2012 Whats happening Relationship Folks

deltadreamland said:
Hugs to you. Did he give a reason for breaking up with you?
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He said he loves me and is happy with me, he could see us being bf/gf for a long time....but not more than that. I want more. I want to get married. I thought he did too. Maybe he does but not with me.

Crap....I'm tearing up again. Darn feelings!!

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Briabiggles said:
He said he loves me and is happy with me, he could see us being bf/gf for a long time....but not more than that. I want more. I want to get married. I thought he did too. Maybe he does but not with me.

Crap....I'm tearing up again. Darn feelings!!

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Hugs again. From your previous posts over the past few months, the two of you seemed great for each other. But we never truly know everything that is going through a man's mind. I know it hurts and it's very difficult to accept; but believe what he's telling you, hon. He means it. Do you have to meet with him? i feel its just going to make you even more upset and you don't need that. If you must meet with him, put your strong face on and just listen to him. Me? I probably wouldn't meet with him. I would just accept his words as they are and move on.
 
deltadreamland

We really need too. We have a lot of friends in common so it's not like I'm never going to see him again. It's better to hash things out now. I mean it when I say I want to be friends. He is a great person wether we're dating or not.

Gosh, I just feel so empty without him though. :-/

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my friend was like "...does he ever not touch you?" and i was like, "um...why wouldn't he?" :look:

i mentioned it to my bf and he was like, "yeah, that one time we all went out & you passed out, i kept kissing you and touching your hair" :lachen: i c
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
He is acting like a brat because I am taking time for ME today. No kid today, no him today. Told him I would see him tomorrow morning. He is mad. Oh effin well. You wanna be around all the time? Put a ring on it. And even then I'm still going to have me time.
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Je Ne Sais Quoi

I think all people (women AND men) should have 'me' time. IMO, it's very important.
 
Cuffing Season....it is Dry season for me.
Ok so I went on a date on Friday but having re-capped the whole night in my mind, I have decided he is waaay too full of himself and talked alot of bull.
I want attention....I want some Cuffing. :lachen:
 
mwedzi said:
Last week Friday (9 days ago) :yep: Thank you! I'm on the honeymoon right now, lol, logged onto LHCF. DH listens to his stuff periodically throughout the day, too (turns out we don't really talk or stare blisfully at each other for 16 hours a day), so I don't feel bad.
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mwedzi

Congratulations, and look at that hair. :up:
 
Briabiggles said:
@deltadreamland

We really need too. We have a lot of friends in common so it's not like I'm never going to see him again. It's better to hash things out now. I mean it when I say I want to be friends. He is a great person wether we're dating or not.

Gosh, I just feel so empty without him though. :-/

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I understand. Eventually you will be fine and start to feel better. Time really does heal.
 
deltadreamland said:
Thanks Mortons. She is not ok. Last time I saw her in July, she could walk and hear just fine. She had a fall a few weeks ago; now she cannot walk and can barely hear. They are putting her in rehab tomorrow. My two sisters have been there the whole time helping because they live closer than me. So now I need to go. I need to see what's going on with my mom for myself and help my sisters.
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deltadreamland, So sorry about your mom. I hope everything with her gets better.
 
Allandra said:
Je Ne Sais Quoi

I think all people (women AND men) should have 'me' time. IMO, it's very important.
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It is very important and I refuse to feel guilty. He has been texting me this morning saying how it's good to know that I don't care, how he wasn't important enough for me to hang out with yesterday. Blah. Blah. Blah.
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
It is very important and I refuse to feel guilty. He has been texting me this morning saying how it's good to know that I don't care, how he wasn't important enough for me to hang out with yesterday. Blah. Blah. Blah.
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Please do not let him make you feel guilty, and if I know you like I think I know you, you are NOT letting him make you feel that way. :yep: And he really needs to stop. He. Will. Learn.
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
It is very important and I refuse to feel guilty. He has been texting me this morning saying how it's good to know that I don't care, how he wasn't important enough for me to hang out with yesterday. Blah. Blah. Blah.
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He sounds like a whiny, passive aggressive baby. My son is with his dad this weekend. Boo is away out of town. I've done nothing but go out to dinner with a friend, clean my house and fall asleep on my couch to a quiet house. And I'm so glad for the time.
 
