A Single Girl's Wish

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dinanicole

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I wish I had a man...

that had the hots for me.
that respects me as a woman and partner
that is 6'1 and taller (lol)
that couldn't wait to wife me up (lol) aka date a while then ask me to be his g/f
that made time for me to be in his life
that shared himself with me. (mind/emotions/spirit)
that would cook with me
that was very affectionate and loving
that liked romancing me
that was patient with me

I wish I had a man that was perfect for ME!
From my fingertips to God's ears lol......
I officially want to be in a loving relationship now and I accept this feeling of wanting companionship. It doesn't make me weak. It makes me human.

I realize that I need more attention that I let myself believe. I'm usually the woman that acts like I don't care u know? But I do. and its ok ...:yep:
(just gettin this off my chest)...

What are somethings that you ladies realized about yourselves in relationships.. the good and the bad..?
 
About myself? I realize that my feelings aren't the only valid ones. That in any argument I need to take the time to consider (no matter how right I think I am) the reason my partner is angry as well.

May seem elementary but this was hard for me to accomplish and this realization has made a world of difference for me.
 
Finally learning that it's actually OK to be single. Relationships are hard work, marriage is hard work.

Like the ladies on the board have said, when someone shows you who you really are, believe them.
 
I wish I had a man...

Thats respectful towards EVERYONE
Thats nice and tall, Im talmbout at least taller than me. Preferably over 6"
That opened up to me and felt comfortable and safe to share his secrets, emotions, etc
Thats affectionate
That has a sense of humour and intelligence
That appreciate me for me. Simply
 
I wish I could stop feeling like I need to be in a relationship. I can't wait for the day that i'm completely comfy with being by myself. I'm totally in love with myself, but not the thought of being by myself. I wish someone would love me as much as I love myself.
 
Ladies our guys are already here, around somewhere but they are here. The rendez-vous just hasn't happened yet...but they are here:drunk:. Keep the faith!

To answer OP's question, I realise that the relationships I had served to teach me something as has my life as a whole to bring me to the point at which I am now. I used to look back and say I'm never going through that again. Now I'm like wait, why did we break up again? He wasn't so bad:) My perspective shifted. I am very happy right where I stand. But I also know that like me, there's a guy around here somewhere that had to go through his own life experiences to get to the point he's at now so when we meet, we'll just gel. I think that may be happening right now for me but we'll see. The "rendez-vous" ladies have to happen because the guys are already here.
 
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Curlybeauty said:
I wish I could stop feeling like I need to be in a relationship. I can't wait for the day that i'm completely comfy with being by myself. I'm totally in love with myself, but not the thought of being by myself. I wish someone would love me as much as I love myself.
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i have the same wish!:yep:
 
I wish a guy would want me as his woman and not his homie for a change.

I understand i have this easy going no big deal but i don't play that mess...vibe. I have never been in a relationship ya'll...bc i've always been afraid to go there....and also bc guys don't look at me as gf material. And the ones that do want to try to control me and i'm too powerful for that.

Like OP i'm coming to terms that i do need more attention than what i get from friends and family. I want some REAL sense of being wanted and loved and belonging all in one person. I wanna be able to call that special guy "my man"...i've NEVER been able to say that!!!

I'm tired of being jealous of my friends bc they're all lovey dovey or they're not but they know what it's like to be in love....i've never been in love. Must be something good to it if everybody is so focused on it.

It's hard.:cry:
 
^ love will happen for you. I'm glad you understand where I am coming from.
It is very scary to go there but you know what I told myself. I said self " Go out there and live!" I don't want to let days pass where I don't feel like I'm taking advatange of living.
sounds so cliche! (sigh) I dunno.

At the very least our hair will be fabooo!! lmao
 
SmilingElephant said:
I wish a guy would want me as his woman and not his homie for a change.

I understand i have this easy going no big deal but i don't play that mess...vibe. I have never been in a relationship ya'll...bc i've always been afraid to go there....and also bc guys don't look at me as gf material. And the ones that do want to try to control me and i'm too powerful for that.

Like OP i'm coming to terms that i do need more attention than what i get from friends and family. I want some REAL sense of being wanted and loved and belonging all in one person. I wanna be able to call that special guy "my man"...i've NEVER been able to say that!!!

I'm tired of being jealous of my friends bc they're all lovey dovey or they're not but they know what it's like to be in love....i've never been in love. Must be something good to it if everybody is so focused on it.

It's hard.:cry:
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^ I totally feel ya. Never been in relationship either (not even close) and I celebrated my 25 bday in Jan. First real date and first kiss as an adult at 23. Undergrad in college was a real DRY SPELL. I guess there were guys who liked me throughout the years (from I what I heard and from what I observed) but they never truly approached or were direct about it and I didn't want to assume and be aggressive about it. Actually two guys told me how much they liked me all 4 years within a week of graduation, but it was already too late. Go Figure. The Guys who approached me after college mostly turned out to be unsavory characters that wanted too much too fast. Last guy who tried me for a while did not seem to be as unsavory, but the compatibility and attraction was just not there at all for me even though I tried to like him for nearly 9 months. I too want to know what it is like to fall in love, have a real boyfriend and be in a true relationship and at least maybe actually put "in a relationship" on facebook for once in all the 6 years I've been on facebook. :perplexed I guess. I do kind of know what I want. Most of all I want a guy who I am really attracted to and that will truly wait for me until we are married.
 
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^^I feel you...

I'm sort of in the same boat. But I've learned a lot from my past heartbreaks and experiences with different guys and have in turn learned more about myself, what I need, and what I want (and DON'T want) in a man...a potential husband. I've also been working more on myself to become the type of WOMAN that the type of man I want would be attracted to. :yep:

As a currently single woman, here is what I *expect* to find in a man:
-A man who truly loves, cherishes, and adores me
-A man who respects me
-A man who loves himself, loves God, and knows how to treat others well
-A man who is attractive, not just physically, but also internally
-A man who I'M personally ATTRACTED to emotionally, physically, intellectually, and spiritually
-A man who fully pursues me and knows how to treat me like a lady
-A man who brings out the BEST in me, and I the best in HIM
-A man who is like my best friend :yep:
-A man I feel comfortable with (they say when it's "right"...you just "know"....well, I want to "KNOW" what that feels like! :grin: )


So...those are just a few of the TOP things I would like to find in the man that I meet this year. :yep: I EXPECT to meet him...I don't just "wish" and "hope" anymore. :nono2: Wishing and hoping is for the birds. :rolleyes:
 
I wish I had a man...

-That's on my level financially. I'm used to a certain level of comfort and I want a guy that can keep up. I'm tired of being a sugar mama.
-That's well educated, well read, well traveled, and is at least bi-lingual. I get bored easily, so I need someone who's intellectually stimulating and can show me something new.
-That's tall and skinny and covered in tattoos. I'm not attracted to boring, normal looking men.
-Likes rock music
-That I can trust, confide in, and be vulnerable with
-That's sexually experienced
-Same politics: gay friendly, green, feminist
-Who calls me on my bullsh*t. Otherwise I'll walk all over him.
 
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