coachchica
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I married one! We both discussed religion early on ( benefit of ldr, lots of late night conversations) so we knew we were on the same page.
This post raised my eyebrows. No one should break down and adjust her standards because she can't find the right man for her right now. Is there something so wrong with continuing to search? Possibly change up one's strategy and not one's standards? Some people don't meet Mr. Right until their late 30s or 40s. What's so wrong with that if it's worth the wait?
I just caught this part when seeing it quoted in another post. I swear I hear so many negative things about Atlanta...that mess is scary as all get out. But I know as a straight woman, nothing could ever make me become otherwise. If I was single and things were that disappointing, I'd leave.
I'm noticing this as well, but didn't want to bring it up since it might offend some.
But, for the topic, I'm open to giving dating an atheist a try if he is one of the few atheists who isn't disrespectful against Christians/Christianity. I'm not sure how far it will go. I'm more spiritual than Christian, but I need a person who is respectful of all religions, not just pick and choose.
I married one! We both discussed religion early on ( benefit of ldr, lots of late night conversations) so we knew we were on the same page.
Girl you know some women think it's the end of the world if they are by themselves and don't have a man...they start making all kinds of concessions so they can say "at least I got a man..." Or in this case, a stud...I guess it's hard out here for a single person.
I don't see this type of behavior in a lot of men though...if a woman is not what they are looking for, they don't continue wasting time with her, unless there is some other ulterior motive (i.e. low self-esteem, no confidence, etc). They keep it pushing until they find a suitable mate.
shortycocoa said:It got to the point where finally when I was SEVEN years old and in the second grade one morning my mom got me up and told me to get ready for church and I point blank told her I wasn't going and that was the end of that.
Tell me about it. Most men are so quick to drop a woman (e.g., she won't have sex, she gained some weight, she has kids, she's not cute anymore, she's getting on my nerves, etc.).
I can totally relate!!!!!
Somewhere around the same age, my mom was forcing me to say my prayers and also trying to get me to go to Sunday school. One night she told me to say my prayers, I said no, she said yes, I said no, she said yes and I said no. She looked at me and fell out laughing. That's the last I heard about anything involving the book of great stories.
In college I felt the pressure to be Christian, to go to church etc. so I tried and it felt disingenuous. I'd be giving folks the side eye the whole session. I just simply let it go. I'm much more interested in other world views.
I must say I find it quite refreshing to hear some of you ladies (I'm assuming of color) with such views. I thought it was taboo in the AA community. Maybe that's changing?
I can see the devout praying on this thread now! Lol
You don't really know him know him yet if you've only been dating a month. If your belief system is of importance, his lack of one will be an issue one day if you guys were to marry and have children. Hopefully he is open to attending services with you and getting to know your religion.Theo, we've been dating for a month.
Girl did you come in here and edit this post? Because there was another 2 statements that made me LMAO this morning while I was getting ready for work, and I made it a point to come to this and reply and now I don't see it....but those last 2 statements were funny as hell!!!!!
I can totally relate!!!!!
Somewhere around the same age, my mom was forcing me to say my prayers and also trying to get me to go to Sunday school. One night she told me to say my prayers, I said no, she said yes, I said no, she said yes and I said no. She looked at me and fell out laughing. That's the last I heard about anything involving the book of great stories.
In college I felt the pressure to be Christian, to go to church etc. so I tried and it felt disingenuous. I'd be giving folks the side eye the whole session. I just simply let it go. I'm much more interested in other world views.
I must say I find it quite refreshing to hear some of you ladies (I'm assuming of color) with such views. I thought it was taboo in the AA community. Maybe that's changing?
I can see the devout praying on this thread now! Lol
But back to the topic. I probably wouldn't date an Atheist..but I would an Agnostic.
loolalooh said:Tell me about it. Most men are so quick to drop a woman (e.g., she won't have sex, she gained some weight, she has kids, she's not cute anymore, she's getting on my nerves, etc.).
LunadeMiel said:I everytime I hear someone say oh, when I started learning about the sciences/thinking critically I stopped believing in God People's arrogance amuse me.
To answer the OP: absolutely not.
I everytime I hear someone say oh, when I started learning about the sciences/thinking critically I stopped believing in God People's arrogance amuse me.
