessive toward you.
(Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.)[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Is violent and / or loses his or her temper quickly.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Abuses drugs or alcohol.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Claims you are responsible for his or her emotional state. (This is a core diagnostic criteria for Codependency.) [/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Blames you when he or she mistreats you.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Has a history of bad relationships.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]You frequently worry about how he or she will react to things you say or do.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Makes "jokes" that shame, humiliate, demean or embarrass you, weather privately or around family and friends.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Your partner grew up witnessing an abusive parental relationship, and/or was abused as a child.[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Your partner "rages" when they feel hurt, shame, fear or loss of control. [/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]Both parties in abusive relationships may develop or progress in drug or alcohol dependence in a (dysfunctional) attempt to cope with the pain.[/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]You leave and then return to your partner repeatedly, against the advice of your friends, family and loved ones. [/FONT]
[FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it's the right thing to do. [/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica]
Does the person you love...
You may wish to read the characteristics of healthy and abusive relationships page.
If you feel you are in an abusive relationship read how to handle it here.
http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive_signs.htm
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To all my dear sisters on this board, those active and those lurkers. If you think you might be in a situation of abuse, please seek help with your local state or county agencies:
Warning Signs of Abusive Relationships
Select the chip to return to the main navigation page.
[book search]
| Personality Types | Anger and Rage | Links | What to Do |
| About BPD | Abusive Relationships and BPD |
|Abusive Relationship Readings |
|BPD Site|BPD Sanctuary |
You may be in an abusive relationship if he or she:
(Jealousy is the primary symptom of abusive relationships; it is also a core component of Sexual Addictions and Love Addiction.)[/FONT][FONT=trebuchet ms, Arial, Helvetica][/FONT]
Does the person you love...
• constantly keep track of your time?
• act jealous and possessive?
• accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting?
• discourage your relationships with friends and family?
• prevent or discourage you from working, interacting with friends or attending school?
• constantly criticize or belittle you?
• control all finances and force you to account for what you spend? (Reasonable cooperative budgeting excepted.)
• humiliate you in front of others? (Including "jokes" at your expense.)
• destroy or take your personal property or sentimental items?
• have affairs?
• threaten to hurt you, your children or pets? Threaten to use a weapon?
• push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your children?
• force you to have sex against your will, or demand sexual acts you are uncomfortable with?
What to do if this sounds familiar: • act jealous and possessive?
• accuse you of being unfaithful or flirting?
• discourage your relationships with friends and family?
• prevent or discourage you from working, interacting with friends or attending school?
• constantly criticize or belittle you?
• control all finances and force you to account for what you spend? (Reasonable cooperative budgeting excepted.)
• humiliate you in front of others? (Including "jokes" at your expense.)
• destroy or take your personal property or sentimental items?
• have affairs?
• threaten to hurt you, your children or pets? Threaten to use a weapon?
• push, hit, slap, punch, kick, or bite you or your children?
• force you to have sex against your will, or demand sexual acts you are uncomfortable with?
You may wish to read the characteristics of healthy and abusive relationships page.
If you feel you are in an abusive relationship read how to handle it here.
http://www.recovery-man.com/abusive/abusive_signs.htm
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