carolinetwin
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My friends and I went through our mid to late 20's as single women. We turned "that age" ya know - the big 30 and like most women who've dine the education and career thing we wanted to be married.
We bemoaned our single status for years, but we probably were not too bothered. We experienced our heat ages, our holidays, our work issues etc together.
Then I found a man...quite by accident really, not that I wasn't looking, I just found a man who I probably wouldn't have considered marriage material.
I'm happy, and I know they are happy for me, but I keep getting the hints that they feel I'm abandoning them and I only call when there is a problem.
This hurts my feelings and is not true as I make time for them through daily phone calls and I meet up with them when I can, but I also have to see my family too, so I don't always have time to see them or hang out.
In fact, I realise that I just don't enjoy bars ...not that I did especially before, but less so now that I'm older. Plus, I don't drink and watching others get merry is not my idea of fun.
When I told them I see my SO every weekend - I was greeted with " that's too much and you need to make time for other people" or sometimes I get " No one heard from you this weekend, I take it you were loving up your husband" or "Oh you didn't see your SO this weekend...at least you have time for you again" (the last one was said as a result of my saying spending so much time with my SO doesn't give me time for me"
Now I know if it was them, I wouldn't hear from them and neither would they give up time with their SO to be with me, like I have done on several occasions.
My SO is pretty understanding and does encourage me to spend more time with them, but I feel like most of these comments are coming from a place of jealousy. To a degree I can understand, but it's making me feel like I can't be happy or tell them exciting things that happen between us
I'm just ranting...I love my girlfriends, but I suppose I'll just have to not share my happiness
We bemoaned our single status for years, but we probably were not too bothered. We experienced our heat ages, our holidays, our work issues etc together.
Then I found a man...quite by accident really, not that I wasn't looking, I just found a man who I probably wouldn't have considered marriage material.
I'm happy, and I know they are happy for me, but I keep getting the hints that they feel I'm abandoning them and I only call when there is a problem.
This hurts my feelings and is not true as I make time for them through daily phone calls and I meet up with them when I can, but I also have to see my family too, so I don't always have time to see them or hang out.
In fact, I realise that I just don't enjoy bars ...not that I did especially before, but less so now that I'm older. Plus, I don't drink and watching others get merry is not my idea of fun.
When I told them I see my SO every weekend - I was greeted with " that's too much and you need to make time for other people" or sometimes I get " No one heard from you this weekend, I take it you were loving up your husband" or "Oh you didn't see your SO this weekend...at least you have time for you again" (the last one was said as a result of my saying spending so much time with my SO doesn't give me time for me"
Now I know if it was them, I wouldn't hear from them and neither would they give up time with their SO to be with me, like I have done on several occasions.
My SO is pretty understanding and does encourage me to spend more time with them, but I feel like most of these comments are coming from a place of jealousy. To a degree I can understand, but it's making me feel like I can't be happy or tell them exciting things that happen between us
I'm just ranting...I love my girlfriends, but I suppose I'll just have to not share my happiness