You Found Condoms In Dh's Car

[dancinstallion]

And ya'll don't use condoms.

What would you say or do?

 

[CarefreeinChicago]

I am flipping out

 

[lavaflow99]

A discussion/interrogation is to be had ASAP.

He may or may not survive it.

 

[GraceJones]

TBH I wouldn't say anything. I would observe and collect information because I may need it in my divorce

 

[intellectualuva]

TBH I wouldn't say anything. I would observe and collect information because I may need it in my divorce

Same. Observe and report.

 

[007PMP]

I’d take them in the house, put them in his nightstand and that night initiate sex and before insertion ask him to grab one of his condoms from the nightstand. Then proceed to lay him like never before...he’d be mentally jacked up afterwards and I wouldn’t say or do chit

 

[IslandMummy]

TBH I wouldn't say anything. I would observe and collect information because I may need it in my divorce

Oh, so not a nail or three in his tires that cause an accident so you can skip the divorce bit and just collect the life insurance?

I can see how that works too.

 

[lesedi]

I’d take them in the house, put them in his nightstand and that night initiate sex and before insertion ask him to grab one of his condoms from the nightstand. Then proceed to lay him like never before...he’d be mentally jacked up afterwards and I wouldn’t say or do chit

Yasssss mess his mind up

 

[GraceJones]

Oh, so not a nail or three in his tires that cause an accident so you can skip the divorce bit and just collect the life insurance?

I can see how that works too.

lmaooo

No, you might go to prison for that

 

[JudithO]

I'd ask why he has condoms in the car. DH is a terrible lair and would come clean regardless of what it is. Plan my next move from there.

 

[Ms. Tarabotti]

Nobody else borrows or rides in the car? They couldn't belong to someone else?

 

[kupenda]

It would depend on if any of his other actions have been suspect. Has he been less available, “busy”, working overtime etc?
Although the condoms would infuriate me, I wouldn’t make a move until I was able to think clearly. I would take a picture of the condoms and leave them right where I saw them

 

[IslandMummy]

lmaooo

No, you might go to prison for that

Nails cause slow leaks much better than an outright slash or tampering with breaks

 

[lesedi]

Nails cause slow leaks much better than an outright slash or tampering with breaks

Can you stop? I don't want Islandbaby learning your ways

 

[LiftedUp]

I would confront him them plan my next move. I don't need to hide the fact that I saw what I saw before initiating a divorce. Especially if it goes to mediation for certain aspects, it'll look like I have a communication issue.

 

[IslandMummy]

Can you stop? I don't want Islandbaby learning your ways

Better the poor thing learn now.

 

[Transformer]

Houston we have a problem.

Is there a teenage son or nephew? Is he volunteering for a Big Brother program?

If the answer to one of the above questions is not yes....you have the option to pretend to be dumb. I'm the confrontational type with my spouse and I need to know.

 

[Pat Mahurr]

Are you ok, OP?

 

[BrownSkin2]

OP, do you have a teenager? If not, I like the idea of observe and collect information.

 

[tolly]

I don’t think I would be capable of logical planning. Probably confront him... not sure where I would go from there.
For me personally- cheating isn’t automatically a deal breaker. I am neither a doormat nor a fool. But the way life is set up presently - I wouldn’t opt for a separation or divorce unless he is actually physically violent.
I hope this isn’t you, if it is how are you coping? Take good care of yourself

 

[Crackers Phinn]

There's times for plots and intrigues but this is pretty straight forward. If it ain't but two of us driving, I'd just ask him why there were condoms in the car. I'd be very interested in the answer.

 

[dancinstallion]

Nobody else borrows or rides in the car? They couldn't belong to someone else?

just you and dh ride in the car. The condoms are same kind you all used to use over a year and a half ago so more than likely they came from your house. And no yall dont have sex in the car or anywhere else.

The condoms are two years old because they expire in 3 years.

 

[dancinstallion]

Are you ok, OP?

I'm ok, thanks for asking.

 

[kupenda]

I hope you’re ok OP

I would be planning my next move in detail

 

[kimpaur]

Best thing to do is just ask and see what he says.

 

[movingforward13]

I would start reading at www.survivinginfidelity.com and formulate a plan IF there wasn’t a chance the condoms weren’t someone else’s.

 

[Pat Mahurr]

Best thing to do is just ask and see what he says.

Agreed.

 

[SweetNic_JA]

Put a hidden camera in the car. I.e. a camera pen.

 

[007PMP]

I wanna say more but I won’t.

Sometimes the most emotionally shocking things can be the very opportunity to propel two people forward—it just depends on how well anchored they are together.

 

[007PMP]

I'd ask why he has condoms in the car. DH is a terrible lair and would come clean regardless of what it is. Plan my next move from there.

Why ask the obvious? He’s a man, not a child...a possible cheat yes; but not a child. What we have in front of us is a grown man who possibly made a decision to have sex (or not) with another grown person.

There’s no need in asking obvious—it’s easy to plan and plot an out but harder to harness reality and meet him right where he is at (the root) as his wife.