Kinkyhairlady
Well-Known Member
This is what a male friend said to me tonight and since then I've been thinking. I've posted on here several times about my not so great choices in people I've dated and as I reflect I'm not even sure what I did wrong but I just ended up dealing with the wrong kind. This friend tells me I could have been married but I'm lazy And make so much excuses that I let other women pass in front of me and marry the men I was taking my time choosing. Is that wrong that I like to take my time? He said I think to much and analyze too much and men don't have time for women like that. It is true I don't act fast but it has a lot to do with fear and me trying to not get hurt but he's right some other woman is usually available and ready and swoops in to take my place and I'm left alone.
What do you ladies think about that? On this board I see a lot of comments about women calling others thirsty etc because they see another going that extra mile to land a husband but I see women that do that typically succeed and the ones being reserved are left still waiting. Should we be more aggressive in a sense? Should we being doing the chase? I have such a shy and quiet personality I'm not even sure it's in my character to put that much effort to land a husband but the ones approaching are really not cutting it. As it older I'm getting frustrated and watching everyone settle down and start their families is really depressing for me cause I feel it's such a huge accomplishment that I have yet to master. It makes me wonder why I'm not good enough but then I see those woman had means to go that extra mile and I didn't. I want to be happy and think positive thoughts but it's not working.
What do you ladies think about that? On this board I see a lot of comments about women calling others thirsty etc because they see another going that extra mile to land a husband but I see women that do that typically succeed and the ones being reserved are left still waiting. Should we be more aggressive in a sense? Should we being doing the chase? I have such a shy and quiet personality I'm not even sure it's in my character to put that much effort to land a husband but the ones approaching are really not cutting it. As it older I'm getting frustrated and watching everyone settle down and start their families is really depressing for me cause I feel it's such a huge accomplishment that I have yet to master. It makes me wonder why I'm not good enough but then I see those woman had means to go that extra mile and I didn't. I want to be happy and think positive thoughts but it's not working.