2016 Relationship And Dating Thread

[GoGoChik]

Went on a date with a guy I met at the metro station two days ago. He said that he's a consultant for Deloitte. However, I think he's lying. Here's what I observed:

1. He had the scraggly, unshaven look with lots of taco meat around the jawline. And the line in the back of his head was uneven.

2. He mispronounced many words like oyster (Ohster) and scared (scurred).

3. He's ridiculously touchy feely for a first date, like putting his hands around my waist and pulling me closer to him. And just lots of random touches here and there.

4. We were supposed to meet at 9ish. He shows up at 9:25. Fine with me because we could've caught the 10pm show. However, he said that he needed to get on metro before it closed. So he purchased tix for 10pm show, but we went into the 9pm.

5. He talked almost the entire movie. Wrongly predicting the outcome for each scene, throwing in tidbits about how the movie relates to his life, recapping each scene...I was like stfu. Dude sitting next to us kept looking over and was like stfu.

6. He paid for the tix but I used my regal club card for points. The cashier announced that I had a free popcorn, which he wanted to use. No big deal except he declined butter and he hogged the bag.

7. He said he attended Howard and American U. I asked if he did grad school at AU, he said no, he transferred from Howard. And I was oh, why...and he says because his aunt works at AU, he got a family plan discount...

Sooo, he wants to go to a museum on Sunday. Gonna let him know tomorrow that I'm not interested at all.

And the search continues...

 

[FemmeFatale]

Never ever discuss or even worse display how well your husband/SO treats you. I just read a thread on another board about this YouTube couple and I'm honestly shocked at how much hate the preggo wife gets all because she has a great husband who goes above and beyond for her. They are waiting like sick, sad vultures for the downfall of their marriage even though the couple has been together for decades. Hateful heaux I tell ya, smh.

 

[bajandoc86]

Never ever discuss or even worse display how well your husband/SO treats you. I just read a thread on another board about this YouTube couple and I'm honestly shocked at how much hate the preggo wife gets all because she has a great husband who goes above and beyond for her. They are waiting like sick, sad vultures for the downfall of their marriage even though the couple has been together for decades. Hateful heaux I tell ya, smh.

You ain't lying. I learnt this the hard way years ago. Outside of this board and my extremely close friends and family I do not say a word about my SO. Anyone who only gets a peek into my life from social media would think I am chronically single.

 

[MCMLXXXIV]

You ain't lying. I learnt this the hard way years ago. Outside of this board and my extremely close friends and family I do not say a word about my SO. Anyone who only gets a peek into my life from social media would think I am chronically single.

I don't even share much with my family, too many women who want what you have and if they can't have it they want to run it.

 

[MCMLXXXIV]

Never ever discuss or even worse display how well your husband/SO treats you. I just read a thread on another board about this YouTube couple and I'm honestly shocked at how much hate the preggo wife gets all because she has a great husband who goes above and beyond for her. They are waiting like sick, sad vultures for the downfall of their marriage even though the couple has been together for decades. Hateful heaux I tell ya, smh.

Is this a black couple currently expecting?

 

[FemmeFatale]

Is this a black couple currently expecting?

Yes Sande and Juice. I've been following them for a little while and she's preggo with twins and has a hubby that cares for her very well. The women went IINNNNN on her talking about how she's lazy, running him ragged, she doesn't deserves him, he's going to leave etc. She's a well kept black woman and a lot of people can't handle that. She gets a lot of hate.

Meanwhile they've been together for 20+ years.

 

[bajandoc86]

I really like watching Sande and Juice. Man Juice LOVES him some Sande, I'm really happy for them and this new phase in their life.

 

[FemmeFatale]

You ain't lying. I learnt this the hard way years ago. Outside of this board and my extremely close friends and family I do not say a word about my SO. Anyone who only gets a peek into my life from social media would think I am chronically single.

Yes sadly it's the smart way to go. I'm the same way, no one but our family and close friends know anything. And the tidbits I share here.

