bravenewgirl87
New Member
I don't think that was the point some of us were trying to make. There are many levels between CEO and having nothing. I don't believe that attorneys are going after waitresses, because they are not. However, not every attorney is going after another attorney, doctor, or CPA. Two people can be on the same level intellectually without having equally prestigious careers and equal earnings. It all depends on what the individual is seeking.
I agree that men with degrees seek women with degrees, and these men are attracted to women with careers as opposed to jobs. However, many of these men are more attracted to the idea of having a home cooked meal when they get home than the idea of a wife who is working 45-70 hours a week. This is why I personally know many school teachers who married up. It's almost as if a school teacher was an attractive career to many of these successful men.
I understand where you coming from BUT,
A teacher and a lawyer are both two professionals. They have way more opportunity to meet one another. They have way opportunities to meet one another than a waitress and an attorney. It's about the access and I'm not one to get a pretty girl's hope up into thinking she's going to marry into riches just for being good-looking. Every girl wants that and every man is too savvy to give it to her.
Professionals live in completely different arenas than Bomquaqua on the street but people make it seem as if the come-up is that easy to obtain. I could understand a professor/college student falling for each other but, it seems as if this board disregard the obvious class-disparity. Quite a few members here seem to suggest that looks alone can get you access to well-off/powerful men.
I also resent the latter statement. That's cute, being Holly Homemaker. I, myself, am an excellent cook. But, if you're a modern man raised in a post-feminist society you probably expect to marry Superwoman, meaning she can do it all. Many professional men expect their women to be able to hold down the fort and bring home, at least, a sliver of bacon. The only group of men I've ever heard who would rather a woman be an old-fashioned homemaker --exclusively--are AA men. Non-black men who expect women to watch the kids and stay home typically are raised with mothers who were homemakers.