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[Country gal]

I would also suggest IF you meet somebody online--to NOT spend hours and hours talking on the phone.

Thinking back to my last experiences the guys I met were natural at talking on the phone, both in different ways. I think that's why it's so dangerous, because you have these men (not all, but a vast majority) who spend hours and hours online talking to random women. They're learning what women want and they're molding themselves to be what they think you want.

Guy #1 was extremely well versed in all things political, cultural (pop) mostly, so he would gravitate to the creative type woman. Both were "book" smart, ie knew a lot about alot of things (most people who spend their time online reading tend to be).

Guy #2 was smart, but pretended to be humble. He would listen, and make insightful comments about everything (political, and more important religiously). He had studied religion and was well-traveled. His thing was to appear to be the shy, innocent good guy that most women pass up. His sad songs were the many women who had used him and not appreciated him (namely his ex wife and I'm assuming I'm in that equation now). Anyway, he would use that to get you to feel sorry for him and reel you in. . . .

Just be careful with the long conversations. You may be thinking you all are having great conversations, but he may just be gathering information to store and use later. That's what I learned from guy #2, when we conversed on the phone he was sweet/kind, unassming, but when we finally met and started "dating" he was cynical, condescending and dismissive, none of which he displayed while we were conversing.

Also be learly of men who send you ecards so quickly after meeting them. THAT'S A DEAD GIVEAWAY. He's got membership to all the free e-card sites b/c his ___ has been sending numerous cards to various women. Heck, let me just say this, be learly of anybody who sends you cards within a month (I got them from both very early on atmy job b/c I didn't give them my address), but the fact that they were resourcesful in finding my place of employment w/o me telling them exactly where and in what department I worked for should have be a tip as well...

Oh well, you live and you learn (not to date online--for me anyway).

But good luck and more power to you ladies.

Great tips

 

[ultrasheen]

Has anybody noticed that some of the same men have been on BPM for years??? I had an account back in 2003 and I logged on to the site in January 2008 and some of the same men were still on there from five years ago and their profiles still contained same info. That's why I am not paying for another subscription. I just log on out of curiosity to see if the same people I remember are still on. My sister logs on occassionally and she noticed the same thing. I think the ones that continually stay on are those serial internet daters. What do you ladies think?

 

[ellennicole]

Has anybody noticed that some of the same men have been on BPM for years??? I had an account back in 2003 and I logged on to the site in January 2008 and some of the same men were still on there from five years ago and their profiles still contained same info. That's why I am not paying for another subscription. I just log on out of curiosity to see if the same people I remember are still on. My sister logs on occassionally and she noticed the same thing. I think the ones that continually stay on are those serial internet daters. What do you ladies think?

I think that's 100% right. The same men are on there year after year because they ARE serial daters. There was one guy who was 702Esquire who was a "doctor" living in Vegas, I just didn't get the whole Esquire thing, then six months later he was a "lawyer". I looked him up just for fun and he's changed his name.

I should be doing other things, but I just was looking to see if my ex is on there. The negro jumped right back on FOUR days after we broke up talking about although he had a bad experience he's trying his hand again to find a serious relationship. He say's he works hard and if that's a problem, then be real. HE DOES NOT HAVE A PAYING JOB. He quit a 10/hr job (even though he has a MBA from Clark) to work for free to try and establish his Greenbuild company. He says he makes 35,000-50,000 (which really should have been a huge sign to me b/c I feel that at 44-45 you should be making more than that but that's just me) and he is self-employed. Ladies, this man has NOT filed a tax return in three years.

Oh, LOL his name is "immasleeper" He's biracial and is very proud of the fact. I guarantee you if you try to have a conversation with this man he will talk about the "lawyer" (me), and his ex wife who used him. I almost PROMISE he will. He's so lame. . .

 

[ElizaBlue]

I think that's 100% right. The same men are on there year after year because they ARE serial daters. There was one guy who was 702Esquire who was a "doctor" living in Vegas, I just didn't get the whole Esquire thing, then six months later he was a "lawyer". I looked him up just for fun and he's changed his name.

