2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

He came by at work on Monday and spent an hour with me. We talked and determined that text messages and immature FB games will not work for us and to put an end to it. I can't lie, I did go above and beyond to make it look like my weekend was a non-stop adventure when all I was doing was missing him. He in turned felt the need to retaliate and do the same.

I can only laugh at myself and us. Why do 2 people crazy about each other act crazy towards each other? All I can remember is missing him so much Monday afternoon and he just walked right in. It made everything I felt so much better. Despite being the same culture he did agree that our ways of speaking are totally different and that he will work on not being so blunt. I also agreed to tell him more of what I like.
 
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My SO is really having a rough time with several things lately. He is so frustrated. I am at a loss for words at times, any words of encouragement I give are going in one ear and out the other. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't think I get what he is going through. I try to tell him I really do get and what he is looking at in me is the end result of a sometimes painful process.
 
Lissa0821 said:
My SO is really having a rough time with several things lately. He is so frustrated. I am at a loss for words at times, any words of encouragement I give are going in one ear and out the other. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't think I get what he is going through. I try to tell him I really do get and what he is looking at in me is the end result of a sometimes painful process.
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Men are like rubber bands and women are like waves (we ebb and flow). I learned this from Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. You told him how you feel. Caress him. Hug him. But leave him be. Men processing styles are usually different them. I know how you feel. (((HUGS))) If he wants to talk, he will. It hurts because you want to help but sometimes it makes them withdraw more. :sad:
 
Last night I was chatting with a guy on facebook that I've never met. We're members of the same running club. Anyway, we really click and it's crazy. We were talking for hours! He seems to really have his **** together and is so so hot. Nothing will come of this though because he lives 2 hours away and I'm not about to be in a long distance relationship. Been there, done that!
 
bosswitch said:
Tis cuffing season. Random boy texted me today, 1 year after he completely **** on my feelings. He wants to meet for coffee tomorrow, but all I'm interested in is giving him a piece of my mind ::look: I just want to meet him, get my coffee, cuss him out and bounce...do y'all think I should do it?
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IMHO, no. Why waste the time? Because you'll probably get extra cute to show him what he could've had, drive there, act all nice for a couple minutes while you get your coffee and then tell him off and leave. WAYYYY too much energy expended. Trust, you'd do better by cancelling now and telling him that it was a bad idea to accept and have a nice life. Men don't really respond to telling off and such and it might not be as sweet a revenge as you think and you've wasted all this time thinking, getting ready, arriving, deciding what to say, being there, etc. to only get minimal satisfaction. Let it go.
 
Just woke up from the best nap in his bed. He sat in the recliner and watched tv the whole time I napped, watched tv, AND listen to me snore. Lol!
 
My boyfriend is having major financial issues and broke up with me today because I don't want to move in with him. I just can't do it. I cried a little but surprisingly I feel ok. I think I have outgrown him and was too afraid to admit it.
 
Just booked (like an hour ago) our couples massage for Saturday! I was hoping they still had a spot so close to the date, since I was a little procrastinator and YAY they did! :yay: I can't wait! I neeeeed a massage :drool: I hope he likes his surprise! :D
 
kismettt said:
friend definitely. i'm torn b/n communicating that i'm not going to want to hang out with him if he does things like that OR just never responding, blocking him on everything, and screaming FRIENDSHIP OVER into the wind. :look:

i'm just shocked that he was that immature. i didn't realize people still did that. jeez.
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i tried the communication route and he started whining about his first amendment right.

and we are done.
 
I'm finding it a little annoying that my brother has chosen my grandmother's funeral to debut his GF to the rest of the family. Like, it's not a friggin' cookout, it's a funeral. And I wouldn't want to meet my SO's fam for the first time under those circumstances either. Not to mention the fact that we haven't even seen him for months. Ugh...
 
MzLady78 said:
I'm finding it a little annoying that my brother has chosen my grandmother's funeral to debut his GF to the rest of the family. Like, it's not a friggin' cookout, it's a funeral. And I wouldn't want to meet my SO's fam for the first time under those circumstances either. Not to mention the fact that we haven't even seen him for months. Ugh...
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When my little brother passed, my older brother debuted his new gf at the funeral. Funny thing was we hadn't even known he'd broken up with the last one to begin with lol. We appreciated her presence bc even tho she popped up out of nowhere, she really supported him that day. It was understandable why the rest of the family didnt give a crap about new gf that day tho. We had more depressing things to focus on....we quickly forgot her.
 
