2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

@fine4s I understand your frustration and position if you expressed how you felt ,as well as, the breakup several months ago behind her. Its his choice and if he is willing to jeopardize losing you over an ex its his lose. hopeful if he has a way to get her off for a ticket hell I ain't mad at her for trying that angle. Man or no man. Nonetheless I hope he wises up and makes the appropriate choice.

No one should be dressing with bootay shorts or leggings along with a crop top let alone coming out the shower in a towel unless its girlfriend weekend only. That would mean you are with your girlfriends or you are the girlfriend. Some folks have no hometraining nor a clue. If that happened I'd tell them about themselves and their inappropriate freak nasty attire. Some folks don't know whats right and wrong for some odd reason or because of their upbringing.

@fine4s how do you feel about chick friends that have boobage out all over the place, all the time or on special occasions? I'm asking because I notice a friend and her daughter 200plus pound arses are forever showing their nasty arse tittie ballz at birthday celebrations etc. I'm like that is bs overkill. Sexy is an aura gutter gals! That is so not sexy. Those loose cannons are about to fall out they are not sitting pretty with or without the bra. Hell maybe that is the problem they are rocking raggedy cheap arse bras so they can't looks good. Lmao.
 
deltadreamland you had me til you said ya'll go out like the bopsey twins. LOL j/k Its cool he is a the fashion stylist for you guys! wth is wrong wit his mammy blowing you up like that? Doesn't she realize everyone isn't a early riser like my silly arse? I wish I could sleep in! LOL Oh I just realized RKelly was on tour. He is coming to L.A the first of November. I haven't seen him in omg almost 20 years I was just telling my cousin. They had to add an additional night because it sold out so quickly. How many nights is he going to be in the ATL?
chocolat79 thanks again for attending the play, a listening ear and the advice. I really had a great time. The play was awesome and thought provoking. Your outfit was super cute. I loved the blue hue of your shoes.
 
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Welp, THAT.WAS.NOT.PRETTY.

I have so many emotions going on right now and can't sleep. Can't wait till DS wakes up, he makes it impossible not to smile.
 
renewmetoo would you say? whad you do? LOL I hope it wasn't too ugly. Be nice lady... I hope you are able to get a little sleep before you have to go to work, school or whatever.
 
Thankfully, I don't have to do any of that stuff. I finally told (ex?) FH that I didn't want to get married. I tried to have an adult discussion but he reacted like a crazy person. At first I was thinking maybe it could be postponed until things were better between us. But his reaction made me say fluck it, let's just chuck dueces. I feel like my life just got turned UPSIDE DOWN.
 
Lenee925 said:
It's so funny how when you don't care, like honestly could take or leave the finest, sexiest, sweetest man, they are that much more interested? When you come to terms with the fact there are far worse things than being single, dress to the nines because it makes you happy, enjoy your girlfriends; is when they find you irresistable? Can men smell over-eagerness after all? Or is it all just coincidental randomness lol
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Ain't that the truth. When I decided I didn't really care anymore, set up multiple catch-ups with girlfriends and really just went about life ..... dude started texting and calling, like everyday! There was one time where he texted and I didn't text back for about 10 mins because I was busy, he called! lol. Men!
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Dude is still contacting me. Today I got a text, FB message and a Whatsapp. All saying pretty much the same thing. It's kinda funny :giggle:. Replied to one message and told him to chill out.
 
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renewmetoo said:
Thankfully, I don't have to do any of that stuff. I finally told (ex?) FH that I didn't want to get married. I tried to have an adult discussion but he reacted like a crazy person. At first I was thinking maybe it could be postponed until things were better between us. But his reaction made me say fluck it, let's just chuck dueces. I feel like my life just got turned UPSIDE DOWN.
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Dang I'm sorry he nutted up on you. Have you guys tried premarital counseling or maybe family mediation? Maybe you two can have a few days of time out so you can both think clearly and without all the emotions.
 
@firecracker and @hopeful

He will have a convo with her and will ignore all texts should she try in the future. I feel this has weakened us despite his attempt to fix it.
I wish I didn't have to tell him and that he would have ignored her on his own. Let her memory just die off. He feels like because there wasn't any beef, that ignoring her or being rude to her is unnecessary. While I didn't say it to him, I get the dilemma but communicating with HER with the big history they have including an engagement AND up until May little things happened that made uncomfortable...well...he actually understands that as well.
it seems the only thing to do is no communication for a while. I walked in at the tail end of them being done so the first half of our relationship was shaky for me. I knew he wasn't going back but I also knew he still had feelings for her. So maybe I shouldn't have stayed but I did.

Part of me feels embarrassed about it all because I revealed HOW insecure I am about HER and when he calls her, she'll know how much influence she actually had. Torn between my emotions and trusting someone to do the right thing on their own, and growing up some.

He thought it was silly that I considered that a violation of my 'no communication' request. Secretly I get it...But where does it end? Any LITTLE acknowledgment can turn into a full blown convo so....why engage?

