The one time it was implied that I hadn't combed my hair was the one time I hadn't and was walking around looking crazy trusting a stylist that told me that my do was worth $80 and would get better with time.
Hubby-mine was disgusted by the whole do (which I hadn't really looked at properly yet) and even more so coz I'd cut my hair and hardly said a word to me. My neighbor, a 70-year old white guy, loves short hair on black women and while I was sad about the unasked-for BC, I needed a boost and went over to visit them (his wife 65 is a good friend of mine). Dude had a big grin as he saw me walking up to their home while he was by his car. Then when I got close, he had this look of concern and then spread his fingers out to resemble a pick and motioned the act of combing and said, "It could use a little...."
When I saw his wife, she smiled to be polite but had a look of confusion coz she's seen me do my hair normally and always loved it, but this was different LOL. I got the feeling she was afraid to say what she really thought coz maybe it's a
black thang and she just wasn't getting it. To break the silence I said I was told it'd "drop and get fluffy in a couple of days." I could've sworn I heard a sigh of relief as she said, "Oh OK."
I have to admit, when I took a good look at my hair with a second mirror, I couldn't agree more with them.
When I did my WNG puff the previous year, my hubby wasn't too keen on the do. I too have to admit I didn't care too much for it when I saw pics of it. I'm not a fan of chunky afros and for the WNG, I didn't rake a comb through my hair as I normally do, hence the chunky results (Close up, you'd see coils. From far, it just looks chunky...which to some can look uncombed):
Growing up in Kenya, twist-outs, braid-outs, chunky afros would not have been allowed in any of the schools I went to, so I guess I got accustomed to seeing only Bernie Mac's kind of afro (or anything approaching that) as being combed. Indeed an afro does get messy as the day goes by, as any hairdo can. Heck, Bernie's afro wasn't always a perfect microphone, but it is still clearly a combed afro that might need a bit of patting but not necessarily:
But I personally don't feel "cute" if wearing my hair out and haven't combed it, and since my hair is fairly the same length all around and shrinks, a combed out round afro (or close enough to one) is a very easy style to create with a pick and a little patting. It's not so easy to create if your comb has short teeth.
I did once create a do that I felt so uncomfortable with and was shocked no one else found it ugly. I had done a
twist-out on hair w/o product (<---my usual way) but a friend told me to use a concoction of S Curl Gel, Cocoa Butter stick (melted) and Beeswax for my next twist out.
The result was this:
I knew for sure my hubby would beg me to wear a hat before we left home, but he said he didn't mind it at all.
My friends actually loved it.
Go figure! I personally didn't like it so needless to say, I never repeated the do.
I love 4B hair, but I don't always like the way it's styled. It's got nothing to do with hating on texture. I just have a preference for classic hairdos. (I once posted old pics of 4B hair and how it was worn back in the day. I'm a little old fashioned and stuck in those times.
) In fact the day I created my Lisa Simpson hairstyle, it was totally by accident. I wanted a nice round dome shape but the hair kept separating into chunks that would've been tails of the cornrows if I had braided to the ends. I gave up fighting my hair to make it do what I wanted and just patted it into place, and voila! I had discovered a do that grew on me by the end of that day and became one of my favorites:
What's so funny is, I am so sure of my great taste in hair styles (whether delusional or not) that I don't think anyone can tell me anything about my hair that can affect how *I* personally feel about it. I've told you all of that curled twist hairdo that my hubby hates with a passion that happens to be one of my favorites. In fact, just for my own amusement (and anyone that hasn't seen it), I'll post it again. (Hubby says it looks like I have tarantulas on my head
; I personally think the do is fiyah!
)