The Mister has been working like crazy. He barely has time to sleep and eat between jobs and planning jobs. Po thang well that just means I can do girlfriend stuff on his dime.:lol: I will be back at work soon so I have to enjoy and take advantage of the free time.

We had such a relaxing fun time at the Spa in AZ last month. Now he wants us to go to Glen Ivy Hot Springs during the off season. Unfortunately one of my girlfriends is going to be pissed because we had planned on going during the beginning of off season. My weekend social schedule is kinda filled for the rest of the month. Hopefully my gf won't mind doing a mid week spa day.

I was hoping we could go visit his brother and sil before they moved to Louisiana but that didn't happen. I told him he can go to small town Hicksville by himself to visit. I don't like them enough for all of that and NOLA is too far a drive for a compromise. Just taking it one day at a time. :grin: Recuperating is strange and a ongoing process.
 
He came by my job yesterday because he had a client in the area. He gave me the biggest kiss like a soldier that just came from the army. And he squeezed my butt. LOL!
 
The Mister just pissed me off. I suggested we go back to being friends. He feels I'm wrong and going overboard. This all started because I told him he cannot drive me anymore. I don't feel safe due to his response time, forgetting stuff and the lack of aggressively taking care of his health issues. Ninja lied about his doctors appointment. He wants a cooling off period so we can talk it out. Talking bout we are both stressed right now. Uh no I'm only stressed from him playing lets pretend everything is fine and normal. I wanna go out and celebrate:lachen: I'm not changing my mind. At least this time I ain't punking out by changing my phone number and hiding out from him. :lachen:
 
Sigh. He thinks we are dating. I'm just. Sigh. I used to think that if I paid for my own dinner or whatever, then it isn't a date. Just like guys send a message by paying for you, I thought women could send one too. I wonder what he thinks: that I'm a wanna be independent woman?:lol: naaah.
I also don't understand how I've told him twice that we do not have the type of spark I'm looking for, and he's coming back like, if we were to start dating again this time around... And I am like:look::look: didn't we have this conversation in June? And then in August?

I just got a text from him saying he's out of town this wknd and how about we do something fun next week. The negro volunteered ME to cook.:confused: he says things like that and I just wanna be like, dude, NO. Stop trying to tell me what to do. Can you read signs? Decipher clues?
I don't know how to turn him down the 3rd time.
 
bf has been super absent all week & i was getting bugged. he called me at work today and we talked for a bit. he's coming by on Sunday. he fell super behind in school & work b/c of last weekend, so he's pretty swamped. he was obv frustrated in the text he sent me on Wednesday. he sounded more resigned today =/ processing/accepting what happened igss.

i was at school and he got a little nasty :blondboob in the end (clearly really frustrated :lol:). i was like "i have to go, i'm around children!" :lachen:

(i had stepped outside so no innocent ears could have overheard or been tainted by association).
 
It's so funny how when you don't care, like honestly could take or leave the finest, sexiest, sweetest man, they are that much more interested? When you come to terms with the fact there are far worse things than being single, dress to the nines because it makes you happy, enjoy your girlfriends; is when they find you irresistable? Can men smell over-eagerness after all? Or is it all just coincidental randomness lol
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi keep your head up. Some people are in our life for a season and/or a reason. Enjoy the me time and Kiwi for now.

I'm making sure a few loose ends are tied up. I am happy a weight has been lift off my shoulder. He has an attitude. He betta lose it because I have more projects for him to handle. I told him you can hide from me this time if you think your a sucka for my love. LMAO
 
Fine 4s said:
My SO's ex just asked him for some help. I'm thinking about walking away. I'm tired of it.
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Sorry Fine 4s. You're clearly not happy so I would suggest taking a break before doing anything drastic.

Sent from my iPad using LHCF...if only it would stop correcting what I write.
 
I hope everyone is doing ok. The thread is doing a 180 in the love department. But like it was said earlier people are in your life for reason, season, or lifetime.

On my end, twin and I are ok. I have been working my butt off. Since he is going on a trip with his friends to costa rica I won't see him til the end of the month or possibly nov bc my visitor will be here by then. It's all good bc I am going to plan a trip with my girls and tell him I'll be gone for some days.

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours.Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
 
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