Black People have the Worst Kind of Hair...

Did anyone say anything to the lil' girl to console her or anything? This just breaks my heart. Plus, I remember an evil hairdresser saying something about my hair when I was maybe 7. I could cry right now... :sad: ...and you know what? Its ONLY HAIR! Why the rant over HAIR? This woman with her nasty *** personality thinks she's better than somebody else? :nono:
 
LadyKaypnyc said:
No, they live in New Jersey...His uncle rarely comes to Harlem, now I now why. He called me to apologize, He said that she got mad when Winnie (his wife) told her that she didn't want her doing her child's hair. That's why she was so pissed when I came over. I told his wife, so I know there is about to be some serious drama when she gets back from DC...
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Please come back and tell us what happens when that baby's mother comes home.
 
TRINITY08 said:
applaud you, I really do. I would have probably left there single.
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Yeah, me too.:ohwell:
Crissi said:
I guess she forgets dominican/hispanic is not a race but an nationality/ethnicity...and i guess she forgets all that negro blood laced in her lineage/DNA. Ughh! And the cheek to take it out on the child/children? Man that would have been the moment i would have lost it...
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cutiebe2 said:
((((HUGS)))))
this is not surprising for Dominicans. Although the way she is handling the situation is extreme, many have some issue with color and hair... I know those on the island do not like natural hair, and it also plays into the whole Haitian-dominican issue

I would be most worried about how she would treat your future children:ohwell:
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WOW :perplexed I am sad and angry at the same time. I believe you handled it well sis. It's a shame though. I'd definitely keep your kids away.
If your SO got your back, then you're alrite.
It's when your SO doesn't want to make waves :nono:...then you got something to think about.
 
I'm sorry but I would have said something. There is no way I would have stood there and took that abuse. I'm kinda mad that you didn't say anything.
 
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don't mind that *****! Some people just feel they don't have enough about themselves to likes so they find things to hate on others. Unfortunately a lot of women (of all diff races/nationalities) have a similar mentality. Thank God your man held down the fort! I know when he starting dating in her household all hell broke loose lol
 
LadyKaypnyc said:
SHE'S the only one that thnks like that, his aunt, who is married to a Black man, is so sweet. His Grandmother had to deal with the same nonsense when she married her husband, his Grandfather (who has a the same complexion as...Steve Harvey). She's the only maniac, I love the rest of them...
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She is going to be a sad and lonely old woman unless she changes her ways. :nono: It's ironic that all the ugly words she uses to describe how black people look on the outside are the same words that describe her insides. :(
 
I'm sorry you had to go through that.
Years ago, my HS sweetheart who is Puerto Rican and I went through so many problems because of his mom. She was ok with me at first but his little brother thought I was Dominican and started telling me a whole bunch of racist things about blacks. He was like 9 so I figured it came from the mother whose own father was darker than me. One time I came over to visit him and my hair was admittedly a mess (long before LCHF!), and they were practically begging me to let them straighten it. I was offended and refused.:wallbash:
 
My blood is boiling...that woman needs a reality check. :wallbash:

She hates black people? WTH is she sleeping with them?

You did a good job keeping your mouth shut with the little girl there, why add to the drama...but you need to let this spiteful racist nutjob know IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS you are PROUD to be a black woman, and your kids will be dominican AND black.
And since she dislikes blacks so much, there's no way you're going to let her near your children to poison their minds and break their little hearts.
 
Dang Lady K, I think I went temporarily blind reading that.:nono:
I'm not surprised though.

Have you ever read this article, it's kind old now but quite informative.
http://www.miamiherald.com/multimedia/news/afrolatin/part2/index.html
It talks about the Dominican cultural rejection of African looking hair. It is so strong that people often shout insults at women with natural curls.

I'm glad to hear that your fiance stood up to his Mom and that he had your back & loves you. Good for him.

But I guess we all have some burden to bear and this is yours.

Keep your head up.
 
Initially he was trying to distract Winnie, she's always been really quit, but during the whole discussion, she looked really upset, but after a while, he couldn't contain himself...

He basically told her that she was just self hating (her father's half dominican/half Hatian). He told her that she will never be apart of our lives b/c she has always been spiteful and mean...that's why she's always going to be alone. When she gets old he'd rather put her in a nursing home than bring her around his family...etc, it got really ugly to the point where I had to finish her hair outside. Then we went home
 
I don't think you should leave him at all. In fact, it's admirable that he was able to stand up to his mother. It's also amirable that he doesn't carry some of her racist attitudes. Thats hard to do when you grow up in a home with a racist. I think this proves he's a keeper.
 
LadyKaypnyc said:
Initially he was trying to distract Winnie, she's always been really quit, but during the whole discussion, she looked really upset, but after a while, he couldn't contain himself...

He basically told her that she was just self hating (her father's half dominican/half Hatian). He told her that she will never be apart of our lives b/c she has always been spiteful and mean...that's why she's always going to be alone. When she gets old he'd rather put her in a nursing home than bring her around his family...etc, it got really ugly to the point where I had to finish her hair outside. Then we went home
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Wow...I'm so glad he stood up to his mom...but I know that had to hurt him. :nono: But he told he rthe truth, she really does hate herself.

