your so kind, thank you I will remember that. I'm sure just about all of you are older than me, and I respect your advice more than anything. Even thou you guys barley know me, you still show concern and that means a lot to me, and i'm glad there are people I can talk to who do not judge me and who try there best to help me, thank you ladies soo much and I'm taking all of your advice
We just don't want you to go through pain and suffering when you don't have to.
While we all will probably experience heartbreak at some point in our lives, we don't always have to do things the hard way. If we learn important lessons early, it will save us from making the wrong decisions down the road.
And the more heartbreaks that you endure, the harder it will be to be available to the right man. Plus, staying involved with the wrong men can lead to life-altering situations (pregnancy, STDs, etc.)... it's crazy how just one bad decision can change your entire life... and we want YOU to avoid that!!!
As I walk this land with broken dreams
I have visions of many things
Love's happiness is just an illusion
Filled with sadness and confusion,
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Maybe.
The fruits of love grow all around
But for me they come a tumblin' down.
Every day heartaches grow a little stronger
I can't stand this pain much longer
I walk in shadows
Searching for light
Cold and alone
No comfort in sight,
Hoping and praying for someone to care
Always moving and goin to where
What becomes of the broken hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
Maybe.
I'm searching though I don't succeed,
But someone look, there's a growing need.
Oh, he is lost, there's no place for beginning,
All that's left is an unhappy ending.
Now what's become of the broken-hearted
Who had love that's now departed?
I know I've got to find
Some kind of peace of mind
I'll be searching everywhere
Just to find someone to care.
I'll be looking everyday
I know I'm gonna find a way
Nothings gonna stop me now
I'll find a way somehow
I'll be searching everywhere
Awh! Thank You! and yes I removed him from my myspace last night. It was the hardest thing for me to do but I did it. He messaged me saying he's sorry and he hope we can be friends. It still hurts but I don't think I'm ready to try and start a friendship with him..atleast until I know I'm completely over him and moving on with my life.You also need to cut off communication with him because all it's doing is hurting you. Either you need to tell him that you don't want to hear about his new relationship, or (and this is what I would recommend) remove him from your myspace, facebook, cell phone, IM, etc. You need a clean break and a fresh start.
Also, I think it's a good idea in dating to know that nothing's over till it's over, meaning that regardless of what is said, feelings can change, new people can enter onto the scene...there's just never a guarantee that what someone thinks and feels today is what they are going to think and feel tomorrow. Even if this guy meant what he said at the time, something could have changed. All the more reason to wait to give your heart to someone who has worked to earn it because if it were important enough for him to really invest himself in pursuing and winning you, he wouldn't have just walked away.
I know it hurts a lot now, but if you can learn these lesson in your teens, your romantic future will be bright.
The good thing about having tomorrow is that you can start all over again, but remember we are not all promised tomorrow so start making a change today. We all know that you can not get over him in a matter of days. You will feel the yearning and feelings, but you have to fight them.
Most of us have been 17 and in love, take care of yourself.
Everytime I see this thread, I think of this song. You WILL be okay.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=2vf3ZE7CLg0
Are you going off to college in sept?
If so, girl i would stop paying that loser any mind and start plotting on which uni you want to go to and how you can get a scholarship (full or partial). Preferably out of state.
PLAN YOUR FUTURE NOW!
Your only 17 so you have time to find another "one." That's the good news. Don't delete your myspace because of him...don't visit his page or move his arse down so you won't have to see it.
Focus on you and your goals. He's obviously into playing games with you. Right now he has you where he wants...which is feeling like you are now along with telling you about him and his new girl knowing full well you aren't cool with it.
Do you really want a guy like that in your life? And secondly, do you want to choose who you date or do you want this guy to choose you when he's ready for you ( if that happens)?
You can do better. You don't have to end the friendship but make it known to yourself now that he's just a friend and leave it at that. All that lovey dovey just makes things complicated.
I will be so glad when myspace goes away.
ETA: just saw ur post above...glad you deleted him!
))))HUGS(((((
1. YOU are too good for him
&
2. Time is your best friend.
Yeah I thought about deleting my myspace. But my friend told me if I did, that would just let him know that he won. But If anything I want to be the winner. I want to show him that I don't need him, and that I can live my life just as happily as I did before he came along. I know one day he's going to realize he's missing out on a lot and is going to regret it. But when he trys to come back its going to be too late and I'm not going to accept him back into my life as anything more than friend. I don't want to feel like I'm on the sideline and when he's ready for me, or tired of her then he will come to me. I know it shouldn't be like that. Right now it still hurts so much, but I'm dealing and accepting with what happened.
Keep you head up little mamma, Like others have said your a beautiful brown skinned women. The color issue let it go. I tell my kids (i sound old) everyone has their preference in a man or women. Some may like short, skinny, fat short hair person. If you are none of those does not mean your not worthy. Just mean your not their type.
Trust me there will be plenty flocking to you.
I guess the saying time heals all wounds is true
I'm starting to believe I really am. I used to believe I wasn't good enough
for him and thats why he wasn't with me. But I'm starting to see things in a different light now because of you ladies When it first happened the pain and hurt felt unbearable but I'm cope'n the best way I can.
Just take things one day at a time.
Now, today and tomorrow you might feel great. On Saturday, you might feel sad and cry.
That's okay... it's a process, so don't feel that if you are sad and lonely in a few days that you made the wrong decision. I think all of us after breakups (and even though you weren't together, this is a mental breakup) go through really good days and then have really bad days.
The key is to get through them, like quitting smoking or drugs or alcohol. There will be some tough days, but those are the times you have to fight even harder to not go to his MySpace page, not accept IMs, not call him, etc. If you feel tempted, come to us and we'll help you out.
It's better to get through the pain now than drag it out... because ultimately you'll move on and feel happy again much more quickly if you do it this way.