2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

I dont know if I'm being too hard core about this but its one of those things where I'm not sure I care if its too hard core. You did something that disappointed me, extremely, so I think no longer interested. Oh well.
 
He has the memory problem but he sure remembers the combination to my darn lock. I admit I have issues with #'s. I cannot remember where I wrote it down for future use but I know its in my desk somewhere! My girlfriend told me I'm running out on him when he needs me the most. I said not true but I am afraid of the unknown and him driving me into traffic.
 
33 days to go and things are still rocky as hayul. Part of me says to call it off now..this can't be life. The other part says you already have a child together, just do it..it's got to get better..right?. So torn :-(
 
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renewmetoo said:
33 days to go and things area still rocky as hayul. Part of me says to call it off now..this can't be life. The other part says you already have a child together, just do it..it's got to get better..right?. Do torn :-(
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I remember your previous post. I wish you the best but if that little voice is telling you something, listen to it.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours.Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
Watching SYTD and why is the bride to be searching for her dress with the groom's ex?
Wow, some people are really more mature in relationships than I can EVER be.

Still scratching my head....now I'm more interested in how them two got cool!
 
Feeling lonelier than ever and slowly losing hope I'll meet someone. I've tried it all; nothing's brought anyone my way and I' beginning to lose belief in myself that I'm good enough really. I don't like feeling down and wallowing but love is the only thing missing in my life, the thing i want the most but can't seem to get.
 
Fine 4s said:
Watching SYTD and why is the bride to be searching for her dress with the groom's ex?
Wow, some people are really more mature in relationships than I can EVER be.

Still scratching my head....now I'm more interested in how them two got cool!
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That type of relationship aint' for everybody. If that ex ain't messy there is no reason to be unfriendly. I was cool and very close to grandpa/the man who raised my daughter ex named Valerie. We had a lot in common and he had businesses that turned ex's into customers and/or tenants. I've never been that insecure or immature when it came to exes. They are exes for a reason just like my butt. :lachen:

My dad's girlfriend felt like you did and it bit her in the butt in the worst way. That man was married to my mother actively for over 30 years and died married to her. My mother had no issues with that insecure woman that I loved dearly.

cocomochaa don't give up on love. It could happen when you least expect it. Try to enjoy your life in its present state and don't harp on finding a mate or being without one.

As for my situation somebody is trying to find some solutions and research now that I said fool I ain't stuttin you but I'll still be by your side per the usual. Freaking called my cousin with that bs. If my cousin lectures me Imma sock his arse!:rolleyes:

eta:omg so now I've been a witch w/a B to this man from day1 per my fav male cousins. These ninja's are trying to gang up on me. Hell I'll admit I was trying to force my new general practioner on him but he shouldn't have lied from the giddy up. I never freaking said he wasn't going to the doctor. I said its taking too long because he isn't in a medical group like Kaiser or Cedar Sinai who is all on one network sharing the same computer system. That makes a big difference damnit!!!!! He is sitting over there watching football and I guess they are bbq my gruff arse!!! I screamed I'm working on my delivery with everybody suckas and turned my ringer off. I'm going to sleep cuz my damn head is hurting now. :whyme:
 
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Texting has started up again this morning. I've not said a word to him since Friday night. Now he is calling. I honestly don't know what to do. But at this point I don't think i can ever see myself being married to him so why bother? The damage has been done. And repeatedly. Maybe i'm too uptight in what i have as an ideal of how i'd like my life to be. Maybe what i want isn't how it is in life and marriage. But then i read about what the ladies here post and I would imagine not all of them are unicorns so....
 
Hell Vanthie its so good to hear someones weekend went great.
Je Ne Sais Quoi & @Fine4s I don't know if the love thang will ever be totally right or perfect. Shot we are all imperfect beings but damn mannnn.

@Fine4s if your guy is a Mister Nice Guy and that is one of the qualities that drew you too him its kinda hard to stop that personality trait from rearing its head to all and anyone that is in need. He has to see how its working against the better good on his own. My wthever he is right now is a Mister Nice Guy and he can only extract himself from a situation to not be that way. I've have allowed him to help an ex cuz eventually they will find a man, brother or cousin to help them when they need something. Hell he has always helped me over the 10 years but if he was seeing someone he wasn't immediately available. LOL
 
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firecracker,

She's not an ex I'm comfortable with for various reasons. I'm not asking for him not to help her, I'm asking for more which is ZERO communication between them Lol! We've broken up over this a mere 3 months ago! Obviously he can't or is unwilling to do what is necessary to have me. If he CHOSES not to get it, I'm done. I don't know what he wants to talk about, I've said it all three months ago...

Hope helping her out is worth it!
 
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firecracker,

She's not an ex I'm comfortable with for various reasons. I'm not asking for him not to help her, I'm asking for more which is ZERO communication between them Lol! We've broken up over this a mere 3 months ago! Obviously he can't or is unwilling to do what is necessary to have me. If he CHOSES not to get it, I'm done. I don't know what he wants to talk about, I've said it all three months ago...

Hope helping her out is worth it!
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Wow, sorry you are going through this......
 
Question for you ladies:

If your SO has a male visiting, do you make sure not to look revealing (as defined by you)?
I get very uncomfortable when I'm wearing house clothes (eg crop top and leggings with my butt all exposed, u know that sexy housewear look) around his boys...

And to make the question more interesting, would you mind if your female friends wore revealing clothes when visiting you and SO?

When I'm around my married friends (hanging around or if I sleep over) I am in sweats and Ts.
Then again, it could be sexy to them anyway!!! hmmmm....

oh we'll I'm bored, amuse me please. It's either that or I'm breaking up with SO and you don't want me all sad do you?
 