I should be doing other things, but I just was looking to see if my ex is on there. The negro jumped right back on FOUR days after we broke up talking about although he had a bad experience he's trying his hand again to find a serious relationship. He say's he works hard and if that's a problem, then be real. HE DOES NOT HAVE A PAYING JOB. He quit a 10/hr job (even though he has a MBA from Clark) to work for free to try and establish his Greenbuild company. He says he makes 35,000-50,000 (which really should have been a huge sign to me b/c I feel that at 44-45 you should be making more than that but that's just me) and he is self-employed. Ladies, this man has NOT filed a tax return in three years.

Oh, LOL his name is "immasleeper" He's biracial and is very proud of the fact. I guarantee you if you try to have a conversation with this man he will talk about the "lawyer" (me), and his ex wife who used him. I almost PROMISE he will. He's so lame. . .

YEA!!!! She's back. Girl I can tell you are on the road to recovery. Doesn't knowing that idiot and his attempted trickery failed make you just want to put that *** on full blast.

Please I wish I could start naming names and posting mug shots. But hell it'd be like an art gallery. Not that I actually met all these men, but I've peeped so many of their games it ain't funny.

Here's a sample ladies. PM me if these sound familiar to any of you.

Houston via Louisiana 6'3, 265, light complexion, very good looking green eyes, looks like the Rock "jusatich"

NJ - 6"0, musician, almost divorced father of 4 maybe 5 gorgeous eyes. I think I scared him off the site.

MD - 5'7, 6'0 in the internet, medium brown, fine as hell, giant purple dinosaur character for last name, Omega "wisdomseeker"

TX - 6'1 light complexion, green eyes, music producer

TX - 6'2 brown complexion, big *** dimples, truck driver-"Houstonsfinest"

TX via Iraq- 6'3 light complexion, brown eyes SGt in army, deceased wife...maybe, depends on what day it is "darklion" or some sh*t

 

[gymfreak336]

"Please tell me why one daughter was getting her hair combed in same damn army base bathroom?"




I have to get some money together so I can get a screen name of my own (yeah I am that broke) .... ya'll are great... this thread made me laugh this evening... so thanks Ladies right now I need all the laughs I can get!!

gym's sister....

 

[ellennicole]

YEA!!!! She's back. Girl I can tell you are on the road to recovery. Doesn't knowing that idiot and his attempted trickery failed make you just want to put that *** on full blast.

Please I wish I could start naming names and posting mug shots. But hell it'd be like an art gallery. Not that I actually met all these men, but I've peeped so many of their games it ain't funny.

Here's a sample ladies. PM me if these sound familiar to any of you.

Houston via Louisiana 6'3, 265, light complexion, very good looking green eyes, looks like the Rock "jusatich"

NJ - 6"0, musician, almost divorced father of 4 maybe 5 gorgeous eyes. I think I scared him off the site.

MD - 5'7, 6'0 in the internet, medium brown, fine as hell, giant purple dinosaur character for last name, Omega "wisdomseeker"

TX - 6'1 light complexion, green eyes, music producer

TX - 6'2 brown complexion, big *** dimples, truck driver-"Houstonsfinest"

TX via Iraq- 6'3 light complexion, brown eyes SGt in army, deceased wife...maybe, depends on what day it is "darklion" or some sh*t

You are cracking me up. . . Oh, there is another TX guy. He's about 50 trying to be an actor. In December he was moving to NYC to try his hand at acting. I do believe he's a receptionist at a gym (he is VERY built), but that sounds about right--actor/gym person. "bestmanever" , LOL (snickering). Nice body....questionable "face".

Didn't I say I wouldn't do this, but seriously.
Oh, there is another guy on blackpeoplemeet who targets overweight women. If you have a few extra lbs or more or something, he will hit you up for a online/gym training. If you ask him for a website he says he doesn't believe in wasting money on an online website. He will "train" you via web cam... all for the asking price of 900 dollars. He's "currently in litigation with clients who aren't serious about losing weight,otherwise they would pay him via paypal for his sessions." He will send you an "excell spreadsheet" of your training session. smh Oh wait, in addition to be an "online" trainer he is a Stanford law graduate who played professional football. There should be a "Black Woman's Guide" to online dating. . .