I have officially started a new facebook page, and thinking about doing a sweep on the old one. I really need to break away from folk who were in the past and move on.
 
SamandI said:
He sounds like a whiny, passive aggressive baby. My son is with his dad this weekend. Boo is away out of town. I've done nothing but go out to dinner with a friend, clean my house and fall asleep on my couch to a quiet house. And I'm so glad for the time.
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He is being very passive aggressive. Spending time with me can not be that fantastic :lol: he bought a grill for my place and wanted to use it yesterday. Ninja please know that don't give you the right to come use it at your leisure.
 
I told him yesterday to come over after ten this morning. He made no mention during his little tantrum of coming over or seeing if we are still on. So I ended the conversation just now and said I was headed out to run done errands and to let me know when he was done being passive aggressive. He said oh, we'll enjoy your day. Guess that means he ain't coming over :look: he is going to understand that he does not control what I do. Or if he is really unhappy he will end things.
 
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Its extremely annoying when an SO feels like your free time belongs to them. It was like that in my last relationship and so bad that I actually broke down into tears one day, because I am an introvert and literally had had 0 hours of alone time in almost a month.
 
Mortons said:
Its extremely annoying when an SO feels like your free time belongs to them. It was like that in my last relationship and so bad that I actually broke down into tears one day, because I am an introvert and literally had had 0 hours of alone time in almost a month.
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I just moved into my new place two weeks ago and had not had one day alone in my new place until yesterday. He lives in his own place and has downtime whenever. I don't get that luxury unless I make it happen. I wrought I did the right thing by having me time yesterday and us time today. He doesn't seem to agree. Oh well.
 
JNSQ,

Wow...I had no idea someone can feel so hurt about you wanted 'me' time...

On another note, SO and I are going to go through our phone's together and delete phone numbers that no longer have a place in our life. A cleansing if you will...I said its going to be a ceremony under the moonlight, all romantic lol What should be the criteria ladies: random chics that u bagged but don't talk to [check] old strippers [check] what about the recent ex?
Casual women he's met? Hmmm.

Delete, Delete, Delete!!!!
 
ex called, he wants to get together and talk. there are soooo many things he needs to tell me.:lachen::rolleyes:

cuffing season is real.

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had such a good time downtown with bf today. he's so sweet.:infatuated:
 
I love my SO but I am so disappointed in him at the moment. He has to make some decisions but has been procrastinating to the point that his mother has decided to step in. She got her feelings hurt when she came to me with her plan and I politely told her "HELL NAW!!!!!!!!!" (I wasn't rude, promise :look:). I couldn't even look at him when I left today because as much as I love him, today I started losing some respect for him over how poorly he is handling this situation.

I know I need to talk to him but I need to give it another day cause right now I have some choice words that are not so nice.
 
We're going to one of engaged friends' weddings in November. It's in Pittsburgh. I'm excited...I'm waaaaay overdue for a vacation lol.

I swear all of his friends are married lol. We both find this quite strange ... *X files music*....
 
qchelle said:
We're going to one of engaged friends' weddings in November. It's in Pittsburgh. I'm excited...I'm waaaaay overdue for a vacation lol.

I swear all of his friends are married lol. We both find this quite strange ... *X files music*....
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YOU NEXT!!!!!! *cues music*
 
OK, so my ex and I met up for a walk and breakfast this morning. He said he felt so dumb giving me up and wished he could change how he feels. He would have been happy being bf/gf fora long time but knowing that I want more than that....he just couldn't do that to me. I feel a lot better now. I really do. I still love him and all but I definitely feel that we can be friends. :yep:
 
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