I dated a man like this. He was such a dead beat dad. I always pushed him to see his son. He used to lie to me when he made plans with me. He'd tell me he couldnt get his son this weekend and all kinds of excuses then I would find out later that he just didnt feel like picking up his son.
One year he lost his job. I was pulling in good money at the time so i gave him money every weekend to take his son out ( if nothing else....i knew he'd need help with this). He lived in ny so i gave enough to take him somewhere fun and enough money for traveling around the city for subways and all that. One day after a few months he was in the shower and his phone rang. I saw that it was his son's mom so i answered. She asked me if i can please talk to him about seeing his son. I told her that he was unemployed and that I was helping him out to be able to see his son but money was alittle tight in the past week (she was a nice person and was usually understanding of that type of situation). WELL....she tells me yea but he hasn't seen him in a while. I asked her what she was talking about and that i had been helping him all summer to see him. Her response??? "He hasn't come to see his son since early this year".
I grilled him when he came out of the shower to find out where the money was going only to find out that instead of seeing his son on weekends, it was going towards partying, clubbing, and drinking with his "boys" every weekend.
Can you imagine??? In case you're wondering. We weren't living together. So to give him his time with his son, I would see him on friday afternoon and then wouldnt see him again until maybe tuesday or so which made it easy for him to get away with it.
He would make up all kinds of lies too about things him and his son were doing and how much fun they had over the weekend and EVERYTHING!!!!!!
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whew.....that was a tough day. It took everything in me not to knock him the F*** out.