 

[ElizaBlue]

You are cracking me up. . . Oh, there is another TX guy. He's about 50 trying to be an actor. In December he was moving to NYC to try his hand at acting. I do believe he's a receptionist at a gym (he is VERY built), but that sounds about right--actor/gym person. "bestmanever" , LOL (snickering). Nice body....questionable "face".

Didn't I say I wouldn't do this, but seriously.
Oh, there is another guy on blackpeoplemeet who targets overweight women. If you have a few extra lbs or more or something, he will hit you up for a online/gym training. If you ask him for a website he says he doesn't believe in wasting money on an online website. He will "train" you via web cam... all for the asking price of 900 dollars. He's "currently in litigation with clients who aren't serious about losing weight,otherwise they would pay him via paypal for his sessions." He will send you an "excell spreadsheet" of your training session. smh Oh wait, in addition to be an "online" trainer he is a Stanford law graduate who played professional football. There should be a "Black Woman's Guide" to online dating. . .

Okay see this works. Bestmanever = NUT CASE. This fool changes his picture on the daily. He is a professional. I finally had to block him from trying to IM me repeatedly and then changing his picture as if I cannot read.

Dark compelxion, big a dimples, multi pictures on his profile, many without a shirt on. Run like HELL. I don't even want to know what kind of game he is running.

 

[sunshinebeautiful]

BPM has some reallllllly low quality men in my area.

How do yall know who is a serial dater on these sites? I ask because I just resigned for Match.com because I'm moving back home after 4 years away. As soon as I log in, I see this *same dude* that I talked to 4 years ago. erplexed Now I'm still on as well, but that's because I haven't met anyone.

Also any tips for weeding out the mofos that are only online for newbooty?

 

[sunshinebeautiful]

You are cracking me up. . . Oh, there is another TX guy. He's about 50 trying to be an actor. In December he was moving to NYC to try his hand at acting. I do believe he's a receptionist at a gym (he is VERY built), but that sounds about right--actor/gym person. "bestmanever" , LOL (snickering). Nice body....questionable "face".

Didn't I say I wouldn't do this, but seriously.
Oh, there is another guy on blackpeoplemeet who targets overweight women. If you have a few extra lbs or more or something, he will hit you up for a online/gym training. If you ask him for a website he says he doesn't believe in wasting money on an online website. He will "train" you via web cam... all for the asking price of 900 dollars. He's "currently in litigation with clients who aren't serious about losing weight,otherwise they would pay him via paypal for his sessions." He will send you an "excell spreadsheet" of your training session. smh Oh wait, in addition to be an "online" trainer he is a Stanford law graduate who played professional football. There should be a "Black Woman's Guide" to online dating. . .

Gurl, you ain't neva lied. erplexed

Hmmm.... I guess you're busy being a lawyer and all... maybe I should get to cracking on the book.

 

[ellennicole]

I guess it's funny b/c I am on those sites but I go for enteratinment purposes mostly. I've only actually met three guys from blackpeoplemeet. All were nuts, however, I didn't take guy one or two too seriously. We went out a couple of times, but when I was adament about my no-sex rule they were gone so no biggie.

Now guy number three (immasleeper) is a real trickster ladies. I wish I could (oh hell, I will) show you just how slick he is in terms of his "agenda." Hes the youngest of six, from a good Christian family. He really wanted to form a spiritual connection with a good woman b/c that what was lacking in his first marriage. He lost all of his income, his car, and his house, and his 401Kb/c his ex wife stole 150,000 before they got married and he had to pay off her debts..... fast forward, I see some of her emails to him and she's basically putting him on blast for NEVER working, quitting his jobs, and never keeping up with his financial obligations.

Man, hindsight is always 20/20. He lives with his mom in a elderly apartment building and he told me his mom wouldn't let him get the Internet b/c she didn't want him doing his "greenbuild" business and networking. She wanted him to get a 9 to 5 job....but now that I'm thinking on it, she probably knew his _____ was addicted to the net. SMH, man, I feel soooooooooooooooo stupid right now.

