2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

[Fine 4s]

He asked if I wanted to go to his mom's house (out of state) for Thanksgiving. Can't tell if this is a "big step" thing or not.

I want to go but if it's not like...a crucial relationship moment then I rather just go home. IDK what his family eats Probably like curries and vegetables and bean curds. I want some turkey necks!

There are certain holidays that I can't afford to go visit someone else's house because I need certain foods. SO is coming to FL with my for my grandmother's sister's bday though. First time he will be formally introduced. Same family and extended family people will be there...
THIS will be VERY interesting

 

[Mortons]

My ex is so childish. I tell you you can stay at my house to get things done in the state before you go back home, and you get upset and want to argue because the way I said it wasnt welcoming \_ <- ...at your moms house. I have a job and school to complete. This is the last time I will bother with offering you anything. I have a life to live and it doesnt include babying a grown person nearly 20 years older than myself.

Vent over.

 

[mallysmommy]

ex's mother passed away.
he called to tell me and it hurt my heart to hear so much pain in his voice. we knew this was coming, there is just no way to prepare for this stuff. he is leaving out tomorrow morning.
he later texted and asked to see me but im not sure if its best. i haven't responded yet.

 

[kweenameena]

Mmmm why would he put you between him and his child?

Girl, I wanted to know too. And I told him he could have that seat but he insisted. I think it was because the other seat was at the edge/corner of a rectangular table so he wanted me to be comfortable. But it was still weird for me.

 

[Fine 4s]

ex's mother passed away.
he called to tell me and it hurt my heart to hear so much pain in his voice. we knew this was coming, there is just no way to prepare for this stuff. he is leaving out tomorrow morning.
he later texted and asked to see me but im not sure if its best. i haven't responded yet.

Wow, that's putting you in a tough position and well...rather unfair.
Although I'd be suckered into this, from the outside looking in, I'd say don't respond or say no if you see where this could go...nowhere good.

 

[mallysmommy]

Wow, that's putting you in a tough position and well...rather unfair.
Although I'd be suckered into this, from the outside looking in, I'd say don't respond or say no if you see where this could go...nowhere good.

i offered a lunch date after everything was said and done. i think its too soon and the wrong time for us to meet up. there's too many conflicting emotions from the both of us right now. i'll admit that i do miss him in ways and i feel so badly for him right now. once he is back i'll give him some grieving time, then perhaps we could meet up, to chat. he is her only child and there is so much that he needs to do. He'll be gone a little over a month to settle some things.

 

[curlcomplexity]

Went to a Nigerian club party Saturday...of course the party started an hour after the time that was given to everyone. Sitting outside chillin alone enjoying the scenery and this man comes up to my table. Had to be no younger than 40. He spent about 45 minutes talking my head off. During that time his phone rang and the name 'Agatha' popped up. I thought to myself 'Whew...he's got somebody...I'm in the clear' Do you know this old (old for me) man LIED and said that she was a he? I wasn't interested from jump, but the fact that he lied to my face made me get up politely (b/c I was taught not to disrespect my elders lol) and leave...didn't even go into the party

The next day I went to visit a family friend and wouldn't you know it, the family friend knew the man that was trying to spit game from the night before...not only that, he was the one that set him and Agatha up in the first place

...fast forward to today, I received a call and text message from this old man wanting to apologize for lying. He must've gotten my info from the family friend because he called me by my Igbo name. That phone call was a waste of my time...a whole hour listening to him ramble. I made it clear that I was not interested in him AT ALL, but he kept trying to push a 'friendship' on me...telling me in so many words that God gave him a premonition about me. The last thing he said to me was that my name was sexy which made me feel uncomfortable in a 'To Catch a Predator' kind of way so I quickly got off the phone.

 

[Mortons]

Ok now can I put their stuff out in the trash? Or charge storage...

 

[Oasis]

he came over to talk and as usual he was clueless about everything. what could he do to make things right, please give us another chance, he will do anything to make it work, apologizing for this weekend and whatnot. smh. we were raised differently and theres nothing that can be done about that.

i looked at his texts between his parents (i dont wanna hear it, we both read each others texts to our parents) and apparently his mom thinks because of me the entire family is now dysfunctional. we (me, bf, bfs bro + gf) went for sushi last night but she wanted to have a family dinner at home and according to her im the sole reason that didnt happen.

i feel bad dumping the guy whos treat me better than any guy ive ever dated but im really over his parents at this point. they ALWAYS have something to say. i dont want to willingly get srs with a guy whose parents hate me because its just asking for more trouble than its already caused.

 

[Fine 4s]

Man, when I don't let SO color, he sure does get grumpy. It's actually funny seeing a grown man whine and beg like a puppy.