 

[FemmeFatale]

I really like watching Sande and Juice. Man Juice LOVES him some Sande, I'm really happy for them and this new phase in their life.

Yes it's very obvious too, that's why I was shocked when I read the thread. They talk about how dirty the house is, how often they eat out cause she can't cook, that he's always cooking and that she takes advantage of him. I'm convinced that these fonts have never seen a man love and cater to his wife.

 

[LoveLiLi]

Yes Sande and Juice. I've been following them for a little while and she's preggo with twins and has a hubby that cares for her very well. The women went IINNNNN on her talking about how she's lazy, running him ragged, she doesn't deserves him, he's going to leave etc. She's a well kept black woman and a lot of people can't handle that. She gets a lot of hate.

Meanwhile they've been together for 20+ years.

Yikes! What is wrong with people? I think the hater in my life is my mom. She says the craziest, most unnecessary things to the men in my life and taints the way they view me.

I swear she's doing it even now and I'll never have anything good unless I can keep my spouse from meeting her.

 

[MCMLXXXIV]

Yes Sande and Juice. I've been following them for a little while and she's preggo with twins and has a hubby that cares for her very well. The women went IINNNNN on her talking about how she's lazy, running him ragged, she doesn't deserves him, he's going to leave etc. She's a well kept black woman and a lot of people can't handle that. She gets a lot of hate.

Meanwhile they've been together for 20+ years.

I saw that thread and thought the same thing.

 

[Fine 4s]

I didn't like that a friend's SO sees her debt before marriage as HERS after marriage. It should be THEIRS. I'm not gonna lie, I used to think like that too but I realized that marriage is a partnership.
It really bothered me! To think that I used to be like this....and I'm sure I'll have less debt than my future husband who will stand to benefit from my help and income.
*Sigh*

 

[sweetvi]

Never ever discuss or even worse display how well your husband/SO treats you. I just read a thread on another board about this YouTube couple and I'm honestly shocked at how much hate the preggo wife gets all because she has a great husband who goes above and beyond for her. They are waiting like sick, sad vultures for the downfall of their marriage even though the couple has been together for decades. Hateful heaux I tell ya, smh.

Girl!! My friend went through that. His side ofthe family cant stan d her and her own sisters r jealous of them. She has a big house, 2 healthy children and a happy marriage..crazy

 

[movingforward13]

You ain't lying. I learnt this the hard way years ago. Outside of this board and my extremely close friends and family I do not say a word about my SO. Anyone who only gets a peek into my life from social media would think I am chronically single.

I don't even tell family and friends.
"Mom" just asked me the other day if I was still seeing Lee. I told her I am exploring my options and switched the topic.

 

[FelaShrine]

Never ever discuss or even worse display how well your husband/SO treats you. I just read a thread on another board about this YouTube couple and I'm honestly shocked at how much hate the preggo wife gets all because she has a great husband who goes above and beyond for her. They are waiting like sick, sad vultures for the downfall of their marriage even though the couple has been together for decades. Hateful heaux I tell ya, smh.

depending on the board the responses shouldn't surprise you

Is it Sande from thesocialite life? Tis the only yter I know thats currently pregnant.

 

[FelaShrine]

Yes Sande and Juice. I've been following them for a little while and she's preggo with twins and has a hubby that cares for her very well. The women went IINNNNN on her talking about how she's lazy, running him ragged, she doesn't deserves him, he's going to leave etc. She's a well kept black woman and a lot of people can't handle that. She gets a lot of hate.

Meanwhile they've been together for 20+ years.

should have read the rest of the thread

I figured it would be them. Sad.

didn't know they were together that long though! Im happy for them, boy-girl twins are awesome.

 

[Phoenix14]

I really like when we have lazy just us days. That's all.

 

[Blessed&higlyflavoured]

Girl!! My friend went through that. His side ofthe family cant stan d her and her own sisters r jealous of them. She has a big house, 2 healthy children and a happy marriage..crazy

This is my mummy

Her sisters, Daddy's sisters. they were hating until they found husbands of their own and now they're asking how?

