52 Weeks to Find My Husband
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Belle Du Jour
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I applaud her boldness. Although it looks as though it didn't work out, hey, she put herself and her intentions out there. Hopefully she will continue to look for Mr. Right until she finds him.
mscocoface
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I was wondering what would happend if she did NOT find him in 52 weeks.
nappystorm
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I'm going to try some of these steps. While I'm not looking for a husband, I am always looking for new things to do and ways to expand my network and make new friends.
Bunny77
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I've enjoyed following her blog and was hoping it would work out too.
However, I think I see what "might" be the problem... she seems like a delightful woman, but I think she's not good at dating. I've read some of her date descriptions, and it seems like she decides instantly whether she's attracted or not, and I bet that vibe comes through with certain men... so she often doesn't get calls for second dates.
Also, she hasn't really defined her "niche." She didn't figure out until September, for example, that men in the late 30s-early 40s age range might not be the best for her (even though that's her age range) because they might want children. By focusing on that group, she might have passed up other men who weren't looking for kids or who had their kids and were fine not having more.
She also attended certain events only one time and then never went back. Just because one night at the bowling alley, wine tasting, Home Depot, etc., didn't work doesn't mean that a different night wouldn't be a better option.
I liked her style and her ideas, but a lot of her actual plans weren't well thought out. I hope she does find someone wonderful though!
However, I think I see what "might" be the problem... she seems like a delightful woman, but I think she's not good at dating. I've read some of her date descriptions, and it seems like she decides instantly whether she's attracted or not, and I bet that vibe comes through with certain men... so she often doesn't get calls for second dates.
Also, she hasn't really defined her "niche." She didn't figure out until September, for example, that men in the late 30s-early 40s age range might not be the best for her (even though that's her age range) because they might want children. By focusing on that group, she might have passed up other men who weren't looking for kids or who had their kids and were fine not having more.
She also attended certain events only one time and then never went back. Just because one night at the bowling alley, wine tasting, Home Depot, etc., didn't work doesn't mean that a different night wouldn't be a better option.
I liked her style and her ideas, but a lot of her actual plans weren't well thought out. I hope she does find someone wonderful though!
soulfusion
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My good friend did this. She is very analytical and focused about most things (engineer) and approached her search for a husband the same way. She met her now husband on BPM and "interviewed" quite a few men before they connected. She'd meet the interesting ones over coffee and most didn't make it past that point. She was extremely focused and didn't waste time with the ones that didn't meet her parameters.
I'll have to ask her how long the whole process took, but guessing I'd say less than 2 years from putting her profile up to saying "I do". She married her hubby probably 6-7 months from when they initially started talking.
I'll have to ask her how long the whole process took, but guessing I'd say less than 2 years from putting her profile up to saying "I do". She married her hubby probably 6-7 months from when they initially started talking.
Bunny77
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This is how I approached it too. I'm extremely analytical as well (folks said I should have gone to law school, but law bores me
), so when people tried to tell me that relationships "just happen" and that I should "do nothing," well, nothing happened or I kept falling flat on my face because I failed to recognize that approach just DOES. NOT. WORK. FOR. ME.(It certainly works for others though, and that's cool.
) I met my boyfriend in April and he's hinting at an engagement around our 1-year anniversary. So if this all works out as I hope, I'd say it would have been a little less than two years between "Hello, nice to meet you," and "I do."
soulfusion
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You know I was pretty skeptical when she told me what she was going to do. Although they haven't been married very long, I'm calling it a success. I really, really LIKE the guy and can see that he is totally invested in her happiness.
From what you've shared, I see you on the same trajectory. I'd bet money that it's going to work the same way for you!
From what you've shared, I see you on the same trajectory. I'd bet money that it's going to work the same way for you!
Bunny77
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Thanks.
I think a lot of folks (myself included in the past) think that with this approach, you just pick anyone or settle with anyone because you want to meet a certain timeline. Now that certainly can happen, but what I've found from my own experience is that you actually end up being a lot more picky.
You meet a LOT of men, and toss them to the side quickly if they say they're not looking for anything serious, etc. Without all that clutter, it makes it easy to then notice the right ones who are more serious.
I think too that if one was desperate, she'd pick the first "decent" guy she met... which I haven't yet seen to be the case.
This is the best relationship I've had too, so the plan definitely worked for me... but again, you have to really define what you want and how you're going to go about getting it... the woman who did the 52 Weeks challenge, in my opinion, had a great idea, but no real plan.
hopeful
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This is how I approached it too. I'm extremely analytical as well (folks said I should have gone to law school, but law bores me
(It certainly works for others though, and that's cool.
I met my boyfriend in April and he's hinting at an engagement around our 1-year anniversary. So if this all works out as I hope, I'd say it would have been a little less than two years between "Hello, nice to meet you," and "I do."
How exciting! I've been patiently waiting for an update
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