This mostly a vent and let me preface this by saying a have some really good girlfriends and I love them like they’re my sisters, we’re in our mid 30’s to early 40’s, educated, successful and looking for the one. And some of them still put up with men who are unfaithful and below is just the latest scenario. Am I the only one who’s willing to walk away from a relationship if it’s built on lies?
I have a friend who said her boyfriend of 3.5 years received a couple of text from other women that said something like “I miss you; I woke up with you on my mind etc.” Also one of the text was from a man as well and she asked me if I think he's on the DL. Although, he keeps his cell out in the open it’s locked but you can read some of the text messages as it comes in. She’s asked him to change his number and he said “no”. She also found some cards. He always says that the other ladies are just friends.
My problem is that I’m just so annoyed; we make list, we talk about what we want, what things are deal breakers and basically when to move on. But then compromise your desires when you find out he isn't honest because you love him. Why do we ask our girlfriends, questions we already know the answer too?
This man is attractive, he’s over 6 ft tall, he’s educated, he an executive, he makes over $150,000 a year, he has his own house which is very nice and a couple of luxury cars. My point is on paper he’s a dream but let’s face reality he’s not marriage material.
But she continues to stay and I decided a long time ago I’m not going to tell someone what to do with their relationship but it’s quite obvious to me he’s a liar and a cheater. I feel hurt for her because she doesn’t have the strength to find the relationship she wants. Why can’t she just accept it and stop making a big deal about his indiscretions since she’s staying?
All of this non sense reminds me of college and my early 20’s when I wanted the relationship so bad I’d believe the lies even though I knew better. At this stage of my life, a liar and cheater won’t occupy the same space with me regardless of how much I Love him. I’m so over being addicted to love, just to have someone in my life.
What am I to do?
I have a friend who said her boyfriend of 3.5 years received a couple of text from other women that said something like “I miss you; I woke up with you on my mind etc.” Also one of the text was from a man as well and she asked me if I think he's on the DL. Although, he keeps his cell out in the open it’s locked but you can read some of the text messages as it comes in. She’s asked him to change his number and he said “no”. She also found some cards. He always says that the other ladies are just friends.
My problem is that I’m just so annoyed; we make list, we talk about what we want, what things are deal breakers and basically when to move on. But then compromise your desires when you find out he isn't honest because you love him. Why do we ask our girlfriends, questions we already know the answer too?
This man is attractive, he’s over 6 ft tall, he’s educated, he an executive, he makes over $150,000 a year, he has his own house which is very nice and a couple of luxury cars. My point is on paper he’s a dream but let’s face reality he’s not marriage material.
But she continues to stay and I decided a long time ago I’m not going to tell someone what to do with their relationship but it’s quite obvious to me he’s a liar and a cheater. I feel hurt for her because she doesn’t have the strength to find the relationship she wants. Why can’t she just accept it and stop making a big deal about his indiscretions since she’s staying?
All of this non sense reminds me of college and my early 20’s when I wanted the relationship so bad I’d believe the lies even though I knew better. At this stage of my life, a liar and cheater won’t occupy the same space with me regardless of how much I Love him. I’m so over being addicted to love, just to have someone in my life.
What am I to do?