To answer the OP: absolutely not.
Arrogance= education? okay...I guess I'm one of the arrogant ones. The purpose of religion was to explain phenomena that could not be explained at the time without the introduction of an outside force. The tide comes in everyday at the same time...that's got to be the work of Titan... Some just think it would be archaic to still believe this when it's scientifically proven via empirical evidence that the moon influences the tides of the oceans.
Things were surprisingly respectful in here, up until that comment. Hopefully the thread won't be derailed with immaturity and
MsSanz92 said:Yep I would then again I'm very anti-religion. In fact I probably couldn't marry anyone very/moderately religious of any form but especially not Christianity.
i'm non-religious and even though i find 90% of Christians intolerable i could date one. he'd have to be a back slider though. someone who wasn't too serious about it (never goes to church, fornicates, curses, etc.)
You're a Christian? You're not a very good one if you are dating an atheist but this doesn't surprise me, as most Christians I come across pick-and-choose in various ways
i'm seeing a Christian dood right now. this morning he was like ''i'm going to go home and shower and then go to church. will you come to church with me sometime?'' i was like ''naaah, i'm good.''
It's interesting that religion is assumed to be the default...
For a while I was an agnostic who spoke out about the ills of organised religion- war, genocide, terrorism, hypocrisy, sloth all come out of it. Really getting into science (bio, physics, chem) and thinking critically led me to full blown atheism and I've never looked back.
because the ideas of a man living in the clouds/life after death/creationism make no sense and directly contradict science on earth. probably everyone shouldnt believe in a god once they get on an airplane and i dont think it's consistent to accept all the truths of science in everyday life but still believe in the supernatural.
the biggest nail in the coffin is the fact that christianity is in direct conflict with the existence of dinosaurs/the age of the planet. what more evidence do you need? also i was definitely done when i learned that christianity is nothing but a rip off of ancient egyptian stories.
I devoted almost two years of my life to studying religion from a secular perspective. When your emotions and psychological needs aren't tied into what you're reading, it's very hard to take it seriously. I now feel that religion and the supernatural is something that, as we evolve, we will outgrow. Even now, we see that societies that are the most secular are often the most stable and secure. America is the only country that bucks that trend.
We often chuckle at the superstitions of people who lived a few centuries ago, and I truly believe that in a few hundred years, our ancestors will be chuckling at us for the exact same reason. It's impossible to believe in religion and gods once you start to come to see that it's not born from truth, rather, it's born from a deep emotional and psychological need to make sense of what seems senseless, to feel protected, and sometimes to feel superior to others.
yep, i need for christians to understand that there is a difference between being moral vs ethical and religious vs spiritual. i know many atheists that are about treating people with respect, kindness, and dignity because its the right thing to do, not because they are scared of going to hell. meanwhile i know christians that treat people like ish cause they are not christian and are only polite and well behaved on they days they go to church and the holiday season. i'm not atheist but don't subscribe to any religious restrictions.....i am a spiritual person.
Arrogance= education? okay...I guess I'm one of the arrogant ones. The purpose of religion was to explain phenomena that could not be explained at the time without the introduction of an outside force. The tide comes in everyday at the same time...that's got to be the work of Titan... Some just think it would be archaic to still believe this when it's scientifically proven via empirical evidence that the moon influences the tides of the oceans.
I find it arrogant to assume that other believe in God because they don't know the basics of science or lack critical thinking skills (if it isn't what you meant than my apologies). Modern science is a few hundred years old at best... Science is still at it's infancy (By the way I too believe a lot of the things in the bible can be explained through science) yet people are using what we know know to try an refute what has been sustained for thousands of years <-- No I'm not saying because it's old it's right. A lot of of theories (yes, even the Big bang is a theory), have yet to be proven, yet people take them as absplutes, which is amusing in itself. Whenever I hear an atheist says that (yes, I have conversations with Atheist outside of this board and my comment wasn't only directed at what's here), it's always said with arrogance, as thought others haven't learned or pondered the same things. It's possible to learn the same thing yet come to different conclusions (even in science... see super string theory).
In any case I don't like having conversations with Theist and Atheist because people who speak in absolutes make me itch. Not a one person in this world knows 100% sure what is what.
You can not believe in something and still believe it has value, and is beautiful.
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