 

[crlsweetie912]

My life.
I told my male BFF the other day I wish someone would act right for more than a few days so I can turn him out and move on...

 

[okange76]

@Shiks your countryman has stepped his game all the way up. I am impressed. He's come through for me twice without me asking. I was pleasantly surprised. This was stuff I had told him months ago and had even forgotten about. He has also finally figured out his work situation and is making the time and plans and putting his phone away. Now all he has to do is keep up the consistency and it will be a slam dunk. I am observing and taking notes.
His closest friend was visiting from out of state and he invited me to join them. I had stuff to do and he was upset that I wasn't available. Eventually I was able to join them a few hours later and his friend had this big smile and hug for me. He was also cheezing when I walked in. I guess they were both happy to see me. I'm crossing my fingers and hoping for the best.

 

[Shiks]

@Shiks your countryman has stepped his game all the way up. I am impressed. He's come through for me twice without me asking. I was pleasantly surprised. This was stuff I had told him months ago and had even forgotten about. He has also finally figured out his work situation and is making the time and plans and putting his phone away. Now all he has to do is keep up the consistency and it will be a slam dunk. I am observing and taking notes.
His closest friend was visiting from out of state and he invited me to join them. I had stuff to do and he was upset that I wasn't available. Eventually I was able to join them a few hours later and his friend had this big smile and hug for me. He was also cheezing when I walked in. I guess they were both happy to see me. I'm crossing my fingers and hoping for the best.

Yaaas! I am just happy you are getting consistency. Enjoy it and say similar prayers for me. I need them.

 

[MzSwift]

DH is so bummed about Trump winning. Although he was a Bernie guy, he voted for Hillary. Now he's worried about all of the racists coming out and how he's going to keep me and the kiddos protected (he's a natural worrywart and I'm the laid back one). He didn't sleep well last night and he's been talking about it all day today. It's sweet. But he's so stressed about it that it's messing up our intimate time. He'll work through it but in the meantime, a sista has needs.. especially now with these hormones driving me crazy. sigh

 

[shespoison]

I think I'm falling in love with an amazing man.

I want to shout from the rooftops but I don't have anyone to tell. All my friends are in sh*tty situations with f*ckboys and I would feel like a doo doo head for talking about him.

 

[summertimewine]

So my fiancé sent me on a scanvengar hunt for the beginning of my birthday! I woke up to a brand new outfit, undies, shoes and everything. First stop was my eyebrow place(lol) and my best friend was there! We then went to breakfast, and now I'm getting my nails done! He's still at work texting me sweet things

 

[BGT]

Went on a really really great date last night. He was an 8 year Marine and just the perfect gentleman. He even insisted on walking on the outside of the sidewalk, I'd only seen that in memes on Facebook. Second date tonight!

 

[Fine 4s]

Went on a really really great date last night. He was an 8 year Marine and just the perfect gentleman. He even insisted on walking on the outside of the sidewalk, I'd only seen that in memes on Facebook. Second date tonight!

Can you explain "insisted on walking on the outside"?
Did you say no, pushed him out the way, how did he insist? I'm trying to picture the romantic walk

 

[BGT]

Can you explain "insisted on walking on the outside"?
Did you say no, pushed him out the way, how did he insist? I'm trying to picture the romantic walk

Oh no, I mean like he just gestured that I walk on the inside. I said "it's ok", and he said something like "please, it's the right thing to do."

 

[BGT]

Date #2 JUST ended. I'm not really into "home" dates especially so early but he came over with popcorn and we watched Keanu (which we loved!) and watched tv and chatted. He finally kissed me and it was amazing. He told me how much he likes me and he wants to take me to dinner this week if i'm free!

 

[PeaceLover]

I'm dating a really great guy, but we're not official yet...because I don't want to be. I want to color with someone else. I'm not ready to be tied down again, but I don't want to lose him. *sighs* I feel like a dude now lol

 

[FemmeFatale]

Today is our 6 month anniversary