Your man in the strip club...

[breezy]

How do you feel about that? Are you okay w/ it or do you consider it a form of cheating. Is it something you wouldn't mind him doing every once in a while, or are you completely against it?

 

[UmSumayyah]

I'm lucky that my husband thinks its demeaning.

 

[breezy]

I'm lucky that my husband thinks its demeaning.

You sure are, that's rare!

 

[MissJ]

No way. No how, and he already knows it.

 

[kally]

Thank God I live in a State (Cinti,Oh) that does not allow them. I have always had a problem with them. If a man is single I think it is fine, but if he is involved, I see this as a slap in the face for his woman. To me he is saying to her that she is not good enough and he needs more. I am a firm believer that the men sleep with these women. However there are women out there who don't care that their man goes to these types of places.
What I do not get is why do men think that we are over reacting if we have a problem with it and that this is thier way to celebrate and have fun. Take the girl that lost her man she was to marry over the weekend in Ny. A stripper was the last person with her man. Not her a stripper.

 

[WhipEffectz1]

I wouldn't mind him going every once in a while. I don't consider it a form of cheating because we go together sometimes and if we didn't go together I still wouldn't consider it cheating. If a SMART MAN really knows what he has at home then he will conduct himself properly and leave then girls in the club where they belong. Real talk, you can't be a man 24hrs a day so even if you forbid him to go, there's still a high chance that he will slip in up in there with his homies or whoever. I have a cousin that says that her future husband will not be able to step foot inside a strip club because she has watched players club and heard what goes on.

 

[breezy]

I wouldn't mind him going every once in a while. I don't consider it a form of cheating because we go together sometimes and if we didn't go together I still wouldn't consider it cheating. If a SMART MAN really knows what he has at home then he will conduct himself properly and leave then girls in the club where they belong. Real talk, you can't be a man 24hrs a day so even if you forbid him to go, there's still a high chance that he will slip in up in there with his homies or whoever. I have a cousin that says that her future husband will not be able to step foot inside a strip club because she has watched players club and heard what goes on.

I'm feeling a lot of what you said. And awww, your cousin is cute

 

[breezy]

Thank God I live in a State (Cinti,Oh) that does not allow them. I have always had a problem with them. If a man is single I think it is fine, but if he is involved, I see this as a slap in the face for his woman. To me he is saying to her that she is not good enough and he needs more. I am a firm believer that the men sleep with these women. However there are women out there who don't care that their man goes to these types of places.
What I do not get is why do men think that we are over reacting if we have a problem with it and that this is thier way to celebrate and have fun. Take the girl that lost her man she was to marry over the weekend in Ny. A stripper was the last person with her man. Not her a stripper.

Just so I'm not misunderstanding you, you think that the men who frequent these establishments have sexual intercourse w/ the strippers?

 

[WhipEffectz1]

I'm feeling a lot of what you said. And awww, your cousin is cute

Not cuter than your little man!

 

[LocksOfLuV]

breezy I am loving you posts, about real things and issues. thanks for allowing me to enjoy my long days at school .

my man can go every now and then. like once every few years even then, 1. i have to be invited and 2. you must be home at a certain time 3. there has to be certain friends you can go with-no you not going with Tommy who loves to spend hundreds on strippers and who is willing to pay for you one. that how things are ran in my ship

 

[breezy]

breezy I am loving you posts, about real things and issues. thanks for allowing me to enjoy my long days at school .

my man can go every now and then. like once every few years even then, 1. i have to be invited and 2. you must be home at a certain time 3. there has to be certain friends you can go with-no you not going with Tommy who loves to spend hundreds on strippers and who is willing to pay for you one. that how things are ran in my ship

You run a tight ship! You say you have to be invited, have you gone w/ him before?

 

[LocksOfLuV]

You run a tight ship! You say you have to be invited, have you gone w/ him before?

No, but I would. I actually want to go, but he only went once but I was in my stuck-up mode then. Seriously if he went inow would want to go-now people am going to think I am a gay perv now.

 

[breezy]

No, but I would. I actually want to go, but he only went once but I was in my stuck-up mode then. Seriously if he went inow would want to go-now people am going to think I am a gay perv now.

Ok, I'll be a gay perv w/ you then. I go with dh sometimes. It's no big deal. To us it's just like going out to a regular club and having drinks, there are just girls dancing there. To be honest, sometimes I see more at a normal club than I would at a strip club. Besides, it's always fun to go pick up tips

 

[SUPER SWEET]

I wouldn't mind him doing every once in a while. But he's so cheap he wouldnt spend that much money the dancers wouldnt be impressed with his tipping. I'm sure for his bachelor party he will go and not stay long. He's just not into that lifestyle.

 

[Arcadian]

I don't care if he goes at all. he may go once or twice a yuear because he gets roped into going on occassion which is ok with me.

I figure it like this; he gets total permission from me to go, he bet not ever say I can't do the same.

I remember ages ago my mother would go to male reviews with her friends. My father would give her a kiss and tell her "don't spend all your money on just one guy" and let her go on and have her fun.

To me its about trust. I trust who I'm with so I don't sweat it.


