Now be honest.
I know validation is supposed to come from within, but if men didn't compliment you, stare at you, flirt with you, and ask you out on a daily basis would it make you question your beauty?
Also, what do you think comes first: you get attention from men, and then you feel beautiful ... or you feel beautiful, and then you get attention from men?
Also, advice for those who feel beautiful but still aren't getting attention from men. What could be the issue?
If men didn't compliment you, stare at you, flirt with you, and ask you out on a daily basis would it make you question your beauty?
Naah, not for real. I like sincere compliments as much as the next chic but no, it wouldn't at this point in life. As a Christian, I base my self worth on what God has said about me.
What do you think comes first? You should feel beautiful then the men are drawn to you, even when you rockin a t-shirt and sneakers w/o makeup.
What could be the issue? It could be a lot of stuff
erplexed. Here's a general list my male friends shared once about things they find most attractive in a woman.
Quiet confidence conveyed through body posture, a nice smile, gracefulness- (Ladylike not dumb blond helplessness. Do you know where your spare tire is?) Not you gotta shut up quiet but
I got this & I'own need to prove nothing to you boo quietness.
Intelligence- be well rounded. Ok, so you from NY or LA but you ain't neva been no where else, um okay
A portionate body- not perfect
Clean, neat appearance- look like you give a durn
regardless to labels
Displays the type of strength only women can by knowing when it's time to speak up and when to remain silent until it is time to speak up
.
Can you cook something that did not come out of a box and require water to be stirred in? No, you don't have to be an iron chef, you don't need to be in the kitchen slaving over the hot stove sporting a thong under your apron while he's off burping and holdin the remote but, dudes gotta eat too. At some point in time, your stomach will get you out of the bed tho.
Does not try to out manly her man. Sure we are equal
but we are also different
. I mean hammers and screw drivers are equally tools but who would purchase a home where the only tool used was a screwdriver
? Who would engage in a debate on which tool had more merit and value between the two? Likewise, it is silly to try to do that with men. And yes, I know what mama 'nem had said.
Just look at how well that worked out for them.
And yes.... (I know we live in a time of FWB and all that vajaay/peen sharing and just cause I'm loud, foul mouthed, and everybody can easily identify all of my body parts cause I constantly put them on display just cause I can that's how I am jazz) the vast majority of men still have women in 2 categories. The ones that are fine for temp use
and the ones that are wife material
. No amount of convo/ time/ evolution/ revolution is going to change that in a true alpha male. There are always exceptions to the rule but usually females that are doing all of that (unless they just don't know better) to garner attention are the most insecure and therefore unapproachable/ unappealing unless, depression, drugs & alcohol, or boredom are present in the male.
Seriously, you girls are awesome and you deserve better.