Well Fine 4s I think that grown couples should not have very many sleepovers to begin with. And if someone sleeps over they should have a separate space (guest room) and not sleeping on the sofa, etc., should stay covered up, as in pj's in their room, otherwise real clothes throughout the day, otherwise they should be staying at a hotel IMO. Close (especially older) relatives are different IMO. His mom in pj's is different from your girl in booty shorts and a cropped top.
 
Fine 4s said:
firecracker,

She's not an ex I'm comfortable with for various reasons. I'm not asking for him not to help her, I'm asking for more which is ZERO communication between them Lol! We've broken up over this a mere 3 months ago! Obviously he can't or is unwilling to do what is necessary to have me. If he CHOSES not to get it, I'm done. I don't know what he wants to talk about, I've said it all three months ago...

Hope helping her out is worth it!
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:yep: I hope it's worth it too. She can't get anyone else in the whole freaking world to help her? And he can't say no after you broke it down just three months ago? What is wrong with them? Him especially. Whelp, I'd start throwing up the deuces. If he loses you over this, he is an idiot.
 
@hopeful

I'd be OK with his choice to remain in her life even if marginally...just not with me around. Believe me, he will be very stupid!

Haha at bootie shorts!!! I couldn't remember how folks called them. I had a friend who came out from the shower wrapped up in a towel (years ago). Even that made me feel some kind if way....lol
 
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Sending all of the ladies that are "going through" a big cyber hug.

We had a wonderful 4 day weekend. I was on fall break Thursday and Friday, so we spent most of our time together, unless he was in class. We've been pretty inseparable these past 4 days (shopping, cooking, watching tv, playing WW Friends, etc). I am a huge shopper and one of the many things I love about him is he is a big shopper as well. All I have to say is let's go to the mall and he's all for it. Love that! I'm not a credit card person, but he is. I convinced him to get a credit card at one of our favorite stores, Macys. He said he's glad I convinced him since we spend a lot of time in there and it comes with rewards. He's a stickler for good credit, so I'm not worried about things going down hill with credit cards.

Anyway, no complaints here; just hoping things start to look up for the ladies that are under the weather with their relationships. Pray for me and I will pray for you all!
 
Oh no. :(


He asked me if I go to church. I said, No. Then, he asked me how often do I read the bible. :nono:

I responded with a question about if he is a preacher's kid. :lol:

I need to know before I give my answer. Which will be no regardless. :giggle:
 
AHeadOfCoils said:
Oh no. :(


He asked me if I go to church. I said, No. Then, he asked me how often do I read the bible. :nono:

I responded with a question about if he is a preacher's kid. :lol:

I need to know before I give my answer. Which will be no regardless. :giggle:
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I'm looking for a man that loves the Lord and goes to church (amongst other things). Life is so unfair :lol:
 
AHeadOfCoils said:
Oh no. :(


He asked me if I go to church. I said, No. Then, he asked me how often do I read the bible. :nono:

I responded with a question about if he is a preacher's kid. :lol:

I need to know before I give my answer. Which will be no regardless. :giggle:
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what he say? AHeadOfCoils :look:

Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
I'm looking for a man that loves the Lord and goes to church (amongst other things). Life is so unfair :lol:
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ikr? mmkaaaaayyy :rofl:
 
He's not a preacher's son, so I told him no that I don't read the bible that often. :look: He said that he understands (I was forced to read it so many times in Catholic school that I have no interest into reading it UNLESS I'm looking for some inspiration). Now, he's just wondering what would make me the happiest woman on this earth and telling me about how he wants to be married. My fav vacation spots. He SEEMS interested in what I'm all about.
 
His mom called me 3 times before 9 this morning. My son and I were still asleep. :perplexed He (we) have been having a few issues with her so I knew why she was calling so early. But the second time she called she left a VM. I immediately jumped up because I thought she was calling to tell me that something was wrong with SO. Thank God, he was fine.

So I was telling him how I panicked for a minute thinking something was wrong with him as the reason for her back to back calls. His response: "Baby, if anything is wrong with me, you will be the first person I call, not my mom." (you have to know what's going on with her for him to say this) He then goes on to say, "You are my emergency contact. No one else."

On another note, we have a date Thursday night. We are going to see R. Kelly in concert. We went shopping and I decided that we are wearing pink and black. He's a fashion stylist, so he's always dressing us for something. :lol: On a few occasions, like this one, I give him the colors and he puts everything together.
 
we decided on some things we're both going to do to try to adjust to the recent changes. i was like, "...uh no" when he told me how often he'd be able to see me now (1-2x a month b/c he may have to be going to ARKANSAS 2 weekends a month). mid-week visits, communication everyday ("this was an okc question, and i said 'no, i have a life'". welp you're going to have to adjust that life if you want me in it, boo), & at least 2 weekends a month is the current plan.

he def reaffirmed how serious he is about me/into me he is. i missed him a lot. which is so scary to me b/c i haven't felt this way about anyone since my big ex. and tbh felt that i wouldn't ever again (what are feelings for men? i don't get those).

i really believe people take time to get to a certain place in their life, and everyone goes at their own pace. but i am shocked at how selfish this girl is. and i feel bad for thinking it (and saying it but he has said worse tbh :lol:). do not have children you cannot afford b/c you are literally fcking up everyone in your family's life b/c of it. are you kidding me. your mother is almost 60! she does not need to be raising your child and dealing with your irresponsibility. jfc.

there is some great irony that the biggest thing that attracts me to him is going to be such a barrier to our relationship (taking care of his own, being the provider/fixer/handling his business). ugh.
 
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I HAVE A DATE ON FRIDAY!!! It won't amount to anything but it's nice to dip my toes in the water again....

Sent from my iPhone. Excuse the typos!
 
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