 

[ElizaBlue]

I guess it's funny b/c I am on those sites but I go for enteratinment purposes mostly. I've only actually met three guys from blackpeoplemeet. All were nuts, however, I didn't take guy one or two too seriously. We went out a couple of times, but when I was adament about my no-sex rule they were gone so no biggie.

Now guy number three (immasleeper) is a real trickster ladies. I wish I could (oh hell, I will) show you just how slick he is in terms of his "agenda." Hes the youngest of six, from a good Christian family. He really wanted to form a spiritual connection with a good woman b/c that what was lacking in his first marriage. He lost all of his income, his car, and his house, and his 401Kb/c his ex wife stole 150,000 before they got married and he had to pay off her debts..... fast forward, I see some of her emails to him and she's basically putting him on blast for NEVER working, quitting his jobs, and never keeping up with his financial obligations.

Man, hindsight is always 20/20. He lives with his mom in a elderly apartment building and he told me his mom wouldn't let him get the Internet b/c she didn't want him doing his "greenbuild" business and networking. She wanted him to get a 9 to 5 job....but now that I'm thinking on it, she probably knew his _____ was addicted to the net. SMH, man, I feel soooooooooooooooo stupid right now.

No, stupid is had you stayed. Enlightened is what you are now.

 

[ellennicole]

BPM has some reallllllly low quality men in my area.

How do yall know who is a serial dater on these sites? I ask because I just resigned for Match.com because I'm moving back home after 4 years away. As soon as I log in, I see this *same dude* that I talked to 4 years ago. erplexed Now I'm still on as well, but that's because I haven't met anyone.

Also any tips for weeding out the mofos that are only online for newbooty?

Here's a little lists (may be redundant but, oh well):

Top Ten Signs That You May Be a Serial Internet Dater:

1. All of your ex girlfriends save one or two have lived in a different state.
2. You spend hours and hours on blackpeople meet (seriously, if you even have the kind of job where the bpm window can stay open, you should find another job).
3. You breakup on a Monday, and you turn around and find yourself not only BACK on bpm, but dissing your ex for sympathy/brownie points for new women.
4. Instead of having ex girlfriend memories, you have "folders" in your email account.
5. If your only meaningful successful relationship has been with a woman via emails,ecards, and instant messaging, you are CLEARLY AN INTERNET DATER.
6. Finally, if you find yourself changing your profile picture daily and you tell yourself its b/c you want people to know it's current, you are not only a SERIAL internet dater, but you are narcissistic.
7. If you have a picture of a baby/child (and the child is not yours) anywhere in your profile you are especially sick b/c you are clearly going after the women who want to be married and have children and you're using it as a manipulative "conversation starter".

 

[MissRissa]

YEA!!!! She's back. Girl I can tell you are on the road to recovery. Doesn't knowing that idiot and his attempted trickery failed make you just want to put that *** on full blast.

Please I wish I could start naming names and posting mug shots. But hell it'd be like an art gallery. Not that I actually met all these men, but I've peeped so many of their games it ain't funny.

Here's a sample ladies. PM me if these sound familiar to any of you.

Houston via Louisiana 6'3, 265, light complexion, very good looking green eyes, looks like the Rock "jusatich"

NJ - 6"0, musician, almost divorced father of 4 maybe 5 gorgeous eyes. I think I scared him off the site.

MD - 5'7, 6'0 in the internet, medium brown, fine as hell, giant purple dinosaur character for last name, Omega "wisdomseeker"

TX - 6'1 light complexion, green eyes, music producer

TX - 6'2 brown complexion, big *** dimples, truck driver-"Houstonsfinest"

TX via Iraq- 6'3 light complexion, brown eyes SGt in army, deceased wife...maybe, depends on what day it is "darklion" or some sh*t

AAAAAAAAND im bout to look for this dude. im 5'1 so im good.

 

[gmw]

I love this site! LHCF I mean....

My online dating experience includes deflecting all the hustlers from the mother land....