*sigh*
 
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@fine4's its sound like no communication is warranted period point blank. Chile you had every right to feel the way you feel and felt about her. As far as feeling insecure that also was warranted under the circumstances. Hell you are human and have emotions. Too bad too sad their relationship didn't work out but she needs to go forth with her life and he has to cut the umbilical cord. Sometimes we have to go through things to recognize the error of our ways and it looks like he sees that now so that is what matters. The end result is see ya later bye ole heaux ex fiance! LOL

Hopefully you guys can live in peace now. The next time his pappy comes to town and wants to see that heaux just smile and say have a great visit with such ah such and tell her I said hi. LOL Imma pray she finds a man but sometimes it can take twice the amount of time to get over someone than it did it to fall in love with them. She needs to get her some in the meantime and between time dangalang for a diversion. Chile its easier to get over someone if you get someone else. Uh did I forget to say F that heaux? LMBO Keep ya head up.
 
I have to see him today. This will be my first time talking to him in over two days. What really sucks is I purchased tickets to the mint condition concert for his birthday. The concert is this Friday. He still wants me to go but no thsnks
 
firecracker said:
@fine4s how do you feel about chick friends that have boobage out all over the place, all the time or on special occasions? I'm asking because I notice a friend and her daughter 200plus pound arses are forever showing their nasty arse tittie ballz at birthday celebrations etc. I'm like that is bs overkill. Sexy is an aura gutter gals! That is so not sexy. Those loose cannons are about to fall out they are not sitting pretty with or without the bra. Hell maybe that is the problem they are rocking raggedy cheap arse bras so they can't looks good. Lmao.
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You have me smiling this AM...OK, more like giggling..."tittie ballz" really firecracker, really? I can't comment on what they should do with their stuff but 'taste' is very subjective my friend...
 
I met 2 of SO's best friends on Saturday (his "brothers") and they both said I was too quiet and shy. :sigh:
 
FelaShrine said:
Oh no JSNQ, what happened? Everything seemed to be going well :ohwell:
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Long long story but let's just say my tolerance can only last for so long. I know he is remorseful but I need a real man, not a jerk
 
^so I take it whatever hppened..has been happening awhile/happened more than once. Sorry to hear that.

when its time to wear the party shoes again let us know :look:
 
FelaShrine said:
^so I take it whatever hppened..has been happening awhile/happened more than once. Sorry to hear that.

when its time to wear the party shoes again let us know :look:
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Yes it has been. I won't go into the list but he was a mess in some areas. And it's a shame because I saw/see the potential there. I think if his love for me brings about a real change I'd be willing to try and work things out but I doubt that will happen.
 
I feel overwhemingly sad. Like I have nothing to live for. No worries, I am not suicidal. Just alive because I didn't die.

I went out with my SO last night. We went out to eat. I just felt like I was going through the motions. Nothing to do with him, just me. Bah!

On a positive note, my outfit was cute. Gotta find joy somewhere. :D
 
He just came over and apologized to me. I know that was hard for him to do. He told me some other stuff to and mentioned the word therapy. I really hope he pursues that.
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
He just came over and apologized to me. I know that was hard for him to do. He told me some other stuff to and mentioned the word therapy. I really hope he pursues that.
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That's great lovey! It is hard for many men to apologize. Just take it one step at a time. (((HUGS)))
 
So my sister and THREE of my female cousins are engaged right now. Happy for them but I'm starting to feel more and more pitiful.

Might be time to start working on my aversion to cats. :look:
 
I ran into someone I casually "knew" from some forum online :lol: at the festival this weekend, and they text me this morning saying I was more beautiful in person and they want to take me out. :reddancer: How sweet

We'll just keep this from my main baby daddy for right now. I'm sure they wont mind since we are still moving at a snails pace...:rolleyes:
 
MzLady78 said:
So my sister and THREE of my female cousins are engaged right now. Happy for them but I'm starting to feel more and more pitiful.

Might be time to start working on my aversion to cats. :look:
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I got some chihuahuas we can both put on layaway for Christmas. Lemme know girl :lachen:
 
firecracker said:
@deltadreamland you had me til you said ya'll go out like the bopsey twins. LOL j/k Its cool he is a the fashion stylist for you guys! wth is wrong wit his mammy blowing you up like that? Doesn't she realize everyone isn't a early riser like my silly arse? I wish I could sleep in! LOL Oh I just realized RKelly was on tour. He is coming to L.A the first of November. I haven't seen him in omg almost 20 years I was just telling my cousin. They had to add an additional night because it sold out so quickly. How many nights is he going to be in the ATL?
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@firecracker :lachen: laughing at you calling us the bobsy twins, girl. We don't dress similarly that often and its usually something very subtle and simple such as him wearing a necktie to complement a color/colors in my outfit. The main reason we do it is because he is a stylist and he wants to keep all kinds of ideas/pictures in his fashion portfolio for clients.

Kells started out with one night in Atlanta (Thursday), but he sold out so fast so about a week ago they added another night. I wish we were going on Friday night, but we bought our tickets when he only had the Thursday night show. So yeah, I'm going on a work night, but whatever. :look: I can't wait to see Kells, I don't give a damn if I'm wearing a paper bag. :lol:
 
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Lucie said:
I feel overwhemingly sad. Like I have nothing to live for. No worries, I am not suicidal. Just alive because I didn't die.

I went out with my SO last night. We went out to eat. I just felt like I was going through the motions. Nothing to do with him, just me. Bah!

On a positive note, my outfit was cute. Gotta find joy somewhere. :D
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I don't like that you feel this way.
 
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