Thanks for the help though. 
My first guess would be gay before impotent too.[/quote]
Are you serious??? I mean, I'm usually good at detecting gay men..he doesn't seem gay AT ALL to me. I mean, AT ALL. Of course it always can be a possibility. Now my curiousity is killing me. I'm not going to know the truth until he really trusts me.
I know folks claim to have foolproof gaydar, but you really can't know just by looking sometimes. There are some people who really hide it well.
If he's not gay, I would leave him alone anyway, because he would have to have very serious psychological issues not to want to have sex. I've learned over the years not to underestimate the power of the male sex drive.
I'm asking because there is this guy that is interested in me. I have a feeling he has a MAJOR insecurity and it's past emotional scars, I think he may be impotent. He has EVERYTHING going on for him but knowing this, I'm not sure if I want to go into a deeper relationship w/ him. I know there is medication out there for this but I'm not sure how severe it is. Again, I'm not 100% sure that this is his problem but all his actions point in that direction.erplexed
Would you date a guy that was impotent? Does anyone know someone that is impotent?
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Well, he hasnt' really but all the sign are there. He wants to pursue but yet he stops dead in his tracks yet he gives me signs that he wants to. He doesn't have a girlfriend for sure and he's not gay. He's very good looking and yet he doesn't even play around as men usually do (for sex). So when I asked about 3 different men what they thought, they said he has some kind of insecurity...most probably concerning sex. Whether he's impotent or not I don't know but I know that even a man that was hurt emotioinally will still hunt a girl for sex at least. He doesn't do that at all with anyone, he mostly stays to himself.
No, he's not a virgin from what his friend tells me (cause he said he had ONE girlfriend in college). He's a christian but not too religious. I mean, he was a football player in college and only had one girlfriend that his good friend knows of in his whole life. He's 31 for goodness sakes.
Even my brother the most nicest guy loves women & sex.
Well, he did tell me that he's single cause he's scared. But he never said why he was scared. I'm not sure if he was abused or anything. I know of ONE girlfriend but I'm not sure what happened with that.
SERIOUSLY, this sounds JUST LIKE a guy I dated in college!! (I know it's not the same person, though, because the guy I dated didn't play football 
.) He was very attractive, got plenty of attention from the ladies, but ALWAYS found some nonsense reason to break things off with women... something about not wanting to date a girl unless he was sure she was the "one". 
In my case performance and size weren't the issues, emotional baggage was. Based on what you say above, I think fearing impotency is jumping the gun a bit. I wouldn't be surprised if he has an insecurity, but I'd guess that it had more to do with him not wanting to get caught up in drama or not trusting his own judgement than anything else. Men with commitment or confidence issues can avoid the HECK out of women.
Well, he hasnt' really but all the sign are there. He wants to pursue but yet he stops dead in his tracks yet he gives me signs that he wants to. He doesn't have a girlfriend for sure and he's not gay. He's very good looking and yet he doesn't even play around as men usually do (for sex). So when I asked about 3 different men what they thought, they said he has some kind of insecurity...most probably concerning sex. Whether he's impotent or not I don't know but I know that even a man that was hurt emotioinally will still hunt a girl for sex at least. He doesn't do that at all with anyone, he mostly stays to himself.
Yeah, impotency is a bit of a jump..wouldn't of thought it until people suggested it.erplexed
WOW, thanks for a different perspective.
So..men can really be that afraid that they just avoid women period, huh? Interesting.
So, how would you suggest I should deal w/ him then if this is the case? It seems like he wants me to make ALL the moves, he's so scared but I'm an old fashioned girl. I like the man to be the MAN and pursue.
erplexed I've even tried hooking him up but he backs out. So now, he's acting one minute like he's about to pursue then the next minute backs up. I just dont get it. 
I really like him cause he's a great guy but he has issues that i don't understand. So maybe the best thing is to just leave it alone.
Oh, I could tell you some STORIES!!! I wouldn't have believed it if I hadn't seen it for myself.WOW, thanks for a different perspective.
So..men can really be that afraid that they just avoid women period, huh? Interesting.
So, how would you suggest I should deal w/ him then if this is the case? It seems like he wants me to make ALL the moves, he's so scared but I'm an old fashioned girl. I like the man to be the MAN and pursue.
As far as this guy goes, I think you should spend your time on someone who is more appealing to you. He might be cute, but if he's rubbing you the wrong way, it's probably not going to be the best situation.
No, he's not a virgin from what his friend tells me (cause he said he had ONE girlfriend in college). He's a christian but not too religious. I mean, he was a football player in college and only had one girlfriend that his good friend knows of in his whole life. He's 31 for goodness sakes.
Even my brother the most nicest guy loves women & sex.