I briefly talked to this guy from Nigeria, who told me they always try to hustle him!

Other than that, I treat it as fun, and trust my inner voice.

 

[ElizaBlue]

AAAAAAAAND im bout to look for this dude. im 5'1 so im good.

Alright now. Get it girl. Cause where you work....you can definitely deal with him. He might just be one of ya'll patients. But he good, I mean as long as his medications are in order and it's not a full moon.

You might even find that thing he does dancing around like he's being attacked by wasps kinda cute. I mean the other shoppers at Walmart thought it was a bit odd, but hey...judge not lest ye be judged. Right?

And that waking up and singing like Celine Dione at 3 am in the morning for no damn reason.... could be seen as in touch with his feminine side.

Let me know how it turns out....

 

[ellennicole]

Alright now. Get it girl. Cause where you work....you can definitely deal with him. He might just be one of ya'll patients. But he good, I mean as long as his medications are in order and it's not a full moon.

You might even find that thing he does dancing around he's being attacked by wasps kinda cute. I mean the other shoppers at Walmart thought it was a bit odd, but hey...judge not lest ye be judged. Right?

And that waking up and singing like Celine Dione at 3 am in the morning for no damn reason.... could be seen as in touch with his femine side.

Let me know how it turns out....

You are TOO FUNNY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LMAO!!!!!

 

[Candy_C]

this guy i met online, not on bpm...well he was sounding great...2 jobs (says he makes GREAT MONEY), 2 cars ...personalities clicked....then *drum roll*..he lives with his best friend who is a female ...why are guys SO DUMB.......WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY???

Lawd a-mercy...

i told him he could be my online pen pal......he is lock-off!!

yes dont assume things so fast - him telling you probabley means he aint got nothing to hide

just cool and link di man nuh!

 

[MissRissa]

Alright now. Get it girl. Cause where you work....you can definitely deal with him. He might just be one of ya'll patients. But he good, I mean as long as his medications are in order and it's not a full moon.

You might even find that thing he does dancing around like he's being attacked by wasps kinda cute. I mean the other shoppers at Walmart thought it was a bit odd, but hey...judge not lest ye be judged. Right?

And that waking up and singing like Celine Dione at 3 am in the morning for no damn reason.... could be seen as in touch with his feminine side.

Let me know how it turns out....

LOL see naw, I didn't know he was a looney toon. awwww is he crazy foreal?

 

[ElizaBlue]

LOL see naw, I didn't know he was a looney toon. awwww is he crazy foreal?

Certified Clinical.

When he first landed and started talking bout "damn I forgot my vitamins". Something should have told me they were "prescription" vitamins. Yeah that list was a keep it moving list.

 

[blow]

I guess it's funny b/c I am on those sites but I go for enteratinment purposes mostly. I've only actually met three guys from blackpeoplemeet. All were nuts, however, I didn't take guy one or two too seriously. We went out a couple of times, but when I was adament about my no-sex rule they were gone so no biggie.

Now guy number three (immasleeper) is a real trickster ladies. I wish I could (oh hell, I will) show you just how slick he is in terms of his "agenda." Hes the youngest of six, from a good Christian family. He really wanted to form a spiritual connection with a good woman b/c that what was lacking in his first marriage. He lost all of his income, his car, and his house, and his 401Kb/c his ex wife stole 150,000 before they got married and he had to pay off her debts..... fast forward, I see some of her emails to him and she's basically putting him on blast for NEVER working, quitting his jobs, and never keeping up with his financial obligations.

Man, hindsight is always 20/20. He lives with his mom in a elderly apartment building and he told me his mom wouldn't let him get the Internet b/c she didn't want him doing his "greenbuild" business and networking. She wanted him to get a 9 to 5 job....but now that I'm thinking on it, she probably knew his _____ was addicted to the net. SMH, man, I feel soooooooooooooooo stupid right now.

Wow, that guy 'immasleeper' just contacted me on BPM, saying how he wishes he were 21 again and living in Boston so he could pursue me.

Yikes.

 

[ellennicole]

Wow, that guy 'immasleeper' just contacted me on BPM, saying how he wishes he were 21 again and living in Boston so he could pursue me.