Soooo....last night he tells me we don't 'do' it enough.
At the beginning I wanted to a lot, REALLY into doing it fast FWD a year, HE'S more about doing it. Go figure...

 

[BGT]

Soooo....last night he tells me we don't 'do' it enough.
At the beginning I wanted to a lot, REALLY into doing it fast FWD a year, HE'S more about doing it. Go figure...

The first year of our relationship, SO and I would see each other once per week and would do it ALL day, like until we were both sore. But now that I've been staying with him and we see each other everyday, I just don't feel like it sometimes.

 

[Fine 4s]

LOLOLOL
YES BGT! Like I just want to eat, watch TV and go to sleep.
I prefer morning nookie though....

 

[itismehmmkay]

Maybe I'm trippin.

 

[Lucie]

I know this is not relationship-related in the sense of a couple but I deleted 60 people off of my FB page. Most of them were first and second cousins. I also deleted my ex-SIL and all of my ex-husband's mutual friends. IT. FELT. SO. GOOD! If they want to call/text me fine but I really do not need them reading my true thoughts and seeing pics.

 

[curlcomplexity]

That old man is still pushing for a 'friendship' and I dont want.

Sent him this message:

'Good afternoon, I am currently at work and cannot speak right now. To be honest with you, I feel very uncomfortable with speaking to you at all. I don't mean to be hurtful or offensive, but I do feel that you deserve honesty...as did I. I think that it will be best that we do not establish a friendship. I do not want to be pressured into something that I am not comfortable with'

Seriously...I have had this uncomfortable feeling since yesterday. I just want so shake it for good.

Was the message that I sent too harsh? Anyone please...

 

[InchHighPrivateEye]

I don't know what to get him for his birthday. I know he wants a Kindle Fire in general but he doesn't want me to spend that much and I don't either. But that would be so easy!

I don't know what's cute and comfortable to wear on our flight!

I don't know how to keep myself from snoring on our flight when I fall asleep. I know I'm going to be exhausted because I've been going nonstop and will be right until we leave.

He's coming to see my show but not telling me which night because he thinks it'll make me nervous. I don't know how I feel about that. I kinda like it, but! I make faces and totally let myself go onstage and so I hope he's more excited to see me in my element than like, second hand nervous/embarassed-ish, yaknow? Hmmph. I know he's going to say he likes it regardless but I will be able to tell because he goes really hard for me in general but when he's lukewarm about something it's sort of like "meh." Last week I had a meeting with a management company and the lady told me to try back at the beginning of the year because I'm talented but I didn't walk in with an air of confidence like they need their talent to do (I was satisfied with that because she was right. I was frustrated and flustered, but at the end of the day, you have to own the room. Always. And I didn't. And it's October. The beginning of next year is right here so it wasn't bad.) and he was like "well damn them, then!! We'll find somebody else!" So if he's not up in the theatre reciting lines and beaming and justs says "that was great " I'll know. lmao.

What I do know is that I'm excited! I love being around him and next week it's all us, all the time. Yaaaaaaaaaaaay

 

[mallysmommy]

That old man is still pushing for a 'friendship' and I dont want.

Sent him this message:

'Good afternoon, I am currently at work and cannot speak right now. To be honest with you, I feel very uncomfortable with speaking to you at all. I don't mean to be hurtful or offensive, but I do feel that you deserve honestly...as did I. I think that it will be best that we do not establish a friensship. I do not want to be pressured into something that I am not comfortable with'

Seriously...I have had this uncomfortable feeling since yesterday. I just want so shake it for good.

Was the message that I sent too harsh? Anyone please...

 

[CarLiTa]

I just... I don't know why I agreed to another date with this boy.
Why is he so clueless.
10 minutes before we are supposed to meet, he is telling me some story about how his laptop broke, and so he'll be bringing his car, and he has to go to the Mac store, and maybe when he gets here we can decide if we'll both go to the Mac store, or what.

We??? That wasn't part of the plan! He never has a plan. Ever... well, except on date 1, and that's because someone told him what to do or that there would be no date after that. Seriously. Every date that went well, he received coaching for Sounds so comical now, but at the time I was like Dude, I gotta go home!

I am sure I have said many times in the past few days that there needs to be a plan because I have things to do tonight. He'll jokingly say: I like the Carlita who's flexible NO.
On one date, after I said this would have to be short because I have more work to do tonight, he's on the date talking about: I feel really happy around you... do you feel happy here with me? And I'm thinking: Sigh, I just... I need to go home! I.SAID!