-A

 

[mermaid]

I don't like it.
I danced in clubs for 10 years and I know for a FACT a normally good man's personality changes in the club and suddenly he don't care if he got a woman at home.
No. Thank. You.

 

[pebbles]

I don't like it.
I danced in clubs for 10 years and I know for a FACT a normally good man's personality changes in the club and suddenly he don't care if he got a woman at home.
No. Thank. You.

I agree with you. Why expose him to that? If one day you discover that he's been having an affair, could you really be mad at him and wonder what happened? You were cool with letting him frequent a strip club.

 

[breezy]

I agree with you. Why expose him to that? If one day you discover that he's been having an affair, could you really be mad at him and wonder what happened? You were cool with letting him frequent a strip club.

But Pebbles, like it was said in the other thread, he wouldn't have an affair if he loved you, right? No matter how many strippers were thrown in his face, someone who loves you wouldn't cheat?

 

[LocksOfLuV]

I don't like it.
I danced in clubs for 10 years and I know for a FACT a normally good man's personality changes in the club and suddenly he don't care if he got a woman at home.
No. Thank. You.

MY SO will argue you down until you are blue in the face with this point. I see where you are coming from though but I don't think your nec right about every good guy.

 

[WhipEffectz1]

Ok, I'll be a gay perv w/ you then. I go with dh sometimes. It's no big deal. To us it's just like going out to a regular club and having drinks, there are just girls dancing there. To be honest, sometimes I see more at a normal club than I would at a strip club. Besides, it's always fun to go pick up tips

Sure, its nothing wrong with going.

 

[breezy]

MY SO will argue you down until you are blue in the face with this point. I see where you are coming from though but I don't think your nec right about every good guy.

So will dh, but sometimes I think he likes to argue for the sake of arguing But I do think that what Mermaid says is true for a lot of men.

 

[LocksOfLuV]

I agree with you. Why expose him to that? If one day you discover that he's been having an affair, could you really be mad at him and wonder what happened? You were cool with letting him frequent a strip club.

No offense to Mermaid or anyone else who danced, but most of these strippers are kinda erplexed <--looking.

If a man is willing to sleep with a women who OBVIOUSLY he doesn't know where she been then given ANY opportunity he will cheat.

 

[pebbles]

But Pebbles, like it was said in the other thread, he wouldn't have an affair if he loved you, right? No matter how many strippers were thrown in his face, someone who loves you wouldn't cheat?

Wrong!! This is what I was talking about. Stuff happens. Why set the wheel in motion by tempting him with the naked flesh of other women? I say keep the man home. If he needs to see a show, you give him one!

 

[WhipEffectz1]

I agree with you. Why expose him to that? If one day you discover that he's been having an affair, could you really be mad at him and wonder what happened? You were cool with letting him frequent a strip club.

Yea, men will cheat with strippers, doctors, lawyers, fast food workers, secretaries, nurses, etc. How can a person be kept from cheating? Imo, if its in their heart then they will cheat no matter the scenario.

 

[breezy]

Wrong!! This is what I was talking about. Stuff happens. Why set the wheel in motion by tempting him with the naked flesh of other women? I say keep the man home. If he needs to see a show, you give him one!

Hey, it's always fun to go to the club, see a show, then go home and put on your own....makes for a very fun night indeed!

 

[breezy]

No offense to Mermaid or anyone else who danced, but most of these strippers are kinda erplexed <--looking.

If a man is willing to sleep with a women who OBVIOUSLY he doesn't know where she been then given ANY opportunity he will cheat.

Girl....especially in Dayton...some of those chicks are beat! When I was "considering" doing that, I was thinking, man I'll make all the money, cuz I look like Tyra Banks compared to these chicks!

 

[WhipEffectz1]

No offense to Mermaid or anyone else who danced, but most of these strippers are kinda erplexed <--looking.

If a man is willing to sleep with a women who OBVIOUSLY he doesn't know where she been then given ANY opportunity he will cheat.

Yea, there are not as many beauty queens in the industry as people may suspect.

 

[LocksOfLuV]

Yea, men will cheat with strippers, doctors, lawyers, fast food workers, secretaries, nurses, etc. How can a person be kept from cheating? Imo, if its in their heart then they will cheat no matter the scenario.

i agree, that's like not allowing your SO to shower with the guys in the locker room because of the 'nekked flesh' he is seeing he may cheat. truth be told yes he will cheat if he is gay+ a cheater. my point is he has to have it in his heart in the first place.

 

[pebbles]

No offense to Mermaid or anyone else who danced, but most of these strippers are kinda erplexed <--looking.

If a man is willing to sleep with a women who OBVIOUSLY he doesn't know where she been then given ANY opportunity he will cheat.

Maybe some look like that, but a lot of them look hot! We're talking about men here, ladies! A lot of men aren't looking at her face. They don't want a long term relationship, they just want some If her body looks good that's all the encouragement they need. It doesn't matter what the woman looks like. Men don't need much to make them cheat, why push them towards it. Keep him home!

 

[LocksOfLuV]

Girl....especially in Dayton...some of those chicks are beat! When I was "considering" doing that, I was thinking, man I'll make all the money, cuz I look like Tyra Banks compared to these chicks!

DAYTON has str8 RATS! Yuck! I know a few strippers form there and they are -> erplexed looking.