I just totally ruined Valentines day.
Classic case of intended to dial best friend to vent and accidentally dialed bf. . I'm in bed crying. He doesn't even want to see me tonight cause he feels some type of way.
Like I really hurt that I hurt his feelings.
[USER=26733]Sumra[/USER];19664617 said:
Thats really unlucky. Hope you can sort it out soon.
Was it something you'd aleady talked to him about?
I'm kind of confused, but maybe I missed a post.... How did you think you were calling your Bestfriend if your boyfriend picked up? & why did you start talking about your boyfriend negatively when you didn't even have confirmation that you were talking to your Bestfriend?
[USER=26733]Sumra[/USER];19665445 said:LovelyLouboutin A few suggestions
1. You should figure out why you held back your feelings about what was happening and decided to dial your friend. Tell him. I'm assuming that maybe there was some kind of fear there (not ruining his moment, not liking to open up etc..). Maybe not, but if there was one then let him know.
2. Preferably I think its best to acknowledge that you should have gone to him first about a worry for reassurance and also that you will do that in the future.
3. I see you have already tried to explain the way he misunderstood the "i'm over it" part. Did he believe you? If not, think about what you did mean and how to put it across in the best way next time you speak. I'm guessing you meant "I'm over the stress of it"? I'm not sure, but whatever it meant plan how you're going to explain that.
4. Because of all this you are going to come across ungrateful for the effort he made to make the day work. It's best to turn the focus away from your stress and emphasize how grateful you are for the efforts he went to. Further than that, what a great man he is in general.
5. TIME. He probs needs to cool off atm which is ok. Use this time to collect yourself for the next time you talk through it. Personally I'm quite emotional so I also have learned to take time to sort through stuff so they come out in an easy to understand manner.
ETA: and he is such a happy positive person that with him I don't want to be the girl that complains all the time. You know.
I think you should tell him this as it is quite important .
Me and Mr. are celebrating Valentine's Day tomorrow since this was his weekend with his daughter. I didn't want to intrude on that. Everyone was shocked talking about how they would have "made" him take me out. Wth. I surely wouldn't appreciate somebody telling me I had to choose them over my children. Smh.
Me and Mr. are celebrating Valentine's Day tomorrow since this was his weekend with his daughter. I didn't want to intrude on that. Everyone was shocked talking about how they would have "made" him take me out. Wth. I surely wouldn't appreciate somebody telling me I had to choose them over my children. Smh.
Being bossy and interfering in his father/daughter commitments sounds like the fastest route to relationship irritation and drama if ever I did see one.
I was ill on Friday so we did stuff on Saturday no biggie. It was great