Much props to you, shame on her. As if lil black and brown girls don't have enough to contend with...you should always at least feel comfortable in the homes of your family. I understand your restraint out of respect to your SO and the fact that she is older, but it would've been so difficult for me! She sounds like she was thirsty for a big tall glass of Slapaho flavored Kool-Aid
I'm 20 as well
. I often wonder just how people can hate themselves so much 
. They are so brainwashed by what they hear other racists say about people and the images that they see on the television that they can't even decide for themselves what is beautiful and what is not. The funny thing is that she finds black people attractive enough to date but not attractive enough to marry and breed with. I know she's your mother-in-law and everything, but you aren't marrying HER. Your only obligation is to her son, and my philosophy is that if a person is nothing but negative and disrespectful to me, then they don't have any place in my life. Life is far too short to waste time being unhappy because someone else doesn't think that your good enough. As long as you and your man think you're good enough, then that's all that matters 
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Much props to you, shame on her. As if lil black and brown girls don't have enough to contend with...you should always at least feel comfortable in the homes of your family. I understand your restraint out of respect to your SO and the fact that she is older, but it would've been so difficult for me! She sounds like she was thirsty for a big tall glass of Slapaho flavored Kool-Aid
And what did you say?" 
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,as is your so
20 and 17 huh? hmmmmmmmmmmmm.... i'm 19! Im just sayin whichever one of them happens to be single... just putting my bid out there....
On another note, the Domincan mentality is an unfortunate one. There is a saying that every Domincan has "black behind the ears", no matter how white they are. Basically, it translates to every Domincan person has black blood in them or is related to someone who is black. Ironically, there is a mentality that the lighter skinned you are, the better you are. Period. I know not everyone feels that way, but many people do. This goes back to the War of Independence and a whole lot of historic stuff, but unfortunately, they've never managed to move on from that. The sad thing is that the majority of the Domincan population is NOT white, yet they won't accept their reality...
So again, I'm so sorry this happened to you and I do wish you and your fiancee the best. Good luck with this and I hope that child won't be scarred for life from her aunt's ignorance.
She already is, her Boyfriend of 7 years left her after she refused to have a baby with him b/c of his naps, his little brother's father left her b/c of the "That's not my baby....he's too dark" comment she made to the nurse when he was born...
It's crazy b/c I knew of all these things beforehand, but since I never witnessed it I thought they were exaggerating....
The fact that he moved out at 16 b/c he didn't want to be around his own mother should have told me something, but I didn't know she could be this
. It is so sad that she thinks the way she does. She will probably never change her opinions, regardless to what anybody tells her.
