summertimewine
*sips tea*
Hmm you've been separated for less than a year and you think you've matured and changed that much? Not to say you haven't but it seems silly to say that. IMO you seem to just want back that familiarity. And for him to not reach out to for four days and then to preemptively break up with you seems narcissistic on his end. I had men who I only saw once text me good morning/goodnight messages everyday, whether or not I responded. Even if you were being fickle with your expression of love, sending someone a text is one of the easiest forms of love communication.I miss my ex. I don't know if he is dating anyone at the moment. And we agreed after our breakup that we were not going to have any animosity towards each other. One of the things I did say on impulse during our break up was "I don't chase men". In response to the fact that I didn't hear from him for 4 days. The fact that he did not contact me for 4 days may make him seem like a POS. However considering I wasn't an affectionate girlfriend. There were times I may have made him feel unloved. So I have faults too. We broke up like May 2015. And I kind of want us to get back together because I think I was really immature and clueless back then. Being that I never dated anyone. I guess in a sense I still haven't officially dated anyone. But I know what I want now.
We actually had a chat like 2 weeks ago via text. I got busy with something and the convo died. But he did update me a bit on his life. I told him I was proud of him. And I recommended a facebook group I thought he and his brother would enjoy. I don't want us to get back together immediately or anything. As there are a few things I need to get in order first.
A part of me says, well wouldn't it be better for him to contact you. Where is your pride? Doesn't this defeat the purpose of saying "I don't chase men". But I don't see that happening. Can someone give me some advice? In thread or privately. Doesn't matter. I can give more details just didn't want to have like a bunch of paragraphs lol.
Thanks.
Have you dated? What forms of self love do you practice?