I know you two will have a beautiful wedding, and beautiful babies. Let her negativity roll right off your back.
 
WOW...I'm not surprised she thinks that but I'm floored she would say it. Are you close with the 4 year olds black parent...not sure if its the mom or dad, either way you need to have a conversation with them...so they can remove their daughter from experiencing that. That is horrible.
 
Supergirl said:
She is going to be a sad and lonely old woman unless she changes her ways. :nono: It's ironic that all the ugly words she uses to describe how black people look on the outside are the same words that describe her insides. :(
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She already is, her Boyfriend of 7 years left her after she refused to have a baby with him b/c of his naps, his little brother's father left her b/c of the "That's not my baby....he's too dark" comment she made to the nurse when he was born...

It's crazy b/c I knew of all these things beforehand, but since I never witnessed it I thought they were exaggerating....

The fact that he moved out at 16 b/c he didn't want to be around his own mother should have told me something, but I didn't know she could be this :nuts:
 
LadyKaypnyc said:
She already is, her Boyfriend of 7 years left her after she refused to have a baby with him b/c of his naps, his little brother's father left her b/c of the "That's not my baby....he's too dark" comment she made to the nurse when he was born...

It's crazy b/c I knew of all these things beforehand, but since I never witnessed it I thought they were exaggerating....

The fact that he moved out at 16 b/c he didn't want to be around his own mother should have told me something, but I didn't know she could be this :nuts:
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Wow, she's a nutcase. No offense. I pray she get the help she seriously needs.
 
Wow!! :blush:

She really hates herself! Maybe she should have a history lesson because she is seriously confused and in denial!
 
sandyrabbit said:
I don't think you should leave him at all. In fact, it's admirable that he was able to stand up to his mother. It's also amirable that he doesn't carry some of her racist attitudes. Thats hard to do when you grow up in a home with a racist. I think this proves he's a keeper.
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He had to deal with her making those sort of comments to his little brother his whole life, to the point where he just had to move out.

Sadly, his little brother (who is now 18) actually dislikes Black people (his friends, family and me are exceptions to his mostly negative views). He even makes comments about wishing he had GOOD HAIR like his brother.

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Wow...I'm so glad he stood up to his mom...but I know that had to hurt him. :nono: But he told he rthe truth, she really does hate herself.

I know you two will have a beautiful wedding, and beautiful babies. Let her negativity roll right off your back.
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I can tell it hurts him. Before this incident, he already had problems with his mother, but I could tell that he really wanted her to be apart of his life, that's why I tried to be nice to the woman. I even used to make him answer her phone calls and to go see her, now I understand why he avoids her.


senimoni said:
WOW...I'm not surprised she thinks that but I'm floored she would say it. Are you close with the 4 year olds black parent...not sure if its the mom or dad, either way you need to have a conversation with them...so they can remove their daughter from experiencing that. That is horrible.
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Her mother is Black, she will be back on Tuesday. She already called me to get my side of the story, and she is livid!!! She said that she told Luis NOT to bring her to Harlem. He was supposed to bring her to my house, but he was being lazy. So yeah, the drama isn't over, apparently, Winnie called her mother crying about her Titi saying her hair was ugly:nono:

She doesn't get along with my SO's mother, who never treated her with any kind of respect (she also gave her brother a hard time for marrying a Blk woman)
 
i've heard that Dom. women are notorious for being that way. The worst thing (according to them) is to have is "kinky" hair. Why do you think all those Dominican salons are so blowdryer/perm happy? I would love your soon to be hubby (an congratulations by the way) and stay away from that horrible woman!
 
completely o/t but nazarite27... why is your son soooooo friggin HANDSOME (sexy:look:)!

I don't think his hating mother is any reason to leave the man... he clearly has a different pov on things.
 
lawd a mercy......im telling you you are better than me because i would of detached that bishes head off her body
 
LadyKaypnyc said:
She already is, her Boyfriend of 7 years left her after she refused to have a baby with him b/c of his naps, his little brother's father left her b/c of the "That's not my baby....he's too dark" comment she made to the nurse when he was born...

It's crazy b/c I knew of all these things beforehand, but since I never witnessed it I thought they were exaggerating....

The fact that he moved out at 16 b/c he didn't want to be around his own mother should have told me something, but I didn't know she could be this :nuts:
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I don't understand how the "boyrfriends" even got with her in the first place. How the heck did he stay with her for 7 years and put up with her negative attitudes towards black people and he is black himself. I am dumbfounded by that one :perplexed

The boyfriend that left her after the "not my baby" comment....what should I say about that one? Now he should have known that she was like that before he slept with her and made a baby. Why did he wait until after the baby was born to leave her as a single parent when he probably knew her character before all this. Please don't tell me that father is black too...because then I would really be dumbfounded.


She must have some good stuff. Cause I don't see how these black men can want to be with someone like that.
 
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I'm just so glad you got there before she managed to get the relaxer in her hair!!!! Whooowee, that would have been ugly, right there!
 
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