Enyo
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UPDATED 2/11/19
So we went to dinner lunch and she seemed to be happy to have some company. The only things she mentioned about her husband was that he does most of the cooking because he likes his food a certain way. One thing I found interesting was that she "felt bad" about it because she thought that "as a wife and mother I should be doing more cooking". She also said that her husband is helpful with the baby. I'm still not sure why she didn't want to talk around her husband because she basically said he's really helpful and doesn't put everything on her. There has to be something else going on. I'm gonna dig up some more info.
It seems she's fine with the occasional text, which I can do. I'll just add her to my rotation.
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Said associate texted this past Saturday and asked if she could call me later on in the day. I said yes, but didn't hear back from her for the rest of the day, so the next afternoon I texted her and asked if she still wanted to speak with me. She said that she did, but wanted to talk during her commute on Monday. I was worried her home situation had turned sour because she clearly did not want to talk at home. One she arrived home, she said she had to get off the phone. This made me uncomfortable.
She told me that her friends had basically abandoned her which baffled me because she had so many of them. When I was on FB, she'd post tons of pictures surrounded by people, including church friends. She explained that she'd ask them to text her once in a while or even come by because she's been feeling really isolated, but they did so for a few months but just stopped. It must be bad if she's pulling in her second-string associates like me. We are having lunch this Sunday.
I have two questions. The first is to wonder of this is normal for friends to just stop talking to folks because they have a kid. The baby is only 1 years old. Still cute enough to warrant stopping by to see him. Even if they don't want to come by, folks can't text a meme or just asking what's going on with her new job or the baby? Seems weird.
Question 2: How can I support her? I figured she doesn't want to complain to her husband which is why she wanted to talk in private. Any ideas as to why?
Thank you.
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So an associate of mine is married and pregnant by a man 23 years her senior (she's 30, he's 53). She told me that she has to go back to work 6 weeks after the birth because they can't afford any extra time. I just wanted to ask you ladies if I'm wrong in assuming a man of that age should have enough savings to cover at least 2 or 3 months so she can stay home. Like, what's in his retirement fund?? Please advise because whenever I get asked by older men they have funds.
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So we went to dinner lunch and she seemed to be happy to have some company. The only things she mentioned about her husband was that he does most of the cooking because he likes his food a certain way. One thing I found interesting was that she "felt bad" about it because she thought that "as a wife and mother I should be doing more cooking". She also said that her husband is helpful with the baby. I'm still not sure why she didn't want to talk around her husband because she basically said he's really helpful and doesn't put everything on her. There has to be something else going on. I'm gonna dig up some more info.
It seems she's fine with the occasional text, which I can do. I'll just add her to my rotation.
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Said associate texted this past Saturday and asked if she could call me later on in the day. I said yes, but didn't hear back from her for the rest of the day, so the next afternoon I texted her and asked if she still wanted to speak with me. She said that she did, but wanted to talk during her commute on Monday. I was worried her home situation had turned sour because she clearly did not want to talk at home. One she arrived home, she said she had to get off the phone. This made me uncomfortable.
She told me that her friends had basically abandoned her which baffled me because she had so many of them. When I was on FB, she'd post tons of pictures surrounded by people, including church friends. She explained that she'd ask them to text her once in a while or even come by because she's been feeling really isolated, but they did so for a few months but just stopped. It must be bad if she's pulling in her second-string associates like me. We are having lunch this Sunday.
I have two questions. The first is to wonder of this is normal for friends to just stop talking to folks because they have a kid. The baby is only 1 years old. Still cute enough to warrant stopping by to see him. Even if they don't want to come by, folks can't text a meme or just asking what's going on with her new job or the baby? Seems weird.
Question 2: How can I support her? I figured she doesn't want to complain to her husband which is why she wanted to talk in private. Any ideas as to why?
Thank you.
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So an associate of mine is married and pregnant by a man 23 years her senior (she's 30, he's 53). She told me that she has to go back to work 6 weeks after the birth because they can't afford any extra time. I just wanted to ask you ladies if I'm wrong in assuming a man of that age should have enough savings to cover at least 2 or 3 months so she can stay home. Like, what's in his retirement fund?? Please advise because whenever I get asked by older men they have funds.
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