girlonfire
Well-Known Member
I really need some advice on a matter that has been bothering me for a while.
For a year or 2 I've had my eye on a guy who goes to my church. He's beautiful, I'm working on a drawing of him.
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*ahem* I've never never said more than a few words to him like "good morning" in the early morning services, "good night" at prayer meetings and "thank you" when he opens a door for me.
I KNOW he's attracted to me because we sort of have a little game where we look at each other and look away repeatedly, smiling and laughing and what not.
I would love to say more to him, but there are 2 things in my way: my pride, the church and my mother
This guy is maybe 21 23 max (sorry about the gap, don't even know the guys name!) and I'm 17 going on 18 in less than 2 months. This guy has his own car, a job, a sense of self (he's really involved in the church), and friends...I have none of that. I really believe that when two people come together, they have to be at the same level or point in their life for it to work. My own pride and beliefs are keeping me from talking to him.
Then there's my mother...she's so harsh! She literally gives no hockey pucks! I'm afraid of her being all in my business asking me all these questions, being the C in the AB relationship.
Our church is very small. I'm afraid that if he and I even begin to talk I'm going to have all kinds of people who weren't talking to me before ALSO all in my business and then I'm going to be pressured to actually participate in church functions, fundraisers, etc.
Do I sound paranoid or are my reasons valid. Thanks
For a year or 2 I've had my eye on a guy who goes to my church. He's beautiful, I'm working on a drawing of him.
.*ahem* I've never never said more than a few words to him like "good morning" in the early morning services, "good night" at prayer meetings and "thank you" when he opens a door for me.
I KNOW he's attracted to me because we sort of have a little game where we look at each other and look away repeatedly, smiling and laughing and what not.
I would love to say more to him, but there are 2 things in my way: my pride, the church and my mother
This guy is maybe 21 23 max (sorry about the gap, don't even know the guys name!) and I'm 17 going on 18 in less than 2 months. This guy has his own car, a job, a sense of self (he's really involved in the church), and friends...I have none of that. I really believe that when two people come together, they have to be at the same level or point in their life for it to work. My own pride and beliefs are keeping me from talking to him.
Then there's my mother...she's so harsh! She literally gives no hockey pucks! I'm afraid of her being all in my business asking me all these questions, being the C in the AB relationship.
Our church is very small. I'm afraid that if he and I even begin to talk I'm going to have all kinds of people who weren't talking to me before ALSO all in my business and then I'm going to be pressured to actually participate in church functions, fundraisers, etc.
Do I sound paranoid or are my reasons valid. Thanks
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and have fun
This is so cute. I remember the days of teenage crushes: they are so wonderful and horrible at the same time. If this were any other circumstance, I'd say move on, he's not interested. But y'all are so young and innocent that he's probably scared. Break the ice and just say something. 
he knows.
