Browndilocks
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Here's something to think about. A friend of mine wanted to break up with his [then] girlfriend but wanted to do it after V-day because he didn't want to appear mean. (these people are in their 50s btw). His close friend explained to him that that was even crueler. Because now, the person has the memories and feels good to only be let down later.
I've experienced this as well and there's always that thought about well....didn't you know BEFORE we traveled? Someone might lose money or be upset but in the long run, I say be honest and give him the choice to travel with you or not but still breakup.
Just a thought....
Your point is thoughtful. I think it would be a little different though if we were actually in a committed relationship. He's someone that I was trying to decide on whether we could really date. I was open to trying something new and quickly realized that it's just not for me. The wedding is of our mutual friend so he was going anyway.