Need to avoid that again tonight because I truly truly cannot miss this deadline. I've told him to come pick me up and we will "figure it out." There will be zero figuring out. We are going to follow our plans and then he will be dropping me off at my apartment before going to the Mac store. I will NOT go on anybody's joy ride!

On another note... the boy who light-weight rejected me 1 (2?) weekend/s ago texted me yesterday. So random.

 

[kismettt]

lawd....why do people so obviously post things on fb about you??? i thought that was so high school.


this kid & i were supposed to go shopping but i'm super busy/didn't sleep at all last night so i bailed. and he just made this dramatic update about "flakes".

like.................................................


grow up. i'm sorry i have other things more important to do than go buy girl jeans with you. jfc

this friendship is about to end.

 

[firecracker]

Kismett you must be talking about a friend not your guy right?

qtslim83 what an arsehole. He needs to be cursed out!

Dude opened my Oreo's from the wrong end. They were already opened from the top. I hate dumb siht!!! Mother freaker pay attention to details for once in your cotton picking life! I bet I won't offer up bad junk food to his arse ever again. His daughter does dumb siht too. Must be a gene defect damnit!!!! I haven't had Oreo's in eons. I picked them up at the entrance of Tarje's, opened them up and started munchin away then this negro .................... I know that was stupid to fuss about. LMBO

Our weekly date night is back now that the doctor ok'ed me for regular activities. We went to L.A Live for dinner and a movie. We saw Loopers. I kept slapping his thigh til it turned red. LOL He said next time he is wearing thick jeans when we go to an action packed movie. I guess his slacks didn't give him enough protection. hahahaha

 

[sylver2]

why am i randomly online looking at diamond rings
FYI didn't know many people buy from major online diamond retailers now.
bluenile.com u can choose cut, setting etc. just checking good info to know

 

[MizAvalon]

why am i randomly online looking at diamond rings
FYI didn't know many people buy from major online diamond retailers now.
bluenile.com u can choose cut, setting etc. just checking good info to know

sylver2, online is a really great way to go. They offer better prices and better stones than most brick and mortar places.

 

[Jas123]

That old man is still pushing for a 'friendship' and I dont want.

Sent him this message:

'Good afternoon, I am currently at work and cannot speak right now. To be honest with you, I feel very uncomfortable with speaking to you at all. I don't mean to be hurtful or offensive, but I do feel that you deserve honesty...as did I. I think that it will be best that we do not establish a friendship. I do not want to be pressured into something that I am not comfortable with'

Seriously...I have had this uncomfortable feeling since yesterday. I just want so shake it for good.

Was the message that I sent too harsh? Anyone please...

NO... going forward don't entertain him... ignore him, block him... just don't entertain him in any way...

 

[Mortons]

Dang this girl text my friend and said dude cant do ish for her since he said he wouldnt pay her rent so bye. It would be more funny if it wasnt so birdlike. They have been talking for 2 weeks, havent even met yet

 

[C@ssandr@]

Enjoying the single life

Bought a corset the other day. Just. For. Me.

Been taking driving lessons.

Meditating/ Praying more often.

Hanging with friends.

Back in dance classes.

 

[bosswitch]

Tis cuffing season. Random boy texted me today, 1 year after he completely **** on my feelings. He wants to meet for coffee tomorrow, but all I'm interested in is giving him a piece of my mind : I just want to meet him, get my coffee, cuss him out and bounce...do y'all think I should do it?

 

[kismettt]

Kismett you must be talking about a friend not your guy right?

friend definitely. i'm torn b/n communicating that i'm not going to want to hang out with him if he does things like that OR just never responding, blocking him on everything, and screaming FRIENDSHIP OVER into the wind.

i'm just shocked that he was that immature. i didn't realize people still did that. jeez.

 

[tinkat]

Twin is going to costs rica for 10 days while im at stuck at work hmph!

Wait, be positive, keep believing, and all will surely be yours.Sent from my iPhone using LHCF

 

[Ms_Delikate]

MzLady78...you will. I am claiming it for you

Had so much fun on my vacation, but seeing all the couples on the beach, and hanging out with couples made me a little sad. I wonder if I'll ever have a trip away with an SO again.

 

[C@ssandr@]

Tis cuffing season. Random boy texted me today, 1 year after he completely **** on my feelings. He wants to meet for coffee tomorrow, but all I'm interested in is giving him a piece of my mind : I just want to meet him, get my coffee, cuss him out and bounce...do y'all think I should do it?

I wouldn't waste my time. You have better things to do right? Do those things instead. You can just shoot a nice-nasty text. But "showing up" makes it seem there is still a lot of feelings on your end or that you're just plain crazy.

That's just my 2 cents.

You either care or you don't. Indifference is a true form of the latter.