dede1129
Well-Known Member
I have learned that in relationships you have to take the good with the bad as long as it is not detrimental to your physical, emotional, or spiritual well being.
With that said, we were out grocery shopping for his house for the first time and he ended up spending $300 which is what I told him it would be based off of his household. He has two teenage daughter's and didn't really know how to do some essential maternal things right so I have been helping him. Anyway, when we were walking out I noticed he was agitated about the total because he thought it would be $200 so I went to hold his hand and he pulled it away from me and said don't hold my hand right now. I was outraged and ALL in my feelings and I immediately shut down. He has a going away dinner for a coworker and the old me would have went home as soon as we got back to his house but surprisingly I have kept my composure. I am going although I am still not taking to him until we have time to address what happened. The kids are around so we are holding off. I am going to remain my normal sweet self to his coworkers then go home afterwards.
The reason I say I have matured in this sense because I am thinking if we are going to get past this. .. yes he is going to apologize and I will forgive him because I know he was agitated and handled the situation wrong and he knows it too. But to not go to his going away party with all his coworkers who are expecting to meet me will take this mishap way longer ahead of when we make up. Yes, he will feel the ramifications of his actions because I won't spend the night which I feel is more appropriate in this situation.
In relationships it's 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react to it.
Now I am off to get me a nice glass of wine and the prime rib. ..I earned this meal lol
With that said, we were out grocery shopping for his house for the first time and he ended up spending $300 which is what I told him it would be based off of his household. He has two teenage daughter's and didn't really know how to do some essential maternal things right so I have been helping him. Anyway, when we were walking out I noticed he was agitated about the total because he thought it would be $200 so I went to hold his hand and he pulled it away from me and said don't hold my hand right now. I was outraged and ALL in my feelings and I immediately shut down. He has a going away dinner for a coworker and the old me would have went home as soon as we got back to his house but surprisingly I have kept my composure. I am going although I am still not taking to him until we have time to address what happened. The kids are around so we are holding off. I am going to remain my normal sweet self to his coworkers then go home afterwards.
The reason I say I have matured in this sense because I am thinking if we are going to get past this. .. yes he is going to apologize and I will forgive him because I know he was agitated and handled the situation wrong and he knows it too. But to not go to his going away party with all his coworkers who are expecting to meet me will take this mishap way longer ahead of when we make up. Yes, he will feel the ramifications of his actions because I won't spend the night which I feel is more appropriate in this situation.
In relationships it's 10% of what happens and 90% of how you react to it.
Now I am off to get me a nice glass of wine and the prime rib. ..I earned this meal lol