Yikes.

LMAO, that is TOO FUNNY!!!!!! You should tell him to pursue a J-O-B, and explain that a job entails working AND receiving money for the work (that's a concept his MBA having ___ can't comprehend).

 

[ellennicole]

I can't believe this. . .

I went to the grocery store after work and I RAN INTO HIM BUYING ROSES for somebody else I presumed. He was dressed up all nice so I assumed it was a date. . . . I wanted to ask him so badly how did he manage the money on some roses b/c when we were together FOUR WEEKS AGO I had to pay for half.

Oh well, that's somebody else's headache/heartbreak.

 

[sky_blu]

Sending good luck your way ma’am!!!I know what its like to mentally connect with someone but then meet in person only to be disappointed. Expectations lead to disappointment as far as dating goes, IMO. So I just go with the flow.

Thanks girly! Didnt get to meet with him yesterday due to my procrastination and not taking care of some things I needed to do. So we rescheduled until next Friday to get this part over with. And IMO, I dont see anything wrong talking to someone for a long period of time, if you are connecting like that. If your meeting them from online how else are you suppose to get to know them and decide if you want to meet?? I dont do that with everybody online or even offline but I can talk to him for 2 hours and it feel like 30 minutes. Its many people you can find in the world and do that. So when I find it, I take advantage of it and I dont see anything wrong with it. Im not giving him the key to my house, "loaning" him money, and letting him run up my credit or move in my house, we're just talking and getting to know each other.

 

[MzLady78]

I had to block someone for the first time since I rejoined today.

This dude sent me 7 flirts TODAY ALONE!

I responded "What the hell is wrong with you" and blocked his behind......

 

[MizAvalon]

I had to block someone for the first time since I rejoined today.

This dude sent me 7 flirts TODAY ALONE!

I responded "What the hell is wrong with you" and blocked his behind......

 

[sky_blu]

I had to block someone for the first time since I rejoined today.

This dude sent me 7 flirts TODAY ALONE!

I responded "What the hell is wrong with you" and blocked his behind......

you shouldve waited until he responded then blocked him. I wouldve loved to see what he wouldve said. Guys are crazy!

 

[DayStar]

went to the BBD, EnVogue, Johnny Gill concert, it was VIP all friday with the new guy off BPM....First i should say that he is SEXY AS H3LL ... and i enjoyed myself......baby steps..no rush.....but lawd the man had swag, intelligence and charisma.....lawd hammercy

 

[kurlybella]

I tried it a while back. It was OK. I closed my membership because I wasn't replying to my messages as I should. You have to be specific. For example, I flat out said that I don't want to date any guy with more than one or two kids. I know that may seem shallow but that's just how I felt. i was being generous by saying one or two. I really just meant one.

it's not shallow!

i have been there, done that. and for ME, this is what i've learned:

most men are always broke -- 20% or more of this check before he even sees it is going to that mama

they never have time for you

you feel like a ***** for even asking for time

baby mama is a nut and works to make his life a living hell

you have an important even on the same day as little day day -- guess who's going to win that attendance?


no thanks.

i don't date men with kids anymore. nope. never again.

 

[firecracker]

went to the BBD, EnVogue, Johnny Gill concert, it was VIP all friday with the new guy off BPM....First i should say that he is SEXY AS H3LL ... and i enjoyed myself......baby steps..no rush.....but lawd the man had swag, intelligence and charisma.....lawd hammercy

Good for you! Yeah chica take it slow and easy but don't sleep. So did EnVogue turn that motha out?

 

[DayStar]

Good for you! Yeah chica take it slow and easy but don't sleep. So did EnVogue turn that motha out?

We were dancing our life away...people probably thoughe he was my husband..cause we were on eachother ....but back to the original question

Girl...EnVogue shut that mutha down....I was up in there screaming ..then (since he is very popular in the detroit area) we made it backstage where we kicked it with them all....they are mad cool....it was a night to remember.....The skinny dude from new edition is ...The ladies of EnVogue are HAWT..and Johnny Gill is butterish ....