bajandoc86
Lipstick Lover
Oh no! ((Hugs))
Thanks sis.
Oh no! ((Hugs))
When a guy likes you romantically you know. You feel it. He stood you up once already. I'd cut my losses and move on. There are other men out there who won't leave you guessing.Two weeks ago a guy at Starbucks approached me. He asked about my life and blah blah blah. He said he's seen me there many times before. Turns out we have running and a love for the outdoors in common. Oh and being totally judgy in public. We're good at that. Anyway, he said twice during the conversation that he was late for work but couldnt bring himself to leave because he was having so much fun talking. His boss called and he had to leave but he asked to meet me there again soon. I agreed. The next two meetings are more of the same. Chatting, people watching, etc. At the end of the last one, he asks to meet me there again soon and says my coffee is on him. He also says we can pick a place to run together and get lunch afterwards. But im getting a little annoyed since all of our convo has been platonic and he hasnt made it clear what he wants. I cant tell if he *likes likes* me, but i know he likes me in general. I appreciate the lunch date and all, but why not ask for my number? Anyway, the day we are scheduled to meet again comes and he doesnt show. If he had my number he could have called. But he doesnt. That was wednesday of last week. I havent decided if i want to go by Starbucks tomorrow around the time we originally agreed on to see if he will show up. Im kinda in my feelings because im really not looking for a new male friend. Especially since i find him attractive. But he behaves like he just wants a new friend. I'd rather go back to my solo coffee trips than spend the whole time talking to him or anyone else. Men -__-
Big hugs honeyWell now, my boo is no longer my boo.
I second this.When a guy likes you romantically you know. You feel it. He stood you up once already. I'd cut my losses and move on. There are other men out there who won't leave you guessing.
He knows what he's doing. Trust. Men are a lot smarter than we give them credit for. If you feel compelled about telling him you're cutting him off then take a step back and ask yourself why? What are you hoping to accomplish or have happen by telling him? I mean there's a reason you want to cut him off in the first place. In my experience it doesn't really help in the long run. It might fix the offending behavior temporarily but not for long. Save your breath and energy. Less talking. More showing. Actions speak louder than words.I second this.
I am very direct though so would you tell him before cutting him off? Maybe he doesn't know what to think on how to approach you about dating...?
Oh ok. I see your point now. Some men really can't tell sometimes when a woman is interested. It is risky telling him but it beats months of regrets by not telling him. I say go for it.I don't mean tell him she is cutting him off. I mean tell him she likes him/ is interested. Maybe he isn't picking up the clues (some guys are dense/ afraid of being rejected). If she were more direct, he would know without question and she can evaluate his actions from that point before deciding what to do.
I am a person who doesn't waste time, so I don't advocate a woman wasting hers on someone, especially if she has a goal like marriage. HOWEVER, something I have realized after years of dating... People aren't mind readers and some men are dense. A LOT of men are afraid of rejection. Men have feelings too and sometimes they rather protect their ego than put themselves out there. For me, the direct approach has worked. If a man wasn't on the same page- thank you because we didn't waste time and I don't ever have to live with the what ifs.
Yay- where y'all going?He's been such a sweetheart. I've had some irritating medical issues and he has been a great support during this time. I am finally on my last dosage of antibiotics, and in the nick of time. Vacation starts March 13, and I'm so excited it'll be with him!
Feel better soon!He's been such a sweetheart. I've had some irritating medical issues and he has been a great support during this time. I am finally on my last dosage of antibiotics, and in the nick of time. Vacation starts March 13, and I'm so excited it'll be with him!
We are taking a cruise through Mexico I've been on many cruises but this is his first so I'm gonna follow his lead on everything and relax like no other!! And even out this tanYay- where y'all going?
All relationships are give and take. Try and find your happy medium againThe last two weeks have shown me that I could actually lose him. I think I took it for granted that I could act any kind of way and he would always be there. I think sometimes we, well I, forget that I have the power to break his heart.
I've been making a concerted effort to let him know how appreciated he is.
I'm sorry for your loss.i was on my way to bed but something told me to get on facebook and i ended up going to an ex's page, the guy i lost my virginity to. it was blank as if he'd made it private and it had "remembering" over his name. my stomach dropped but i tried to convince myself it was some sort of joke because he does/did **** like this. i went to his sister's page and saw that he'd died a few weeks ago. he committed suicide. he was one of the funniest, most outgoing, charming people i've ever met in my life. he was an ******* but a lovable one.
i can't get over the fact this happened right in my back yard. we have been living in the same city for months, hundreds of miles away from where we met, just minutes away from each other and i had no idea.
i never thought i would see or speak to him again but i can't wrap my mind around it not even being a possibility.
Big hugs honeyi can't get over the fact this happened right in my back yard.